so has everyone found their niche yet?

Colleges and Universities A-Z University of California - Los Angeles
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<p>i'm just transferred to ucla last fall and i still feel miserable. the year is already 2/3 of the way done and i still have no close friends or people to hang out with. I've met plenty of acquaintances but few of them are actually "friends" in the sense that we can talk about stuff comfortably. i'm really worried about next quarter since my closest acquaintaces/friends wont be in my classes next quarter</p>

<p>I live in the apartments - so its hard to meet people since i dont live in the dorms. </p>

<p>i've tried joining clubs, but i dont fit in with anyone since everyone already knows each other and the only new members are freshmen, and i'm a JUNIOR!</p>

<p>but this is all my fault. i was really shy in high school and hoped to change that here, but i guess i was wrong. i dont have many hobbies</p>

<p>In the social clubs, I dont fit in either because I'm shy and socially awkward</p>

<p>the only plus side is that academically, I've done really well.</p>

<p>right now, i'm really depressed. once i find my group of friends with whom i can joke around with and hang out with, I'll feel so much better</p>

<p>i'm already a junior, so i feel that much more pressure to have a better life, since I dont want to waste my college years</p>

<p>i really dont know what else i can do except try joining the recreation classes at wooden, such as tennis, dancing, archery, etc. ill also try joining a fraternity</p>

<p>i should have transferred to berkeley. at least i would have had friends instantly... the FOBs from my community college</p>

<p>any other transfers going through the same loneliness? my roommates are also transfers and dont have much of a social life either - they dont even know who they'll room with next year</p>

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<p>It's time for CC meetup #2 :p</p>

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<p>Anyone want this to happen? We can vote again ... dorm dinner, dinner in Westwood, event outside UCLA ...</p>

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<p>i havent been able to go to one yet... xD</p>

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<p>haha cc meetup soudns like a good idea</p>

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<p>sure beginning of next qtr??</p>

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<p>i have no friends yet. :(</p>

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<p>wahts the point of a cc meetup? i dont know any of u people and wont be in any of your classes or clubs, probably</p>

<p>anyways, can i get any responses in regards to my original post please? thank you</p>

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i dont know any of u people and wont be in any of your classes or clubs, probably

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<p>How do you know? You got to take some chances if you want to meet new people.</p>

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<p>therein lies your problem...</p>

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<p>i feel sorta the same way. but for different reasons.</p>

<p>isn't freshman year when one typically finds their friends/niche/clique or w/e? is it possible to make close friends during sophomore year??</p>

<p>i don't really have one...the ppl i live w/ are antisocial and upperclasmen. my freshmen friends live in other bldgs but they have their own friends from their own hall... i do hang out w/ them though when i have free time (which i barely do). though i dont have very, very close friends here yet, i overall feel okay b/c of my busy life. well depends how close is close..</p>

<p>newton, keep urself busy w/ those ecs and other activities and studying and i hope this helps cure ur ... lonliness? </p>

<p>btw i dont seem to make friends in my classes. i am a premed so i'm supposed to compete against classmates. i try to ask them questions and they're usually snotty. maybe i am too narrow-minded?? premeds, do u guys make friends in class?</p>

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<p>"isn't freshman year when one typically finds their friends/niche/clique or w/e? "</p>

<p>this is what ****es me off the most. i'm a junior yet people think i'm a freshman since i'm still a loner</p>

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<p>cc meetup it is then!</p>

<p>but seriously newton..ur attitude is probably what's stopping you from making friends. who says your friends have to necessarily be in your classes and ec's. what about just grabbing dinner and lunch?</p>

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<p>Yeah. And considering that there have been so many of these "loner" threads since the beginning of this quarter is a good reason to have a meetup.</p>

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<p>I'm an incoming freshman and i fear the same thing happening to me. I've gone to school with the same people from elementary school so i've never really experienced entering a school entirely full of strangers. even so, i feel like i don't do a good job socializing and finding a clique that i can be entirely open with.</p>

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<p>i've made most of my friends here this year (soph year).</p>

<p>why? i went out and joined an organization, and i took small classes where i actually made friends (not just classmate acquaintances).</p>

<p>seek, and ye shall find ;)</p>

<p>meanwhile i second a CC meetup.</p>

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<p>I remember going to the meet-up at the beginning of this school year and I was sad that no one knew mr MOO!! Well I guess more of you guys know me now, =D. Haha actually KNOW me in person too.</p>

<p>Sure, for the majority of people they make the majority of their friends freshman year. But it is bad to think that freshman year is the ONLY year were you can meet new friends and what not. There is no doubt that it is a lot easier during fall quarter of freshman year, however, it is still very very very possible to meet new people throughout your whole college career, it just takes a bit more effort on your par. If you think you won't be able to meet any one because you are a junior, then that is exactly what is going to happen. If you actually DO meet a group of friends freshman year, great, but with the mentality that after freshman year you won't be able to meet new friends, you will be limiting yourself to that group of people and never actually be open minded about meeting new people. Most of the people that I still talk to from high school were people that I didn't talk to during freshman and sophomore year. I expect college to be the same. </p>

<p>Excuse me if this post makes no sense, I can't really think too straight right now because my roommate is reciting some weird ****, and I'm drained from Finals.</p>

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<p>I think that's a super philosophy...that way you'll continue not to have "friends"</p>

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<p>The trick is you have to get friends' numbers and call them for lunch and the like. Unless you take those steps nothing's going to happen.</p>

<p>If you(or anyone else that wants to meet someone new) ever want someone to kick it with I'm always down to chill over lunch or whatever, pm me. I'm always trying to meet new people, as well..</p>

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<p>are you a transfer ihasamilk?
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i do hang out w/ them though when i have free time (which i barely do).

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Make time? Facebook wallpost them asking for lunch/dinnerdate...?
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though i dont have very, very close friends here yet,

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it has only been two quarters. i started cultivating some of my closer relationships around this time last year. part of it is luck and mostly it is convenience.
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i try to ask them questions and they're usually snotty.

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well dwm... ask them what kind of questions?? if it's similar to what you ask on CC...</p>