<p>haha, wow, I don't think this guy was that bad. But yeah, but it came to the point where the professor was talking about escape velocity and saying how, well guys "I hate to say this is easy, and it is not rocket science, but, it actually is rocket science." Then guy then made a comment trying to impress him or something, and the professor was like oh, ok so you mean to tell me, and the conversation that followed led the guy to realize he was not impressing anyone. He was just making an butt out of himself. The rest of the semester we could finally listen to the professor's lecture without any annoying commentary, lol. But yeah, your almost in college and have a lot to look foward to. Didn't you say you plan on attend a school in southern cal? I know my cousin's wife, before they were in a serious relationship, she went to school in cali, ended up meeting a guy up there, but it wasn't successful because he was too manipulative, or may I say, that he was so controling, her dad, without saying too many words, brought him down a couple of levels, lol. She ended up marrying my cousin, which they had been dating on and off, but were always friends growing up. But you just never know. Going to a diverse and large school, will give you the opportunity to meet plenty of interesting new people. You're sure to find someone. Or it might make you realize what you could of had, or didn't realize what was right in front of you. It works many different ways for some people.</p>
<p>^Thanks, good idea. :]</p>
<p>I want a best friend.. that I can completely trust, but is sweet toward me in a loving way. Sexual stuff's always fun, haha, but I'm not the time of girl who just goes and does stuff with guys I'm not dating.</p>
<p>yeah, because if you were, you wouldn't be on here asking for advice, lol. You know what gives me a kick are the girls who are just in it for the benifits, but they don't want to be seen as that type of person. They want to act like they are having a legitamate relationship. It is like so, you want to look, smell, dress, act, talk, and walk like a whore, but you don't want to be seen in that way. I mean come on, lol.</p>
<p>Have you tried dating girls? Seriously, they'll be more on your level anyway.</p>
<p>No, I live in SoCal. I plan to go to UC Berkeley. </p>
<p>Umm, I'm straight. Besides, I find girls to overall be more annoying than guys haha.</p>
<p>Guys can be ****<strong><em>s, girls can be *</em></strong>*es. At least overall, guys cause less drama. There more simple and chill on average.</p>
<p>^^ don't give up and go that route just yet. Please, there are over 6 and a half billion people on this earth, you are bound to find someone, lol. Although, my cousin went that route, she seems to be happy, that through me for a loop, we always knew her brother was gay, we accepted that, but she was a surprise.</p>
<p>Haha, just a suggestion. You should always keep an open mind though. ;)</p>
<p>BTW, "going that route" doesn't have to some sort of last resort.</p>
<p>yeah.. i've been open-minded to it. Like, I even have joked with one of my girlfriends about it since one after another, every guy I date seems to be a disappointment. And I don't even go for the bad boy crap. This is someone who's really trying to find a nice guy aha.</p>
<p>But yeah, i thought about it, and it's just a no.. I like guys.</p>
<p>ahh, yeah, that school will give you enough diversity to find anyone your looking for. I honestly wish I would have gone to a more diverse school. I could have went to a wide variety of schools, from Berkley, to UT, to Carnegie Mellon, and everything in between, but I decided to staying in state, because it offered me a free ride. I didn't want to be in debt up to my eyeballs either. Especially considering I would have been an out of state student, and they would have cost an arm and leg. I still wonder what it would have been like though. Even though I'm still in college, I wonder from time to time. Then again, my parents were like, you go to a school out of state, say bye bye to your new vehicles, street bike, your spending, and getting what you want for the rest of your life. It took me about 3 seconds to figure that one out. Wasn't ready to make those sacrifices. But hell, I can't stop myself from thinking about it. Even though I would have been in relatively the same field, making the same amount of money when I get out. All I can say to anyone is that try to live your dream, whether that be on the west coast, or on the at some ivy league school, you only get to do it once. I'm just to much of a streetbike lover, that did me in, lol.</p>
<p>c.amutah, I didn't mean to sound condescending or negative. I'm sorry if it sounded that way, I apologize.</p>
<p>No, I think you know if you know. My cousin said he knew at 3, although I think some people just do it for the hell of it. Which shouldn't be done, everything must be done in truth and sincerity. Which when he told me it was that young, I was like damn, I barely knew what the opposite sex was at 3, and you're telling me you were gay at three. The only thing I was thinking about at that age was getting that little tonka truck out of my Happy Meal bag, building bridges with my Kinex set, and watching what new story Wishbone was going to talk about that day. Surprised the hell out of me. I've heard simlar instances from other people. The best thing is to be open about it. Although, my family tends to be on the whole wild side regardless, lol.</p>
<p>Wait, but if all you're looking for is agape (errrr, the agape part of storge anyway), or at least the primary factor in your ideal relationship is agape, then why won't your platonic male friends suffice? Or even your female friends? It could just be me, but I've always regarded typical relationships to be naught more but monogamous friendships (which I define as mutually beneficial reciprocatory schemes) with benefits. I dunno what more there could be in a relationship that can't be had with a good friend/exclusive **** buddy.</p>
<p>Moodrets, you see, this is what separates a us men from women. Your post explains this is great detail, and clearly shows why women are frustrated with the men in there lives, lol.</p>
<p>Ah, well then, would you care to explain to me what component of a "relationship" cannot be found in a strong friendship with sexual exclusivity? Don't super-duper best friends make the best spouses?</p>
<p>^lol.. exactly. Thanks for saying it.</p>
<p>I mean, I'm not one of those chicks who expects a whole lot from a guy in that aspect. Like, I don't need him to buy me stuff all the time, take me out all the time, pay for everything, or constantly compliment me. But I would like the difference between a best friend/ f-buddy and a relationship to be more intimate emotianally- ie: maybe making me something small. Or just calling me because they miss me. Just small things that are sweet.</p>
<p>A woman wants to find someone that connects with the emotional side, that makes that click, you know, the total package. While men are more laid back, get it while you can, or catch it when it comes kind of people. I like to think of a man as a fisherman, waiting to see what comes, and a woman, like a Navy Seal, they aren't waiting for anyone, they are some well train killers, ready to do major workage. They will not settle for anything other mission accomplished, and taking down the poor bastard who just so happend to step out in front of their barrel. While the fishmen, is happy even though he might not have caught anything all day, he may have seen the other fish in the water, or he could enjoy watching some of his buddies catch other fish, because he knows he has had other days like that too, or he catches a fish, and then when asked about it, exaggerates about the struggle, or how big it was, or how long it took to real it in. To a woman, that is ********, they want the real deal, they seek to spill blood, lol. j/m.</p>
<p>Emotional interdependence seems to me an integral part of all good friendships though? Friends can miss one another, give each other small presents, share their feelings, etc. etc. etc.</p>
<p>Or is it the green eyed monster that draws the line of demarcation between the two types of relationships? Our society wouldn't frown upon antipathy towards an adulterer, but would most likely not find favor with a person demanding exclusive friendship with another... Seems a terribly archaic and outdated perception. Not to mention vain. Which isn't to say that I didn't include it, hence the monogamy bit, though I perhaps that can be defended on other grounds...</p>
<p>^LOL, Forever LSU.. wasn't expecting that end to the metaphor ahaha.</p>
<p>I get what your saying ha, but what a way to put it. =p</p>
<p>I know what you are getting at Moodrets. I mean you see it in nearly every relationship. But sex seems to us like the only thing that is keeping a relationship together, we are young. But when you get older, when you spend so many years with someone, it is all a bit different. It is not about sex then, it is about how you meet that emotional need how you satisfy what is on the inside, how you make that connection. I've had many a conversation, and heard many too, from parents, uncles, graparents, etc, about how what really counts. I mean I've talked to some people who said that they didn't realize how much their wife meant to them, other than sex for 20 somewhat years. They didn't realize that emotional connection. They didn't even know it was there. A lot of men when they get older lose that desire, and it happens to women also, but not so much, that is why you have mid life crisis, second childhoods, divorces and the likeness. A lot of people got married for all the wrong reasons. I used to spend a lot of my time learning from older people, asking them question about what they would change in their life, about what they wish they would have done different. That is one of the overwhelming things I got from them. Especially from men. They just wished they would have realized what kind of deep realationship they could have had with their wives, how they weren't connecting with them on an emotional level, how they wished they would have just asked, or did something more. You can learn a lot from people who have already lived their life. It makes you a better individual, and you will not fall into the same holes so many others have fallen into. All of it somehow grounds you, you realize how precious life is, how important your relationships are, how much you have to make them count or be real ones, not just on the surface ones. You realize that it is not about sex, but sharing memories, or just simply enjoying a conversation, and loving every minute you have. I don't know if people aren't acknowledging this, or they just haven't realized it yet, or that real valuable relationship are something that has been lost in our culture, and all everyone cares about is sex. I sure hope not. I mean when you hit 80 or so, what else do you have to do other than talk, lol. I think that is why you see so many divorces these days, people have lost that. They have lost reaching the emotional level, that is why so many women are seeking other things and men are left clueless, and they end up searching for other things. We need to get back to basics, to apple pie and baseball, and astronauts, what being an american is all about son, lol.</p>