<p>Quick bio- Rising sophomore at penn. Lived in the Quad. Dual degree student. New CC account just cause I feel like starting afresh. </p>
<p>Purpose- Share my unique experience and unique takeaways. It may or may not reflect your own experience, or your own opinion. It'll probably be controversial in nature. Oh and I'll answer any questions.</p>
<p>So I'm not here to provide generic information- so I won't talk about things where I don't really have much useful stuff to say. Like how hard classes are, how the food was to me, how I was <em>amazed</em> by how many club offerings there were, etc. I don't want to waste your time and my time. Feel free to ask me anything though, in the comments.</p>
<p>Making friends
Everyone will tell you that first semester is a time to join a lot of clubs, get out of your comfort zone to meet people, all for the purpose of expanding your network and making a lot of friends. I'm used to having a lot of friends and a handful of close friends, so this wasn't really a worry for me- especially since I already had a handful of guys and female-friends I knew already. However, I find myself currently slightly frustrated. </p>
<p>I met a lot of people first semester (though I would've met 2x more if I had partied more - more on that later) and felt like I had a lot of friends. What I didn't realize, however, is that the hunt for your best friends is the real tough part. By second semester, you'll be hanging out with a "main group" more often, while in first semester you're more in a huge sea of friends. So be aware, friend-groups and cliques will happen. And you should try and figure it out first semester while you're making a lot of friends. It's easy to make a lot of friends, but it's hard to find that perfect group of friends that you enjoy being a part of. </p>
<p>Right now I'm not entirely happy with my "main group" of friends, just due to differences in our goals and personalities. In particular, I drink and socialize a little bit more than them (and I don't really do that stuff very often) and think about my career/grades a little bit less than them. That sounds a little nit-picky, but I feel it a problem when I want to go drink/party on any given weekend and my best friends are never really there for me. I have reach out to other friends if I want to do things that I want to - so it isn't a perfect match (among other smallish differences). And now that I'm a rising sophomore, the chance of me finding a new friend group is fairly difficult. Which is why I feel quasi-forced into pledging a fraternity. More on that later. </p>
<p>The Wharton dichotomy
Another thing, probably more juicy, is how penn's "schools" play into effect. In particular, Wharton. As a dual-degree student in Wharton, I feel more bound to wharton than I am to my other school. Actually... 90% of my friends are Wharton... that is, sort of, a problem.</p>
<p>It's not just me; it's probably everyone. It's because Wharton IS distinct from the college/engineering school. In NSO, there are a few separate events just for Wharton students because of cohort-activities. And the fact that Wharton students take a different core/elective requirements. And that wharton students use huntsman, the newest library at penn (and only Wharton students can log onto those computers, or reserve those GSRs). Then there's MGMT 100, a first semester wharton class that really binds the wharton community together. And other classes of course, which are all wharton and filled with problem sets that you'll work on with other wharton people. & the fact that on campus recruiting is basically for wharton students... and probably a bit more.</p>
<p>The result is all my friends are wharton, and I feel like I go to a 500 students per class small liberal arts college. Not a 2k per class university. When I meet someone and we eventually ask what school we're in, the "I'm in wharton" and "Oh cool I'm in the college studying _____" most often means "Nice to meet you, but we won't really hang out or see each other again". Unless you're a dashingly cute female ;)</p>
<p>It's not arrogance- it's just the fact that our paths won't cross. I'll be doing my problem set for my wharton core classes, be working on those finance internships, be studying in Huntsman, using my Wharton printing... yeah. It's unfortunate. But obviously you will make friends in the college/engineering, just not a whole lot. And it'll sometimes feel against-the-grain because your daily schedules are fundamentally different. The absolute worst is when you meet a college econ major (no offense to them though!) who explains they plan on trying to transfer to Wharton. Jeez, that just makes me feel uneasy. </p>
<p>Frat presence & parties
Penn is something like 30% greek I think, and it's known as the "party school" for the ivies. For uniquely personal reasons, I basically didn't really do much partying or frat stuff first semester. Probably a big mistake, cause now that I want to join a frat, I don't have many connections or information. Also the fact that I missed a huge opportunity to meet more people. The way I feel about it is that frat life creates an "in group" and "out group". Those that are involved in greeklife and those that are not. I feel distinctly in the out-group right now because it's not entirely convenient to get into a frat party (if you don't have "connections" with brothers, you need a female-to-male ratio as high as 5-1), and the fact that more and more people join frats, and the frat becomes their main social circle, with you no longer in it. To give an analogy, frats sort of create an "economic efficiency" by giving an unequal cut in surplus to those in and out... it would be more equally divided if it were not there. Hope you followed that lol. </p>
<p>Partying will definitely be the "hype" early on. I'm sorta conservative, and for a particular personal reason, I didn't join for most of first semester. I was also slightly morally opposed, but not such that I wouldn't drink or party. I ended up feeling some resentment for the sloppier side of hook-up culture- it's just disheartening to see girls confused with what they're doing because they were a goodie-2-shoes their entire life. Things do get more clear by 2nd semester, and more mature as the years go on though. On the topic of the NYT article, f*** that. It's misleading. </p>
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<p>As a closing note, I did have a great freshman year. It was fun, and as with most freshmen years, full of adventure and stories to tell. As you might've guessed, there are a few regrets, but on a positive note, that just means I have more aspirations for next year. </p>
<p>Oh and as I'm re-reading this, I realize it's fairly negative. This isn't meant to be a "snapshot" of my freshmen year, just some unique things and under-spoken things that I've learned. It's my own personal takeaway anyways, not necessarily yours. </p>
<p>I hope this was insightful. Ask me anything.</p>