<p>Well, vicissitudes, either you've had an unusually good run of girls lately or I've had an unusually poor run with some girls. In any case, you're right, it's a rarity when a girl is truly nuts. However, it's like 1 in 100 bananas is an atomic bomb. Rare, but when you find it, DAYUM MAN.</p>
<p>Did you ever see the movie "Good Will Hunting"? There's a scene where they're talking about a big play in the World Series that the shrink (Sean) had tickets to, and Will says "you were frigging there!!" and Sean replies, "no, I wasn't". He had stayed in the bar to talk to a girl he met and he says "That's why I'm not talkin' right now about some girl I saw at a bar twenty years ago and how I always regretted not going over and talking to her." </p>
<p>So just do it!</p>
<p>but a more realistic answer is a counter-question: how often do you go over and talk to girls who are NOT really good looking? A lot of guys asking these kinds of questions don't talk to girls at all, then expect something miraculous is going to occur when they see a really hot one. Maybe it will, but more realistically you lay the groundwork by talking to all kinds of girls all the time so the fact that this one is really pretty is just not that big a deal. Otherwise you'll be so nervous and self-conscious and unsure what to say that it's unlikely to go well.</p>
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<p>lol where do you meet girls</p>
<p>very rare lol</p>
<p>So what you are saying they are common? Please define "psychotic" then. Not just "they have drama" or "they get jealous easily." I mean actually psychotic.</p>
<p>How did we end up talking about psycho girls?</p>
<p>here's some advice for guys:</p>
<p>if u see a cute girl, go up and give her a hard time...if she laughs/engages, then IT'S ON.</p>
<p>chloroform!</p>
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if u see a cute girl, go up and give her a hard time...if she laughs/engages, then IT'S ON.
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<p>Not if you don't know her. Not the best first impression to make. Good way to flirt, I suppose.</p>
<p>hey so there's a girl that sits in front of me in bio class. she's really cute, and i mean so far i haven't talked that much to her, except like when we're in our question groups or at the beginning of class, when we make small talk. i like her a lot, any suggestions on how to progress further? sorry i sound so pathetic, but i've never really flirted w/ a girl so yeah -_-</p>
<p>you can start just by saying a simple hi when she walks into class or something. it's not flirting but you have to say make some kind of talk with her. and since you've talked to her a couple of times during groups in class it shouldn't be too hard to just say hi, and wouldn't make it weird or awkward if that's what you're afraid of. just a minor tip i guess.</p>
<p>well we exchange hi's , and maybe talk about the reading assignment or whatever, but that's it. i found a common ground we have; liking video games, so im thinking i might utilize that, but not sure how.</p>
<p>If she's looking particularly cute/dressed up one day, tell her she looks good. that's really the first step in flirting. If she smiles from ear to ear (which she will), that's a good start.</p>
<p>Just use this award-winning pickup line:</p>
<p>"Hey, does this rag smell like chloroform to you?" </p>
<p>Yeaaaaah!</p>
<p>just ignore it. even if that goodlooking guy comes to me i usually just smile and chat for a bit before pulling one of my escapist acts. must be a shy-chinese-girl thing</p>
<p>Ecliptica's dating tip of the day:</p>
<p>The importance is confidence in yourself. </p>
<p>My friend posted this on another message board for the anecdote, and it's true:
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My buddy has a neighbor that is 20. He has a career, makes great money, has a nice car, and girls think he is very good looking. He has another neighbor; also 20. He is in college, makes barely any money, out of shape, drives an old man car, and looks like a convict.</p>
<p>Person #1 has everything going for him except one quality. He is shy to the point where he will not approach a girl - ever. He doesn't go out on dates because of this.</p>
<p>Person #2 approaches pretty much every single girl he sees. He gets rejected by just about all of them however some of them don't and he collects them all in the pot and then picks who he wants to go out with.</p>
<p>Person #2 doesn't get the best looking girls, as he isn't a very good looking guy so keep it in perspective. However, he gets dates.</p>
<p>What is the problem here? Person #1 is waiting for a girl to approach him which is possible but it doesn't happen often.
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<p>So what my friend's anecdote is saying is that the answer to picking up the girl that you want to be with is simple. You go up to them and TALK to them and carry yourself well. You treat them like they are no different than any other girl. You do not put them ABOVE you or you are showing self-esteem issues or lack of confidence in yourself. This is an unattractive quality.</p>
<p>I've been lucky enough to have had many gorgeous girlfriends my entire life. Every single one of them I have approached and picked up. Granted (I'm not going to lie), I consider myself a pretty good looking guy, and if my Communication classes have taught me anything, it's that men and women are typically attracted to people of around the same physical appearance (i.e., if we're going by the 1-10 scale; 5s attract 4s/5s/6s, 8s attract 7s/8s/9s, etc). However, women will settle for less physically attractive men to satisfy other personal needs (I just got done with my Interpersonal Communication class and this is exactly what we're talking about) so I could go into detail if anyone needs any more tips.</p>
<p>So for all you single guys looking to pick up girls, have the balls to go talk to them. Be yourself, don't treat them like you aren't worthy, show them you have something to offer them. Find things in common fast and talk about those. Then you'll know whether or not to ask, "Can I call you sometime?"</p>
<p>Hey, perhaps you can give me some tips. My problem isn't talking to girls. It isn't getting their number either. I don't have a problem asking them out either. My problem is making it known that I'm attracted to them. I just can't get passed that "friends" phase.</p>
<p>make fun of her. girls (at least me and my girlfriends) love when a guy isn't afraid to joke around and stuff</p>
<p>how far can we compliment a girl that we've met for like a week, and are on friendly terms w/? teh girl im talking about dresses really nicely, so just giving you guys some fodder to consider</p>
<p>compliment as much as you want. a guy i knew for a week told me i was looking sexy when i was dressed up one day. he knew he would get a good response from that. it all depends on your comfort level and attitude, as well as the girl's. saying a girl looks pretty can't hurt at all.</p>
<p>Like Peter Parker said, if you see a good looking girl/guy- GO TALK TO THEM! Just because they're good looking doesn't make them any better then anyone else. Even if you don't sweep them off their feet, you might end up making a great friend (who happens to have lot's of other good looking friends, lol.)</p>
<p>imran- Compliments aren't always a good thing. If you're only intentions are to become friends with a girl then its alright but if you're interested in picking her up, it may actually hurt your chances or squash them all together- Let me explain.</p>
<p>This is going to sound horrible but compliments should be given based on a girls looks/self esteem. </p>
<p>Let's say that the girl you're talking to is the hottest chick on the planet and you're very interested in her. The SECOND you throw her a compliment, your chances at a relationship/ONS are pretty much done. TONS of guys have dished out compliments like "you're so pretty" while their eyes are glued to her chest. Chances are this girl has very high self esteem and knows she looks good- why tell her something she already knows? You have to seperate yourself from the pack, and by telling her how nice she looks, you're just another guy. Plus it makes it look like you're trying to butter her up because you don't believe that your personality is good enough to intrigue her. </p>
<p>So what do you do? Instead of telling her how nice she dresses, make fun of the way she dresses! Do it in a playfull manner though becuase if you come off as a complete *******, you might as well just compliment her. </p>
<p>Now lets say her self esteem is low- you wouldn't want to bust on her too hard because she may take what you say to heart. It's alright to give these girls compliments becuase it'll boost their self esteem and will probably make them more responsive to you.</p>