<p>I'm in my Junior Year in HS and the Prom has been on my mind. Its not until April/May but I'm still worried about it. I've never been to a dance in my life. Not my School Fundraiser Dances, 8th Grade Graduation, Homecoming, etc. I think part of the reason why is because I really wasn't interested back then, but now being a 17 year old Junior its all I can ever think about. But then again I've never been asked out to a dance, had a date, or a Boyfriend. Pathetic, I know. And it also doesn't help that I'm a tall black girl with a couple of pounds (not huge or anything though but I might intimidate anyone who is under 5'8) in a school that is probably 98 percent Caucasian. Not that its a race thing or anything but I think most people are comfortable with dating people in their own race at my school. Nothing personal. I wouldn't have a problem with it though.</p>
<p>People always say to just go with friends. I do have some friends at school but their more of good acquaintances than true friends. I fear I'd only be a third wheel and feel extremely awkward at a dance. How could I possibly explain to my parents no one asked me to the prom. That would be so embarrassing...</p>
<p>Anyways, my question is how can I go about getting a date to the prom in the situation I am in know. How can a girl who isn't particularly attractive and socially awkward break out of her shell and get a date to prom. </p>
<p>Make an effort to be more outgoing this year so that come this winter/spring there will be people you’ll feel comfortable going with as friends–in fact, you have until NEXT NEXT April/May. You’re only a junior, and prom’s really for senior year. Plenty of attractive, unasked or even asked people skip prom their junior year. Also remember that no matter how socially awkward you think you are, no one really thinks about those times when you screw up as much as your own self does.
I’m a senior and I personally don’t care about going to prom at all. Don’t let the idea be such a huge deal to you just because it’s so hyped in movies and stuff; if you do feel like you want to go, relax and don’t focus so much on the social aspect of it, just dress up and have fun.</p>
<p>I’m in the same situation as you. (Except I’m a senior)
No dates, no boyfriends, only been to one dance in middle school (and that was with friends).
Now I don’t even have any good friends/acquaintances to go with. Not many people know who I am either. So it looks like no senior prom for me.
This is so sad.
I’m going to feel horrible telling my mom.</p>
<p>You can always ask someone from another school to be your date.
As a mom, I will tell you that 1) your family just wants you to be happy 2) prom is never as much fun as you think it will be.</p>
<p>^Yeah, either ask someone from another school, or ask an underclassmen. At my school we ONLY have senior prom, and a lot of senior girls who don’t get asked go with a junior guy.</p>
<p>I suggest you get active with a club such as the Black Student Association and then go with a bunch of those friends. That is what my kid did. Also, if you work on the prom,usually they take everyone to help out, then you will go either way. I remember planning and then even having to stay to clean up since I was on the committee.</p>
<p>you can always ask any friend whether from another school or simply someone who doesn’t go to your school assuming you comply with your school’s prom policy</p>
<p>you can always not go to your junior prom, after all, senior prom is what’s important
but i do encourage you to go to your senior prom,
don’t allow other people to discourage you :)</p>
(Except I’m a senior)