<p>zooser, there is always time-- the fact that you recognize it will save him, I think. </p>
<p>I was slower to mature about some things due to my disabilities. There were certain road bumps in life that would really throw me off, and my mom had to coach me to deal with them. You can do that to help scaffold your S as he learns to start doing his own snowplowing. I would go to my mom with a problem, or she would see it coming, and she would say, “Okay, so we have this problem now, here are the steps you need to take to go fix it for yourself…” It was hard and there were some arguments but I learned to do it myself.</p>
<p>Usually when I had a paper due in college, I would have something like six papers and four exams all in a 10 day period. SOMETHING would always have to wait til the last minute, I just can’t write six papers and prepare for four exams in fewer than 8-10 days. If you can, more power to you!</p>