So Upset...

Applying to College
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<p>i need to vent. </p>

<p>ok so i have basically know what school i want to go too since last year. i'm applying ED and i'm in love w/ everything about it. the best thing is that its far away from where i live, so i can escape, rather than going to nearby new england schools like the vast majority of my class.</p>

<p>i just found out today that this girl who used to be one of my best friends but basically abandoned me (along with the rest of the clique, for reasons that i still am not sure about) and made my life miserable, has suddenly decided to apply there ED as well. before, i didnt know of anyone else who was applying ED (only RD). this girl is not only serious competition since our stats are very similar (we even kind of look alike) .. im pretty her gpa is better than mine, i THINK i have better ECs, essay, reccs, but who even knows... so not only is there a good chance of her taking my spot here, but even if we BOTH got in, it still sucks becfause she is basically the embodiment of everything i'm trying to get away from. </p>

<p>honestly, if she got in and i didnt, after everything shes taken away from me and all the time i've spent dreaming about going to this school, i would be absolutely WRECKED. </p>

<p>how could she do this to me, honestly.. i'm so incredibly upset... just when i was finally feeling okay about the college thing. </p>

<p>up til this point we have been really friendly towards eachother this year.. i have basically been tyring to be mature and realize that its senior year, and itll all be over soon. and now here she is, trying to follow me to the one place i can start over.</p>

<p>this sucks so much. i want to just say something to her, like how could you do this, after everything youve done to me. i mean i know its not like a personal thing she decided to do to me, but she KNEW it was my dream school.. she told me about the college she was applying to ED (which is in boston!! like 15 minutes away from our town, as opposed to my college which is way down in the south). </p>

<p>anyone experiencing anything similar or have any advice? i really need some sympathy or encouragement right now, i'm so sad. :(</p>

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<p>aww....I empathize with you. Same thing's happening with me, except the person I'm competing with is my archrival and we almost never talk. </p>

<p>btw, what college is this?</p>

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<p>Don't worry about it........</p>

<p>You will make new friends wherever you go....</p>

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<p>I was in the same exact situation as you! (and I still kindof am) My friend and I are both in the exact same ECs and have similar test scores. Unfortunately for me, she has the better gpa. I was really really upset at first but then I realized that I had no right to be upset.
She's not purposely sabotaging me and although it sucks for me, I have accepted the fact that college is fair game to everyone and should be grateful that no more people are applying. I know this isn't consoling, but it helps sometimes to see the truth even when it hurts. I've gotten over and I'm now simply trying to send in MY best application regardless of her.</p>

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<p>you probably won't be judged against her. You will be looked at as yourself in a holistic way. If you both get in, well, cant help you there. Don't worry, college is a big place so you might not really have to see her that much.</p>

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<p>thanks guys</p>

<p>goldfish--its emory</p>

<p>ughhh i just wnat to DO something to make her not apply!! obviously its college and its bigger than me and her, but i just wnat to ask her how she could try to take this away from me, after everything shes already taken away. i mean i've recovered, but basically she and my other best friends (the "popular" clique, all of them, just ditched me in the middle of my sophomore year. like completely cut me off. now i'm probably better off but it was the single most painful experience ive ever had.. i just cannot believe she is following me as i try to leave it all behind. and i think i'm going to say something(even if it doesnt make a difference)... probably shouldnt.... but i just cant NOT at least say something, its too important to me, and this girl is just too horrible. i deserve a chance to escape from her, especially to the place i've been in love with for the past year. there are a million other schools that she can just spontaneously apply early decision to.. why did she have to pick MY EMORY!</p>

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<p><a href="mailto:d@mn...its">d@mn...its</a> not that big of a deal. ok, so u probably wont even see her in college. its not going to ruin your life..sheesh./..get a grip. By the way, im also applying to Emory.</p>

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<p>I'm sorry that happened... but if you think realistically, there are more than just that person "in this case your friend" that's applying to emory with similar stats and ec, essay and etc... competition is impossible to avoid. But now you have a greater motivation to make your essay really distinguish you from your "friend"</p>

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<p>Hmm... I'm on the admissions committee at a highly selective school and I can pretty much promise you that if you aren't admitted, it won't be because your friend decided to apply too. Students from the same school are almost never compared side by side.</p>

<p>As for seeing her once you get there, the chances are small. Even at tiny schools, it's easy to minimize contact with someone, and Emory isn't tiny, obviously.</p>

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<p>Don't worry about it Hilary. If you are good enough to get in, you'll get in. If you look at the action report in the guidance office sometimes a college will accept like 5 kids all in one year, but other times waitlist or deny them all. So it really depends I doubt that her applying will make a difference.</p>

<p>Cheer up, it's the weekends!</p>