<p>Hello CC parents. I know this is probably a unique thing at least here on CC but I got into a huge fight with my dad and he basically refused to pay for any apps or sending test scores, even stamps and I don't have a lot of money. My Mom, won't pay for anything since she doesn't want to look like she's taking sides, unless I apologize to my dad, which is certainly something I'm not doing. Now, this might not be a problem if I get into Stanford EA, but if I don't (like most applicants) how do you go about applying to college with very little money (<$100) and if there are any colleges which will pay for my application and sending SATs and everything like that with my stats can you please tell me? </p>
<p>Stats:</p>
<p>Senior</p>
<p>2370 SAT (800Math 800CR 770Wr)
3.93 Weighted 3.4 ish unweighted....this sucks I know
SAT II'S:
US history 800
Math IIc 800
Physics 750
Class Rank: Just missed top 10%, in actuality top 11-12% out of 400
Race:African American
Very competitive public (aka 90+% to 4 yr colleges)
Junior yr sched 5 AP's
Senior yr sched 4 AP's (3 math/sci+ap eng)
NMSF and Natl Achievement SF and AP scholar with Honor</p>
<p>Quiz Bowl Team member-highly ranked team that always goes to nationals (2 years)
Organization of Student Tutors (2 years I put a lot of time into this)
Italian NHS (VP now Pres next yr)
Habitat for Humanity (3 yrs)
Chess Team (4 yrs)
NHS (starting this yr)
Orchestra (3 yrs)
Copious Volunteering- Started in Middle School Really
Past summer performed research on producing bioethanol Also SAT Tutored on the side privately</p>
<p>Apologize to your dad. Now is NOT the time to create a rift in the family. If this is what it takes to get your applications done, then do it. You'll be going to college next year, and then there will be some "distance". Now isn't the time for that distance...</p>
<p>FredFredBurger: Pick your battles very carefully. Be a grownup, and unless it involves something immoral or illegal, do what you have to do, i.e. apologize to your dad. It is a tense time for everyone. You are surely very bright, probably very articulate, and the verbal sparring between soon to leave son and dad is likely intense and challenging to all. It is a small thing in the scheme of your life to get where you want and need to go. Good luck. Lorelei</p>
<p>1) Start with apologizing. You have to, even if you are right.
2) Work on your mom.
3) Find another relative to help you (grandma/aunt?).
4) Start tutoring or babysitting or get a Christmas break job...you can earn enough during winter break to pay for all of it.</p>
<p>Sometimes you need to live to fight another day so you need to ask yourself; 'Is this really the hill that you are willing to die on?"</p>
<p>From Kenny Rogers song The Gambler :
You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run.</p>
<p>Sometimes you have to abide by the golden rule: S/he who has the gold makes the rules.</p>
<p>You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar</p>
<p>The words that my mom told me which I have passed on to my child; never give anyone your a** to kiss if there is a remote possibility that you are going to need something from them in the future.</p>
<p>I am currently reading Basic Black; The Essential Guide for Getting Ahead at Work (and in Life)”- by Cathie Black (President of Hearst Magazines) who really has some stand out quotes: </p>
<p>Power = keeping you eye on the big picture</p>
<p>Don't personalize things that aren't personal.</p>
<p>Fred, there has been some serious fighting in my household too. I think it's the college admissions anxiety.
I agree your mom should not take side either.
Don't forget even if you get into Stanford EA, somebody has to pay for you, fill your FAFSA and profile. Do apologize to your Dad, even if he is wrong, he is your dad.</p>
<p>Fred:
I agree with everybody above. Don't know what you did or did not do, but bury the hatchet and apologize. </p>
<p>Parents only have control of two things with their teenagers: 1) money and 2) the car keys. </p>
<p>Looks like you are good at math. Underclassmen always need tutors. D who is a senior, is always asked by the middle school counselors and at the HS if she would like to tutor for pay. She has tutored Algebra II and Pre-Calc and it pays relatively well. </p>
<p>Santa is coming to town, and most retail stores need extra help through Jan 1</p>
<p>What you don't want to do is push the envelope to the point that your dad will not pay for college or fill out forms.</p>
<p>Fred -- your father's behavior raises the question: will he be reliable as a source of financial support once you start school? This may be something you should consider seriously. Pick your schools wisely and in part on the availability of financial aid, in case your dad gets into another snit and cuts you off...</p>
<p>Sorry you're going through this. The application process itself is stressful enough.</p>
<p>well you have been given good advice above but</p>
<p>if all else fails send a cheap app to Arizona State, Arizona or a selection of schools that give NMFs a free ride to college. The app is cheap and you won't have to apologize to dad.</p>
<p>Fred - I agree you should resolve the argument, cave, etc., but Carleton does offer free online apps and they will help NM finalists visit if accepted. I know there are other threads about free app schools. I heard Rice waives the fee for NMSF's who list it as their first choice. It really depends what kind of school you want to go to, but there are options out there.</p>