<p>As a frequent visitor to this site I have found good info this year during my daughter's college search. I'm hoping for some guidance.</p>
<p>My daughter is not sure what she wants to do regarding major or schools. She has been accepted to the flagship (a top national uni), several less highly ranked state schools, and a few good LACs. She has also received a full tuition scholarship from our small town third tier state school. We can afford to pay for any of these options.</p>
<p>Honestly, the application/visit process was driven by me. My wife pays more attention to the day to day school work, but my daughter and I worked better together on her college process. I was going to stay out of it, and let my daughter do it all herself (I believe in a certain amount of self selection), but was told by multiple other parents that it was too important to leave to her. She submitted apps and essays literally minutes before deadlines, and on visits and tours has always been at the back of the pack, no questions, no opinions. I wonder if she would have applied or visited anywhere if not for my badgering. I rationalized what I felt to be my over involvement by recognizing that in our rural high school the two counselors are overworked, and a minority of students go to college. </p>
<p>She has always been a last minute student, but this year is worse. Again, I rationalized this behavior because of the multiple sports and activities. I also made a mistake in telling her that her school work and grades were her responsibility, and that as long as she was learning and getting good marks, I was satisfied. Last semester , in the final days, she pulled out A's in all but two AP classes, in which she earned Bs. Currently she has a failing grade in one AP class (34% on last AP chem test) and a couple of Ds in other classes. She is busy, and will probably make up the work, but I am concerned. The reality is that even when she has free time, she is not using it for school work.</p>
<p>In case it matters, ACT 31 (no prep), GPA 3.9 (rarely studies)</p>
<p>Here's the point of all this: I don't want her to get off to a rough start, or flunk out, and know that the warning signs were all there, and I didn't act on them. She is welcome to go to our home town third tier uni (tuition free) and transfer if she wants to, but she has a built in bias against it, mainly because less accomplished classmates are accepted there (this is not an issue for me). She says she has worked too hard (I know what your thinking) to settle for staying local.</p>
<p>I've told her she doesn't have to go to any school next year if she doesn't want to. I don't get the sense she is depressed. There are no apparent behavioral issues. She seems happy and content. </p>
<p>Your experience with this type of student, first hand or otherwise, would be appreciated.</p>