So...Parents won't pay for college apps or sending SAT scores or anything.

<p>Hello, CC. I know this is probably a unique thing at least here on CC but I got into a huge fight with my dad and he basically refused to pay for any apps or sending test scores, even stamps and I don't have a lot of money. My Mom, won't pay for anything since she doesn't want to look like she's taking sides, unless I apologize to my dad, which is certainly something I'm not doing. Now, this might not be a problem if I get into Stanford EA, but if I don't (like most applicants) how do you go about applying to college with very little money (<$100) and if there are any colleges which will pay for my application and sending SATs and everything like that with my stats can you please tell me? Also, should I put a copy of this thread in the parents forum?</p>

<p>Stats:</p>

<p>Senior</p>

<p>2370 SAT (800Math 800CR 770Wr)
3.93 Weighted 3.4 ish unweighted....this sucks I know
SAT II'S:
US history 800
Math IIc 800
Physics 750
Class Rank: Just missed top 10%, in actuality top 11-12% out of 400
Race:African American
Very competitive public (aka 90+% to 4 yr colleges)
Junior yr sched 5 AP's
Senior yr sched 4 AP's (3 math/sci+ap eng)
NMSF and Natl Achievement SF and AP scholar with Honor</p>

<p>Quiz Bowl Team member-highly ranked team that always goes to nationals (2 years)
Organization of Student Tutors (2 years I put a lot of time into this)
Italian NHS (VP now Pres next yr)
Habitat for Humanity (3 yrs)
Chess Team (4 yrs)
NHS (starting this yr)
Orchestra (3 yrs)
Copious Volunteering- Started in Middle School Really
Past summer performed research on producing bioethanol Also SAT Tutored on the side privately</p>

<p>Location:NJ</p>

<p>Don't be ridiculous. Suck it up and apologize to your Dad. Learn to pick your battles.</p>

<p>yeah get over it</p>

<p>You guys don't understand he has been on my case for the last 4 months. If I appease him now he's going to continue doing so, probably when I'm in college too.</p>

<p>Part time job?</p>

<p>I'd make up with him. It's really not worth the fight if it's going to affect your future.</p>

<p>Good luck.</p>

<p>Get a job if dad won't pay. You may have to cut down on your ECs but you can then pay for the apps.</p>

<p>My niece lived with her dad in high school. Her dad married someone who hated his kids. When my niece turned 18 (Nov. of her senior year), her dad and step mom told her she didn't live there anymore. she moved in with her older brother (who had to kick out his male roommate). She dropped all ECs and got a waitressing job. She got into her first choice school, got lots of scholarship money, even did a semester in Africa and graduated in 4 years. </p>

<p>It might not be fun, but it can be done.</p>

<p>Well, if he's not going to pay for apps will he pay for tuition? I'm guessing that you don't qualify for application fee waivers. Is this fight really about something so important that you can't apologize? Would you feel comfortable giving us some idea about what it involved? Sorry, but "he's been on my case for 4 months" sounds like it could (emphasize could, since none of us really know the story) be just teenage whining. How many schools will you apply to if you don't get into Stanford? With your stats, several schools might offer fee waivers to apply, but they probably won't be Stanford caliber. Check all those unsolicited letters you've been getting in the mail. Yes, you should post this on the parent's forum for more replies.</p>

<p>the obvious choice is to apologize to him, if you are mature enough to go to college you should definitely be mature enough to apologize to your own dad. we all know what its like, sometimes you just have to let down your guard and do whats right.<br>
having said that, i voluntarily paid for my apps and score sending. i just didnt apply to as many colleges as i wanted, but only the ones that i would for sure consider. also if ur still searching for colleges there are websites that have lists of all colleges with free online apps.</p>

<p>You could start by looking over the schools on this list which charge no application fee for on-line applications: <a href="http://www.porcelina.net/freeapps/general.html%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://www.porcelina.net/freeapps/general.html&lt;/a> Among the schools listed are Tulane, Case Western, Wellesley (although I'd guess you're not looking at Wellesley) Who knows? You might end up applying being accepted to some school you never would have considered.</p>

<p>Thanks for the links I'll certainly look into those. The fight revolves on how I should be spending my time. For the past 4 months he's been telling me to do this or do that and when I don't he threatens with college money. He's also been becoming, progressively nastier...telling me he doesn't want me in the house because I'm lazy or listless or whatever type of **** he says.</p>

<p>Get a job?</p>

<p>Go get a job (NOW!) at the local Christmas tree lot, be super friendly and helpful and save your tips! Show dad your maturity by figuring out a way to make this happen if you really can't bring yourself to apologize.</p>