<p>I was anxiously waiting to get the mail since I expected to receive some decisions today. I found out online that I got waitlisted...and then the first letter I read is another waitlist. So when I saw a second letter in the mail, I really wasn't expecting to get a big package!</p>
<p>I'm super excited, it's an awesomeee feeling. But do you ever feel guilty about getting in? Or doubt if you deserve it? I was on CC and it's so sad to see that ppl with higher stats were wl or even rejected...I wish the other person AND I could have gotten in...</p>
<p>Anyways sorry just had to ask if anyone is in the same boat. I started telling my parents this and they called me crazy haha.</p>
<p>I’m only a junior, but I can certainly sympathize–it just means you’re a considerate person, who believes in the value of merit for every person like you, there exists many others who relish in the exclusion of their peers.</p>
<p>I know how you feel completely! All the UC admissions have come out in the last couple of weeks, and pretty much all my friends applied, as did I. I got into every school I applied to (UCLA, UCSB, UCSC, UCSD, and Berkeley) but I feel awful because I have friends that got rejected from even Santa Cruz. I probably won’t even go to any of those except maybe UCLA, so part of me feels like I’m stealing spots from people who really want to go to SC or SD or SB…it’s definitely more of an awkward process than I realized! Regardless, I think everyone has the right to celebrate their acceptances, and if you got in to a school, then it wasn’t a mistake; you completely deserve it! Feel proud of yourself and your accomplishments, and think about how great you’ll feel on May 1st when you and all your friends have chosen where you’re all going to be for the next 4 years. This month might be a bit anxiety-inducing, but once everyone is settled you’ll feel a lot better about everything Congrats on your acceptance and good luck with the rest of your decisions!</p>
<p>yes.
I am from northern Va and I feel guilty about my safety.
I got into Michigan, UVa, WakeForest, and GaTech.</p>
<p>I kinda feel guilty about applying to VaTech. Many of my very close friends have been rejected or wait-listed from VaTech, and I used it as a safety. I know that it’s not really my fault that they got rejected, but it sure feels that way.
I don’t think that is what you where talking about, though.</p>
<p>Once you make your decision and turn down the schools you are not going to attend, they will turn to their wait lists. So there’s no need to feel guilty. No matter how many schools you apply to, you’re not ultimately taking up more than one spot in the college universe, so you’re not taking anything away from anyone.</p>
<p>I don’t feel guilty with regards to people I don’t know. However, I do feel a bit guilty with regards to my classmates, as top schools compare applicants from the same high school, and I have been admitted to schools I may or may not attend, whereas classmates for whom those schools were their first choice were rejected.</p>
<p>I get what you mean suburiboy (and redseven). I was in the same situation, I’m from CT so I applied to UConn (but I would be glad to attend, I like it) and my friend got rejected. It sucks because it was her dream school…but I guess I will rely on my belief that all things happen for a reason =/ lol.</p>
<p>I do feel bad for people I don’t know as well though, idk I’m just too emotional I guess haha.</p>
<p>Good point jingle…thank goodness for that =)</p>
<p>I just feel bad TELLING people that I’ve been accepted places. I didn’t apply to any ivies, but I’ve been accepted at Vassar, Wesleyan, and UC Berkeley in the past like week. A lot of my friends were rejected from places like Rice, Stanford, and Pomona ED and I feel bad being happy about my acceptances because they haven’t been equally exuberant about the places they’ve gotten into. I don’t mean to rub it in their faces or anything. I’m just friggin EXCITED.</p>
<p>Aww congrats! (Haha Wesleyan was one of the ones I got waitlisted for xD) That’s awesome though, I think it would be weird if you weren’t so excited!</p>
<p>Agreed with kclarevalentine as well. It’s awkward talking about acceptances with people who also applied to those schools - I try not to mention them much when others who applied were around so that I don’t seem like I’m gloating or anything. (I am, of course, still excited about them around everyone else - I just tone it down around those rejected to avoid making the pain of a rejection worse.)</p>
<p>Well I know how you feel. I just got into UCB, and I feel bad for all the people with much better stats and ECs than me getting rejected from UCLA and SD. I keep thinking about how my acceptance into UCB took away another more deserving person’s spot. I’m not really considering to go to UCB, so I’m just going to turn down the offer right away and make a more deserving waitlisted person get in.</p>
<p>Honestly, no, not at all. I worked really hard in high school. I never copied work or cheated or majorly procrastinated or handed in things late. I did everything “right” and I hardly feel like I’m cheating the system or anything.</p>
<p>I can see that being interpreted as really arrogant so sorry I can’t rephrase it better. Everybody went into the same process. If they’re going to admit someone, I’d rather it be me.</p>
<p>Yeah well I know technically it’s an equal basis, but I mean, what if that person has higher SATs or took more APs…I feel like that might make them more qualified, and that’s what makes me feel bad.</p>
<p>But yeah, I get what you mean. My hard work definitely paid off, and it makes me happy. But there’s still this niggling thought about the rest =( Haha idk, I’m weird.</p>
<p>Good pont, it can get awkward talking about acceptances. That’s why I opted for the being open about where I applied, so there’s no need for that xD Plus, rejection is part of life in the end I guess. Some times it’ll be their turn, then mine haha.</p>
<p>I guess the bottom line for me is that I need to worry about ME. The people who didn’t get in where I did most likely got in somewhere else, so I shouldn’t even worry about them.</p>
<p>I felt a little guilty when getting acceptances and merit aid from schools I had almost no interest in, because I knew it meant other kids got rejected or didn’t get offered scholarships. </p>
<p>Yes! Yes, yes, yes. I feel guilty, and I think I feel this way because I did not expect to get into any of these places. I guess I’m still asking, why me?</p>
<p>Yeah I feel guilty about applying to some schools that I basically know I am going to turn down now. I was not feeling overly optimistic and I couldn’t make up my mind where to apply so I ended up applying to a lot of schools that I absolutely love but am probably going to end up turning down because I have better offers, and I feel really bad about hurting their admission stats like that.</p>
for every person like you, there exists many others who relish in the exclusion of their peers.</p>