<p>I came across this post in another thread and thought I would quote it here: </p>
<p>In reinserting myself into this thread (and agreeing with Garland), I’ll start by reiterating that I think the biggest advantage to attending one of these “elite” schools is the concentration of smart, highly motivated students, which creates an environment that is a formative experience in and of itself. Can you find a similarly stimulating niche for yourself at other, less selective schools? Absolutely. The only thing missing will be the ubiquity of that vibe, which, as SBmom has said, is palpable at the schools we’re talking about. It’s like the difference between honors courses and standard courses. Are there smart kids in the standard courses? Absolutely, and they will go on to do well wherever they go. Is there a concentration of smart kids in the standard courses–that critical mass of drive, intelligence, and interest that makes a good honors course a superior experience for those who “fit?” NO.</p>
<p>Quite a few pages back, dstark asked if I, as a BU alum, felt inferior to people who attended elite schools. Well, no, I never have, and participating in CC discussions has only confirmed that sense. But I did have a half dozen friends from my HS attending Harvard at the same time I was at BU, and spent a good deal of time over there visiting and attending parties, etc. I knew many interesting people at BU, many of whom became very successful, but for anyone to claim that there is not a significant difference in what one will encounter in a Harvard dorm/classroom and what one will encounter in typical BU experiences is simply uninformed. There were downsides at Harvard too–a lack of street smarts and some serious dorkishness. But the intellectual firepower, the drive, the curiosity, were hugely noticable, as they have been in recent years during various “elite” college visits involving my children.</p>
<p>Regarding the “connections” issue–I had an interesting experience over the weekend, which is why I popped back in here. It’s just an anecdote, I hope no one will read more into it than they should, or become ticked off. I attended a funeral, and ran into one of the aforementioned friends/classmates who went to Harvard. He went on to Yale Law after that, and a very successful career in the politics/media nexus, and since my son is looking at some of those schools now (those that offer a dual major that includes music performance), I was interested in his thoughts. We had an interesting chat, but the only time he became truly animated and enthusiastic was after he asked about my daughter–“she’s at Williams??? That’s an incredible school! I think it’s the best school in country. I’ve never seen career paths like the ones I see from Williams people–their network is unbelievable.” This from a Harvard/Yale guy who knows more about networking and connectedness than anyone else I know. I don’t mean it to be an ad for Williams–I’m sure similarly-pedigreed folks can say the same thing about a lot of others schools. It was just interesting to hear from an extremely savvy and wired-in HY (albeit totally east-coast) guy that HYP weren’t necessarily the be-all and end-all of the in crowd. </p>