<p>I am sorry to read that toadstool's D had such a negative reaction to Smith. My D is an '06 grad, and still involved with the school -- attended her 2-year reunion this past spring, participates in a Smith alum book club, and has served as a regional interviewer for Smith applicants. She even recruited for her firm for Smith grads this year (resulting in a Smithie '08 hire). </p>
<p>So even though she graduated two years ago, my D remains involved with the school and appreciative of her experiences there. Her most recent vacation was to Morocco, at the suggestion of a fellow '06 Smith grad who is currently a tour guide there (the *only *female tour guide for her firm out of the 20 based in Morocco).</p>
<p>My D happens to be hetero, and politically liberal, but rather traditional in her personal life. She did find the political scene at Smith less diverse than ideal, and felt that acceptable positions ranged from somewhat liberal through ultra liberal. While she was comfortable with that, a broader range would have been ideal in our opinion -- if only so that the table discussions could have had a greater diversity of opinions. But the meaningful thing is that politics and other significant issues were being discussed at meals.</p>
<p>With respect to the gay issue, all I can say is that my D has Smithie friends of all sexual persuasions, and the only common denominator is that they are all dynamic and interesting women. It is often only later, in coming to know some of her friends, that the matter of their sexual orientation has even come up. In other words, that is not what defines them. Nor did my D ever feel any pressure to change her own orientation. Her gay as well as her hetero friends are interested in updates on her dating life, ask to see pictures of her boyfriend, etc. I am not aware of any LUGS in her circle -- her gay friends have been gay as long as she has known them, and have remained gay -- at least so far as I know.</p>
<p>Her father and I do think that our D's years at Smith significantly influenced her in maximizing her potential. We were witnesses to her growth those four years. She is now in her third year of very comfortably and effectively working in a heavily male career. (One reason she wanted to recruit at Smith was to secure more female companionship in the workplace!) Her field was actually suggested to her by a Smith prof who picked up on her particular strengths. </p>
<p>We will never know if the outcome would have been the same had D attended another college, but we suspect not. The personal attention and support she received at Smith was critical, we feel, for our D to bloom as she did.</p>
<p>Anyone who is totally freaked out by same-sex couples, etc., will either have a very hard time at Smith or will adjust. IMO it is the former who are likely to transfer. IMO it is the latter who will grow and benefit from the experience.</p>