<p>I live in NoVA and I go to a high school that is VERY diverse. The majority of the kids there come from middle to low income families and a lot of them are very rude, crude, and insubordinant. On the other hand, I come from an upper-middle class income family. It's not that I judge by income (one of my good friends is in the low income category), but there are some distinct differences between classes that makes it hard to relate.</p>
<p>There are some kids at my school that are from high income families, but it's hard to relate to them too. Most of them are preppy, jocks, partiers, etc. I think a lot of people would categorize me as "preppy", yet I don't fit into that mold at my school because I'm not a partier.</p>
<p>The thing is, there are very distinct groups at my school: goths, drama kids, super nerds, gangsters (LOTS OF THEM!), prep/jock/partiers . . . but I don't really fit into any of them. It's not that I'm a nerd or don't have any friends, but none that are the "best friend, I can tell you anything and everything" friends.</p>
<p>Does anybody else go to a school like this and/or have this situation??? It just makes me so ready for college!!!</p>
<p>yea...I went to a Jr High like that. in one hallway, you'd see posers, skaterboys, preps, snobs, w**res, gang wannabes, nerds, geeks, the 16 year old in 7th grade...actually im being serious.</p>
<p>i hated it there. mainly it was snobs and s**ts though</p>
<p>I can sort of relate in the sense that I live in an apartment, and I'm surrounded by mansions, and that my dad makes in the low 40's and the average family is closing in on six figures, so yeah it's weird being the "poor" kid in town, but other than that I mean all my friends are great and none of them are stuck up with their money at least, and I generally get along with most of my grade, but I think that the reason I consider myself to be an outcast is because I give myself the opportunity to believe I am, if that makes sense, but other then that I think all of my friends and I have a great dynamic together.</p>
<p>My school is kind of like yours except we don't have so many "gangsters" or "goths". I mean there are some but not many, you can actually count them. Not everybody is preppy/super nerdy or drama kids. There are a lot like that but most of us are middle class normal people, some low income and we couldn't really categorize ourselves in some of the categories mentioned. I understand what you're saying though because I really can't wait until college. Some of these people I can't wait to get away from! Hahaha</p>
<p>My school is sort of divided. The majority of kids all get along/know each other/hang out, but then there are some "gangsters," a decent amount of goths, some major nerds, a group who trys just a little too hard, some kids who always look dirty (not sure if it's because they're poor or just.. gross), and probably some more. </p>
<p>It's weird for me though, none of my better friends are in any of my classes and it's been that way pretty much throughout high school. I hang out with only a few people that I actually have classes with (the rest are basically.. too nerdy and strange). Almost all of my best friends go to my school and I do feel comfortable telling them anything, only I don't hang out with them as much as I do with other people who don't go to my school and who aren't necessarily my "best friends." It's sort of an odd situation to not spend more time with best friends, but it works for me because even though they are closest to me, they aren't always the people with which I most want to hang out. </p>
<p>So, if you find you don't fit with anyone at your school, look elsewhere for people you do get along with. Try to meet people at places that will make it more likely that you share interests. </p>
<p>As far as your time at school goes, just stick with a group that you get along with well enough--be flexible, you don't have to make them your only friends. I find that in many cases it's actually better to have a best friend and people you hang out with who aren't from your same school.</p>
<p>My school's kinda like this. There are a wide variety of kids but there's no distinct popular or unpopular kids. I don't have any I'd consider as "close" friends from here, I tend to think of them more like acquaintances.</p>
<p>WAY TO PERPETUATE THE HARMS OF SOCIAL BINARIES. </p>
<p>Srry. Just wanted to say that.
I do mean that though. Why are you slapping a label on everyone's foreheads? You're determining the personality of a person by the clothes they wear. </p>
<p>"The majority of the kids there come from middle to low income families and a lot of them are very rude, crude, and insubordinant" - Have you met everyone that is from a middle to low income family from your school? If you have then it's okay for you to pass that judgement but as you've mentioned not everyone is from the same background. Just because you don't deem their behaviour appropriate doesn't mean you're better than them. </p>
<p>If you're going to relate to someone solely on the way to dress or talk, than you're obviously going to have a hard time.</p>
<p>fo shizzle. up in my hood we dont label none a da homies, but here on CCizzle its da ezist way fo my online bros and hos to kno whats goin down. yo feel me Nixxizl? pece</p>
<p>Nixxi -- no i have not met ALL of them, but a lot of them, yes. and it's not how they dress or talk, it's how they interact with others -- they walk down the halls and bump into you as if they own the place; the stare at you as if you are some kind of space creature. it's not that they are bad people or i think i'm better than them, it's just that i can't RELATE. </p>
<p>furthermore, many of these kids blatantly disprespect authority, and that just really bothers me -- and it's not just the "gangsters", it's the rich preps as well.</p>
<p>sure, not everyone is this way, but enough are to make it noticable.</p>
<p>i really like my school. it is on the not so great part of town and just so happens this is where the IB program is located. there are about 3,000 people at my school roughly 800 are in the IB program. our school is looked at as one of the best. it may be in a not great area but we don't have many problems. you can not react to people by labeling them. there was a guy at school(senior) who looked 30 and really scary. my friend accidentally bumped into him, hard not to at a school so large, and it turned out he is really nice and somewhat shy. i say stop stereotyping and start talking to people.</p>
<p>it's not that i'm trying to stereotype, but when you walk into the bathroom and there are people basically having sex on the floor or you can smell pot wafting through the hallways it's kind of hard not to look at these kids with a skeptical eye.</p>
<p>ya but that's just those people. not everyone acts like that. there's people at my school who cause problems but just because people maybe dress the same they don't act the same.</p>
<p>i totally agree with you ELLTWO, and my point isn't that everybody acts strange. i agree that clothing isn't a determinant of who someone is. and yes, many of the "drama" kids are nice, as are many of the preps, jocks, etc. My point is that because my school is so diverse the kids all try to "fit in" to a specific, very narrow group. my problem is that because these groups are so clickie, it is very hard to find a group that I can relate to. and the problem isn't really that the people are mean or bad, it's just that so many of them are so focused on fitting in in their little "comfort zone" group.</p>