<p>There's obviously a lot of talk about applying to transfer, but I'm hoping to get some input about what happens for those that actually follow through with the process and are able to attend another school in the fall and what it's like to actually switch schools. I ask because I'm done with my application stuff and now start the waiting process, and while I did pick schools that I would love to attend, I still feel a sense of regret when I talk to my friends here (none who know I'm applying to transfer) about our plans for the future at my current school. I don't hate my current school. People here are great and the programs offered are excellent, but I've realized business just isn't my thing and the lack of any kind of performing arts program is painful for a die-hard musician. My reasons for transferring are entirely academic and extracurricular as I know that there was a lot more that I wanted to take advantage of in college and my current school just doesn't make those things possible.</p>
<p>Basically, did any of you have any kind of regret or something holding you back when you made the final decision to leave? During the first semester I felt like I wouldn't care at all. I'm still not emotionally tied to this place or anything, but this was my first year of college and I feel like that has some kind of significance that I am insulting by transferring. If I get into one of the programs I applied to I will take the offer, but I know I'm going to do so with more apprehension than I had originally expected. It would have been so much nicer to get the right fit on the first try, I guess, but that's why we're here.</p>
<p>very true my friend, we are all here to make mistakes and wrong decisions that will make us more aware of what we do. yeah i have a long story to tell. When i graduated i made the biggest mistake of my life which was not applying to a college for the fall right after my school graduation so I had to wait till January to go to college… I got accepted to this college in upstate NY called SUNY Cobleskill not a bad school and which I liked a lot lets say, but i felt like I had to transfer to a bigger school where I could feel more comfortable and my major would develop more than where I was… after a year there I got to transfer to Suny Albany, which is the school I love and I always wanted to attend to, but something inside my mind told me I was wrong, when I got here I just got depressed and don’t feel like studying no more, I don’t really know what got me so depressed if it was my obssesion for Albany or the fact of that I already knew people from Albany that were here, but I realized that I was going to waste my time here and even before starting the semester I decided to transfer to the city near home, where i really belong, I would go back to my first college but it will not feel the same because I left for a reason which i regret now, and first of all my major of business and Computer science will be more efficient at City College than at UA which is a criminal justice school. My family is waiting for me back there in the city and old friends too, I hope this time i make the right decision. I believe I will make the right one because I have never felt so excited in going back to where I really belong. </p>
<p>I kept my decision to transfer a secret for a LONG time. Basically, I didn’t want my roommate to feel weird about living with me if she knew how much I didn’t like being there. When I finally told my friends, they weren’t surprised. They had heard me complain a lot, so it wasn’t as huge a deal as I originally feared.
I pretty much loathed my school. There was no regret associated with the actual transfer part. BUT I still had some nice friends that I wished I could take with me. It took a little while to reconcile hating the school with missing my friends, but you get used to it after awhile. Going back to visit after transferring pretty much confirmed all of my reasons for leaving. When I went back to my transfer school, I felt solid with my decision to be there, and I felt… committed, and ready to put down roots.
I’ve been at my new school for almost two years, and I love it here. Ultimately, that’s what you remember, and it’s what matters. It’s totally okay to have mixed feelings and to miss some things about your old school, even if you didn’t like it and it wasn’t a good fit. It’s almost impossible to hate EVERYTHING about a school, so it makes sense that you’d feel something like regret, but it… isn’t exactly. So just accept what you’re feeling, and go with the flow.</p>
<p>My son had big regrets when he first transferred. He was thinking he made the wrong decision and wanted to go back to his first school. We told him if he really hated the transfer school he could go back if he wanted to. Fast forward and he is about half way through his first semester at the new school and he is liking it more and more. He kept some friends from his previous school and one just came and visited him last weekend, but he is no longer talking about going back but making his plans for where and who he will live with at his current school in the fall. It’s funny how things all work out in the end. Good luck!</p>