some advice from girls

<p>hi,
what should i do so that girls would be willing to be friends with me?give me the tactics that usually work.thanks</p>

<p>I don't think a cold, calculating approach ever works. Just be tactful and, as the cliche goes, "be yourself."</p>

<p>I'm hoping you want to become friends with girls you're not interested in because if not then you definitely won't be getting far with that approach with girls you do like.</p>

<p>Be nice, talk to them, don't make it seem like you want them. don't be pushy and don't get offended/worked up/in their face if they don't want to be best friends with you</p>

<p>these threads are a joke....... CC should not be a place to learn how to pick up girls...... how rediculous......join some activities , create a common ground... dont go after girls who arent interested... and dont try too hard... basically people who are successful in pickin up girls are the ones who do not place them up on a pedalstool...</p>

<p>Ironically, they actually seem to put girls below them.</p>

<p>yeah..simply put..be yourself .
my gf thought i was a jerk all last year cuz i only used her for hw answers and to get her to help me cram... haha...but thats cuz she never had the chance to know me.
then this summer i started talkin to her (because she actually didnt even know how to hug a guy... -_____-" )
and she started to like me
took me a few extra months to realize i liked her, but pretty much the thign is that i was myself..i started out as a friend and we figureed that we got along really well..and then it turned out to be more.</p>

<p>so just go with the flow , its all instinct.</p>

<p>dude stop thinking about it and just act like she's another guy...yet don't you know? Just talk to her like normal... but treat her like a girl.</p>

<p>got it ,thanks guys.</p>

<p>haha treat her like another guy but as a girl...sounds funny...but in all reality its true, we don't want you to treat us differently... for example: me and my best friend, my "lil brother", and my boyfriend were wrestling (actual wrestling) and they were not going easy on us because we were girls, they were treating us as if we were guys i had some big bruises after that :0( but I respected them a lot more because they didn't treat me differently because i'm a girl</p>

<p>Don't only decide to talk online. there a couple guys I've turned down becuase they only talk to me online and can't even make eye contact in person. yes it's hard to be shy, but if you can't even have a conversation in person there won't be much to a relationship.</p>

<p>my problem is that i'm in an allboys' school . so i've never had any specific contact with girls. but the ones that i have met are good friends of mine. probably it's my ability to make them laugh and play pranks on them. is that gonna work in the univ? is there any margin over there for fun or is it "be serious till u go to hell"? thanks once again, especially to reblin</p>

<p>I have an idea-- don't ask about social skills on an online message board. They might find that a bit unattractive.</p>

<p>bgrill,
u didn't quite answer my ques. still,i really not into this chatting stuff and i'm not the surf dude. i was referring to things that work in univ.</p>

<p>There are no "tactics". Lines and strategies do not work, girls can see through anything like that. Just don't be a creepy stalker, and if there is chemistry (that is, if you are "interested"), it will usually work out.</p>