<p>Please tell me about the social life. In particular, I'm worried about the dearth of guys.
I love my guy friends and I can't imagine having to hit up frat/society parties and such just to meet people of the opposite sex. I've never been a fan of drunken parties anyways or a participant in random hook-ups.
So, anything that you would like to share that you know and/or have experienced would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks!</p>
<p>Well, finding boys here... dateworthy ones, at least, varies. In my experience, it's very easy to meet guys. Many of my friends have had multiple random hookups, and some have managed to catch actual boyfriends. A lot of times, meeting guys outside of the parties is dependant on your friends knowing guys. For instance, I met my boyfriend a few weeks into school, because an upperclasswoman that I knew invited some of her guy friends to a party hosted here that night.<br>
Through him I've met several other guys, a few of whom I now consider friends.<br>
Also, there are various ways to meet guys not at parties: taking classes at MIT, for one. There's also the orchestra, which includes students from Brandeis, and I think we have a joint concert band with another college as well. There are also a few orgs on campus that boys are in; I think they ship in boys for ballroom dancing. And of course, there's boyfriends of your friends, etc.<br>
I certainly haven't had much trouble meeting guys, but again, there are also some girls here who constantly bemoan the lack of males of the non-frat variety. Like many things here, it seems to vary wildly from person to person.<br>
But yeah. Yay boys. I really love this college for the guys I've gotten to meet; but I could be biased, since I'm still in awe of the fact that I met my boyfriend (my first boyfriend, btw... I'm really picky) after only 3 weeks here.<br>
Hope that wasn't too incoherent... I'm doing this because my brain is fried from studying for too long.</p>
<p>I posted this in another thread, but it seems appropriate in response to this thread, too.</p>
<p>Another "guys' girl" checking in here - Class of '04. Throughout high school I had always gotten along better with boys, but for some reason the all-female aspect of Wellesley didn't deter me from attending at all. I understood from the beginning that I would finally be in the company of many women who were much like me in the sense that they considered academics their highest priority. I was eager to finally have an opportunity to befriend and work alongside women like that. It sounded like fun to me. Before even arriving at Wellesley I had zero concern about the dearth of males.</p>
<p>All 4 years that I was at Wellesley I had NO problems at all meeting men on or off campus. I met many guys from Babson, Harvard, MIT, in addition non-students (older ones who had already graduated). In a place like Boston, it's really not hard to do. Sure, you will have to be more proactive about it than you would at other schools, but I didn't think think the "extra effort" was anything to gripe about. "Extra effort" to me was going to parties on campus, going to various events at other schools (dance ensemble performances, acappella concerts, plays, parties, politically-themed gatherings, etc. etc.), or participating in other activities not necessarily affiliated with any college(s). All of those things are going to be a lot of fun regardless of whether you end up meeting guys.</p>
<p>I will grant to you that there are plenty of women at Wellesley who didn't find it as easy to meet men (for friendship or otherwise) as I did. Given what I've just said, though, it was always a mystery to me as to why it was so difficult. I don't mean to say that I'm better than those people, but it sounds like they weren't trying that hard, or that perhaps they were looking in the wrong places and needed to seek out some different activities where they would meet different types of guys who you wouldn't necessarily encounter at a frat party or a nightclub.</p>
<p>Even without the men, I had a handful of close friends with Wellesley students who I had WONDERFUL times with doing all kinds of things. I had other Wellesley students with whom I wasn't quite as close, but who would still encourage me to join them to attend parties or casual gatherings, etc. - even something as simple as sitting with them to have dinner. With women so clever and hilariously funny, I definitely didn't feel that men were necessary to constantly have around. I suppose, however, it's also worth mentioning that although Wellesley women are for the most part extraordinary - not to mention always surrounding you - you will still need to be proactive even with finding the right Wellesley women to befriend. Wellesley women are all very intelligent and share the same passion for academics, but that doesn't mean that everyone there is destined to be best buddies with everyone else.</p>
<p>Hope that helps.</p>