Social scene

Colleges and Universities A-Z New York University
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<p>Well, I'm almost done with my AP exams (4 down, one to go!), and I really began to think of college life... I'm really excited about going to NYU, but I've been hearing about people doing drugs (on facebook, for instance). I know that people do drugs at practically every college, but I was wondering if the fact that I do not take drugs/smoke/drink will majorly affect my social life. I know that everyone does not take drugs/smoke/drink, but I've seen a lot of people talk about it, so I'm worried that I won't really have a social life. </p>

<p>I'm not going to start smoking/drinking/taking drugs just to get a better social life, though.</p>

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<p>You don't need to do them to get a better social life, you do them because they are fun. Thats how I see it. </p>

<p>Drinking is a huge part of the traditional college experience. Many people at NYU drink in their dorms or go out to bars on weekends. But from my experience, the people who dont drink are usually a minority in most 17+ age parties. It all depends on your circle of friends. </p>

<p>What I have observed is that non-drinkers usually have a beer or two with friends to join the social scene but not to become intoxicated, and at the same time, not bothered or asked why they dont drink.</p>

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<p>never ever ever buy drugs in the square (way too much attention from law enforcement). would you poke a sleeping lion in the eye? same principal.</p>

<p>drugs and booze are present at every college and anyone who tells you otherwise is a liar. it is my stance that they should not define your social life, rather enhance it if you choose to do them. if something works for you, keep doing it--especially if it means remaining sober. (the way it looks, were seriously going to need our wits about us for the whole "Writing the Essay" course, lol)</p>

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<p>maybe you should apply to live on a choices floor-i think it's a healthy living floor.</p>

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<p>There are alot of posts such as these, and I just want to say to people....dont listen to people who haven't gone to college yet, they usually don't know what they are talking about ( no offense or anyhing, but college is alot different when you get here)</p>

<p>Anyways, I can't think of ONE friend here who does not drink, and I know well over 100 people. Even my religious friends who technically aren't allowed to, ended up doing it eventually. Same with my friends back home, who said they'd never drink, and would chastise me for always drinking in HS (they were all drinking within 2 weeks). </p>

<p>I'm sure there's a few people who do not drink, but they tend to be the anti-social type (I usually make most of my friends outside of parties, and do alot of other things besides drinking, so its not like drinking alcohol is important at all to my friendship...just nobody has come up)</p>

<p>That being said, everybody doesn't drink excessively, but 95% of the things friends are going to plan are going to be alcohol related...usually dorm parties, bars, or clubs.You'll be fine if your willing to have a beer or two, but having none, and its going to be ackward.</p>

<p>As others have said, there's many other things to do in NYC besides drinking, but the truth is, very few people do it as an alternative of drinkining. </p>

<p>Social aspect of college is important, and i honestly feel that you need to drink...well not really drink, but go to places inwhich there is alcohol..in order to maintainin strong friendships, since thats what almost everyone does every thursday friday and saturday. (its not that people won';t be your freind, its that you wont be able to build strong friendships, since you wont get to hang out them alot) Its a big possibility you'll get religated to a small group of non-drinkers</p>

<p>I don't say this to promote drinking, i am rather sick of it, but the fact its a huge part of life here.</p>

<p>This long wandering passage being said...peer pressure coupled with wanting to make friends welcome week while missing all your friends at home...will cause you to start drinking =P</p>

<p>Weed you don't need to do, though its fun. I honestly view weed as healthier than alcohol. E is pretty excessive among the clubber crowd, but mostly just the women I've noticed...also not important to do. Coke is also big here, I'd never try that, and most of the people who do it are addicted, and it adversely affects their social life. </p>

<p>btw im a sternie and I have maintained good grades despite drinking and such excessively...</p>

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<p>I don't really have a problem going to a bar or anything- I just don't drink. I guess I'm just weird like that.
I was thinking about applying to the All the World's A Stage floor, but the choices floor is beginning to look like a slightly better place for me...</p>

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<p>The constant drinking scene... hiding behind fake IDs, throwing money away for some liquid, getting sick... making a fool of yourself and calling it "fun" - eh, my opinion is that it's <em>somewhat</em> over-rated.</p>

<p>Yes, don't feel bad or "weird" for taking a look at the Choices option.</p>

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<p>I'm going to have to disagree with a number of these posts. I'm a transfer student, and I don't drink, smoke, do any drugs, or any of that "fun" stuff. You don't need to to have a social life. Contrary popular belief, people aren't going to say "Dear God! S/he doesn't drink!? S/he isn't cool" and then ditch you. That isn't the case. And anyone who says that you need to drink for friends dillusional.</p>

<p>Nor is it a large part of college life. Yes, people drink. They drank before they got to college, and will continue to drink after college. It is not a huge deal where drinking is just the center of their world.</p>

<p>If you want to find people who don't drink/smoke/whatever, consider getting a wellness dorm, most people in there don't do any of the above. The plus side of this, is you don't have to deal with smoke drifting into your window from people outside nor raving drunk girls and guys running up and down the hall during finals' week - like lucky me gets to.</p>

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<p>jesminder are you a sardhar?!</p>

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<p>I can stand drinking. I can't stand drugs or smoking. </p>

<p>In fact, I thinking drinking is a social thing, and people shouldn't be turned off because they think everyone who drinks is a drunken wife-beater. People get together to have a beer or two while watching hockey all the time from where i come from.</p>

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<p>just wondering: where do you come from?</p>

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<p>Hockey. Where do you think? ;)</p>

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<p>you're from canada!</p>

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<p>I was going to guess Jupiter... It's very nice there this time of year.</p>

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<p>mmm...booze.</p>

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<p>The notion that drinking, smoking, or doing drugs is necessary to have a satisfying social life is ludicrous. There are plenty of people at NYU (and pretty much anywhere) who have a lot of fun without any kind of mind-altering substances. It's a matter of finding the right people, and with 20,000 undergraduate students, there's no reason you shouldn't be able to find at least one other person who shares the same preferences as you do. As long as you're willing to put out the effort to look.</p>

<p>On the other hand, it's college, and people will always be drinking and whatnot to have a good time. Parties and any social gathering place will probably have alcohol involved. If you feel comfortable constantly fielding questions of why you aren't drinking, then you should have no problem. You can decide to drink or not to drink. No one will force you, but you might get some weird looks. (I'm not sure if it's really all that fun being the only sober one anyway...)</p>

<p>Anyway, it's your choice. Either way, you can have a good time. It's more about how outgoing you are than about your personal drinking/drug choices.</p>