<p>I'm personally fairly terrified of online dating. Of course, I also watch a lot of nonfiction shows about murders/murderers, so that may have something to do with it...</p>
<p>But yeah, online dating is not uncommon at Wellesley. That's not to say it's popular or necessary, but I know/know of a few people who have done it/tried it.</p>
<p>^^I watch a lot of Law and Order SVU so I've also developed this interesting outlook on things related to int3rw3b dating and can easily visualize the worst-case scenarios haha.</p>
<p>So correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems like the people find W a bad fit in regards to social life are the ones who had a lot of male company in high school, or a looking for a big party scene - as in lots of guys, booze, and a big crowd.</p>
<p>Well even though I go to a co-ed school, about 90% of my close friends are female. This isn't because I'm a "man hater" or anything like that, it just turned out that way. And while I don't want to be holed up in my room studying all night, I don't really want to go to a huge party with a bunch of people I don't know and get wasted (it would be fine sometimes, but definitely not my main social activitity). I'd rather hang out with friends, do dinner and a movie, maybe meet guys/girls from other schools (but through an activity not a frat party) or go out to town.</p>
<p>Does that make me a good fit for W? It seems to me that that's what a lot students do, but I don't want to be wrong and end up absolutely miserable if I end up at W (there's a thread on the board about bad first years that scares me).</p>
<p>^^From my anecdotal evidence, it does seem to me that people who are looking for a very traditional college social life are most often disappointed by Wellesley, which isn't a big surprise given that Wellesley by definition does not offer a traditional college experience. Not to say that all people who fit this description are unhappy with the social life, or that only people who fit this description are unhappy with the social life, but of the people I've known/known of who have expressed serious disappointment with the social life it seems to be a pretty common type. </p>
<p>I'm not so sure about the male company thing; the people I was closest with in high school (with the caveat that I wasn't terribly close to anyone) were male and I had a basically seamless transition to Wellesley. I really don't miss being around male students and my overall experience at Wellesley has been far and away better than my experience in high school. </p>
<p>I think your description of the kind of social life you would like to have sounds like a really good fit for Wellesley and a lot of students would describe themselves similarly. I wouldn't be put off by the student in the other thread; any school (even Harvard!) has some unhappy students, not uncommonly because their parents heavily influenced their decision to apply/attend a given school where they may not have been a good fit (which seemed to be the case for her). Of course not everyone who is unhappy at Wellesley was forced to attend by their parents, but if you have read up on Wellesley and taken an honest assessment of your personality and Wellesley's personality and decide that it seems like a good fit, I think the chances are very high that it is. I know two people who transfered away to other schools for this upcoming year, and I could have told you before they even came to Wellesley that it probably wasn't a great fit. Of course I don't really know you, but as I said before, your description sounds like one of a person who is likely to be a good fit for Wellesley, at least socially (some people who are unhappy are unhappy because Wellesley is not a good academic climate fit--we can talk about that too if you want).</p>
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So correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems like the people find W a bad fit in regards to social life are the ones who had a lot of male company in high school, or a looking for a big party scene - as in lots of guys, booze, and a big crowd.</p>
<p>Well even though I go to a co-ed school, about 90% of my close friends are female. This isn't because I'm a "man hater" or anything like that, it just turned out that way. And while I don't want to be holed up in my room studying all night, I don't really want to go to a huge party with a bunch of people I don't know and get wasted (it would be fine sometimes, but definitely not my main social activitity). I'd rather hang out with friends, do dinner and a movie, maybe meet guys/girls from other schools (but through an activity not a frat party) or go out to town.</p>
<p>Does that make me a good fit for W? It seems to me that that's what a lot students do, but I don't want to be wrong and end up absolutely miserable if I end up at W (there's a thread on the board about bad first years that scares me).
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Based on the way you describe yourself, I think you'll fit in great. I love how at wlzly can spend some weekends going out and some just having movie marathons with your friends. No one judges you or pressures you one way or the other. There are always other people to hang out with, whether on campus or off.</p>
<p>Thanks for your responses!</p>
<p>Advantagious, can you describe the academic climate? I know that classes are rigorous and that it won't be an "easy ride" by any means, but do students regularly get very stressed out by the workload? How do you find yours? Do you have time for extra currics?</p>