<p>Welp. I've hit a wall. I actually hit a wall several months ago. Anyone feel the same way?</p>
<p>I figured if I read some CC success stories or something, it will motivate me to study and do homework.</p>
<p>Anyone wanna share stories? Links? Anything... just one more year... gotta pull through!</p>
<p>A year will go by FAST. I still remember what my classes from last year was like.</p>
<p>I know this is negative reinforcement, which doesn’t always work for everyone, but when I feel as though I’ve run into a motivation block, I just try to imagine how horrible it will feel when I’m rejected from all the schools I want to go to because of something I could have done differently…</p>
<p>Yeah, I try to picture what it would be like if I just dropped all my classes. I’ve done it before, years ago, when I was at LBCC. I’d drop ALL my classes and feel like crap because I start thinking, “if I had finished the semester, I’d have been one step closer to graduating.” Or I try to think about my life if I don’t finish college and I try to place at the front of my mind that I’m not “marketable” for a decent job without a degree.</p>
<p>Still… right now, I am struggling to learn anything in my classes. Argh.</p>
<p>Take a read</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/transfer-students/1032244-community-college-success-stories.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/transfer-students/1032244-community-college-success-stories.html</a></p>
<p>I used to feel burned out by the end of the spring term. The lousy summer jobs I got to earn money to pay for college boosted my motivation to finish my degree.</p>
<p>Thanks, guys.</p>
<p>Yeah, the other thing I’m stressing over is that I no longer qualify for financial aid since I got married. Getting married was such a catch 22 because without getting married, I wouldn’t have been able to get a place to live and go to school without having to work as much. But with being married, my husband makes just enough to DQ me from financial aid. </p>
<p>Anyway, so after this semester I’m also out of a part-time job because my part-time job is funded through financial aid’s FWS program – and it is one of the best jobs I’ve had in terms of flexibility for school and studying and I actually enjoy what I do there. I’m hoping - HOPING - that I still qualify for the BOG Waiver, otherwise, what’s the point? I also heard that tuition is getting bumped to $46 a unit.</p>
<p>So couple that with hitting a wall, it’s just… meh.</p>
<p>Don’t worry about it man.</p>
<p>I’m faced with the Asian stress and trauma that family puts on me. I’m thinking of ending myself sometime soon if I don’t get into any of the schools I want. I’m really tired of it all. No reason for me to live in a society where all the people I associate myself with judge me based on the basis of where I am going to receive my degree from. Passion doesn’t mean anything to my parents.</p>
<p>Live for your family, stay motivated. I only have myself, no siblings, friends slowly distancing themselves from me. Everyday I am faced with the trouble of waking up to a family full of regret and neglect. Do it for your family, friend.</p>
<p>@ raginzero
“I’m thinking of ending myself sometime soon if I don’t get into any of the schools I want.”</p>
<p>Whoa just hold on there. I hope you’re just joking because I’m not sure what you mean by “ending yourself”. You really don’t want to think like that. I understand the whole Asian background thing too but don’t cross the line. That is a very dangerous path to tread and doing something rash just because you didn’t get into your schools of choice is not worth it. Particularly when it seems as though your parents seem to be pushing you way too hard for you to handle without showing appreciation save for your level of education. And that is not the way to go. Ultimately you are doing this for YOURSELF because this is YOUR life. You are not living for them so you have to change your outlook on life. </p>
<p>Honestly, your parents may not openly show the support that you’d like but if they knew just how hard they were pushing you up til now, they will probably change their ways. Just talk to them. If you can’t talk to them, just talk to somebody and get some help. Preferably professional help if this is a big problem for you. Don’t bottle this up man. You’re not going to like where this may eventually go if you keep this all to yourself with that sort of attitude. Again, I hope you’re just kidding but if you really feel that way, I’m serious. You must talk to someone about this.</p>
<p>Fellow SMC student here. I’m transferring over to UCSB in the fall (got TAGd, now just waiting on the official letter) and if you want a motivational story, here’s one for you that I even used as part of my personal statement: my very first day of college, I didn’t realize just how terrible the parking situation would be and was ultimately stuck outside the parking structures themselves in gridlock for nearly an hour. Then once inside, I couldn’t find parking and tried exiting for an hour to no avail. Finally out of frustration I ended up parking in the streets as I had already missed my first class and I wanted to catch the professor to discuss not being dropped. The conversation took about 10 seconds and when I ran back to my car…$70 parking ticket, the cherry on top to my perfect first day of college. From that day on it kind of dawned on me just how much more cutthroat the competition on the CC level would be as compared to before back in high school, and the cutthroat aspects even went down to the most basic notions of going to school- trying to beat everyone else for a parking spot. Pretty valuable life lesson and since then I’ve chugged on strong, taking 8 AMs every semester so I’d force myself to get up early to find parking as well as surviving my wonderful summer last year when I was working 3 jobs AND attending summer school for a bio class.</p>
<p>^ thats why I took the bus to SMC when I took a class there this winter</p>
<p>annika, you’ve been here since i have. hang in there girl, I’m dying over here too, but CC is my inspiration. we’re all waiting for that moment…one more week.</p>
<p>you are going to make it to the top, kittychan!</p>
<p>thanks? you will for sure!</p>
<p>Time drops in decay,<br>
Like a candle burnt out,<br>
And the mountains and woods<br>
Have their day, have their day;<br>
What one in the rout
Of the fire-born moods
Has fallen away?</p>
<p>assuming you got into a UC for fall, that should be your motivation. imagine taking 7 or 8 classes with no UC to go to. cannot drop them, cannot get a W. either pass or fail. and your grades count the next time you apply while spring grades really don’t matter as long as you maintain a 3.0 or whatever the conditions of your acceptance was. you’re trapped.</p>
<p>You guys are awesome. Thanks so much.</p>
<p>@ragingzero I’m Asian too and I dealt with the same stuff from my parents. Even though I’m well-past the college age and past the age where they control my life, it still lingers. I feel as though if I don’t finish college, I have nothing else and that I may spend the rest of my life working entry-level jobs, minimum wage, in retail, etc. This is all I’ve got. They say ask yourself is the world going to end if you don’t finish this, and it won’t, but it feels like our world will end. But in reality, it is just for us and nobody else. I don’t have ANY friends in LA, all my friends are elsewhere. I have to keep in mind that if I want to join my friends again, I will have to get a good job and in order to do that, I need to finish college. Let’s just try to hang in there.</p>
<p>@whatdowomenwant Hahaha, sounds like my first semester at SMC. Fall 2007 I was enrolled for the first time. I was commuting from Long Beach and assumed that morning traffic wouldn’t be that bad since I used to live in San Diego and was used to the mild traffic there. I arrived two hours late, couldn’t find parking anywhere, and ended up just giving up and going home. Two weeks later, I dropped all my classes because I didn’t know how to deal with the parking situation. A year later, Fall 2008, I tried again, this time better prepared. I left four hours early with a roll of quarters in my arsenal, and WAITED for a parking meter to open up… for TWO HOURS. And I survived. Eventually, I came up with different ways to deal with the parking situation. If I woke up too late, then I’d have to hop on the bus, train, and another bus to make it to campus. Sometimes I’d have my mom drive me all the way to SMC from LB (god bless her) and then I would just take the bus-train-bus home. I wouldn’t get back until like, 7pm (and it was a 12:45pm class). It was crazy! I never dealt with anything like that at LBCC or SD Mesa College. I have since gotten married and moved closer to SMC, so I just take the bus all the time. I love it. And it has saved my car many miles!</p>
<p>@UCkittychen Thanks for always being supportive. Wish we could all get together and remotivate ourselves when we need it. LOL</p>
<p>@briceies Beautifully said!</p>
<p>I’m a member of PTK at school and I have found that going to the weekly PTK meetings actually helps my morale… but not by much. I feel like I’m losing sight of everything I wanted and fought for so badly. There are worse things in life though. I just have to remember that.</p>
<p>Oh yeah… visiting this forum helps too!</p>
<p>Are you still at SMC? I am. Just eight more months to go. Just keep going. Keep the goal of an SMC diploma in mind, if you want to get one there. That’s what I am doing.</p>
<p>@ ragingzero
I know it seems like not having a degree from the school your family wants, or a degree at can seem overwhelming depressing and limiting, but PLEASE remember that the stress you are feeling is totally valid but it will pass. I don’t know if you are saying these types of things because you are just stressed and blowing off steam or really mean it, but it’s important to remember that you are valuable beyond your degree or what University you attend.</p>
<p>Admission decisions are coming down to the wire and I think the stress is mounting for everyone. We need to remember support ourselves and others through this time. No matter what, we’re all going to end up right where we’re supposed to be and everything will be fine!</p>