<p>^^^That’s how I feel. He’s 21 years old. I feel like I should just stand back and trust son to take care of it. If he wants to go to grad school, he’ll eventually get around to applying. If he wants a job, he’ll apply for one. But my husband just can’t seem to trust him to do it himself. But he doesn’t do the snowplowing. He expects me to do it. So, while I stand back and let the adult child take over, when a deadline is missed, like just happened with a grad school, I get the blame, not the child, because I was supposed to drive the snowplow. I was supposed to know when all the deadlines were. I feel like if son really wanted to go to that grad school, he should have looked at when the deadline was long ago. He missed the deadline, so it’s on him. He’ll have to make another choice. As for finding a job, yes, he’s done career fairs, but what about once he graduates? He’ll have to learn how to find a job in the real world. Even new hires get laid off. Are we expected to help them find a job when they’re 30?</p>