<p>My son went to school half way across the country from us. I have "weaned" myself from him so to speak ........it was hard and I hated it, but I did it. I have mixed feelings about him coming home because I dread going through "letting go" again. It sounds crazy to put it in writing, but there you have it. Plus, he's going to be a totally different kid. We've seen him for short spurts and it was great. I'm wonder how it will play out after a couple weeks.</p>
<p>Any tips or thoughts on how to live with my new adult? :)</p>
<p>Why is he coming home for the entire summer? I don't quite get that part. I liked visiting home but never went home to live. I cannot wait to read the responses however.</p>
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Why is he coming home for the entire summer?
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A lot of college students live at home during the summer. It's much cheaper to live at home and work than to pay for food and a place to live at the same time. It also allows the student to spend time with parents, younger siblings, and friends from home. </p>
<p>I have no thoughts or tips. That's up to my parents to figure out. :)</p>
<p>You'll enjoy him home. We always enjoy our son home. (But then, I'm usually ready for him to leave - he's so messy! He loves to cook - but, groan, the kitchen... :) )</p>
<p>My son works all summer, so we don't actually see him that much, and this summer he isn't coming home because he's staying at school to do research. </p>
<p>And it is hard to see them off again in the fall!</p>
<p>I pushed him long-distance not to come home..........to use his university resources to find some kind of work for the summer. I think he'll be bored here, but he will come home and work locally.</p>
<p>I haven't experienced this yet. I'll be dealing with my own difficult summer adjustment - kids going off to sleep-away camp for the first time (4 weeks!). In college, I never went home for the summer. I worked on campus the first year and at internships the other 2 years. I did go home for visits, but that was it - maybe 1 weekend/summer. I never WANTED to spend the summer at home. Too much family stuff to deal with there. I guess you can take it as a good sign that your S is willing to return home. You must be doing something right!</p>
<p>Going home is easy really. Moving on and making a life and job elsewhere is more challenging. I didn't say you shouldn't go home I just said I didn't. I think that going home for some is the best path. I don't however think it makes resume better in the long run. Just my opinion.</p>
<p>DD is coming home this summer from across the country. She, however, won't be here until June 14. She has a great summer job that she will do until Sept. 12 or so...then she goes back to school. DS will be gone for nine weeks of the summer. He'll be here for one week at the beginning of the summer and about 2 at the end.</p>
<p>momoffive I can fully relate. I actually told my D, "don't plan on coming home, and if you do, you'd better plan on working at least 40 hours a week, and being under my rule again!"</p>
<p>Being industrious, she got to work filling out camp counselor job apps online, and scored a cool camp job in the Poconos (she's been a junior counselor for the past few years).</p>
<p>She will however be home for about 5 weeks before it starts. I "think" I can handle that, but can she?? Maybe she'll take some temp work. Or a brief internship.</p>
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That of course depends on what you're doing. If you have a competitive internship with an international company, for example, your resume's going to look nice whether you're living at home or in the next city over (which won't directly show up on your resume, in any event). I think that it's important for college students to work hard and try to save money to get a good financial grounding for an unpaid summer job/experience in the future or for eventual grad/professional school. I also think that it's important for older teenagers to work on keeping and stabilizing their family relationships which can easily fade while away from home. Sometimes going away is a lot easier than living at home and trying to make it work with parents and be a positive role model for younger sisters and brothers. As long as the student has independence and life skills--which can be gained while at college, during a term off, during study abroad, or even while living at home--I think getting a good job while living at home, where the student is saving money and rekindling family ties, is just as good as living away from home, both at that moment and for the future.</p>
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<p>Interesting comment. I guess I was a slacker on that account. I actually worked for money but Summers 1&2 cost me money. It worked out well in the long run because by Summer 3 I was all good on the income and that factored into entire last year. I do think my summer 1&2 jobs helped in my graduate school pursuit however. You know there isn't one right answer to this. I just know what I thought, think now and have seen many friends do. NOT going home early has paid off better in the long run for almost all friends of mine. </p>
<p>As I said going home for some is just fine.</p>
<p>What to do?? Enjoy them while you can - things will change as the years go by :)</p>
<p>My gal has not come for a summer yet - well except for a few weeks when her brother got married - other than that - she had great summer experiences working in another part of the country.</p>
<p>My son hasn't even left for college for freshman year, and I've already made it clear that he better have plans for summer next year. Our house wasn't big enough to have the children change custody and live with me, so he had to have a loft in the living room. When he leaves, we're taking the living room back, so he'll have to sleep on the couch if he spends summers here.</p>
<p>My DD spent some of the first summer at home after freshman year working at a daycamp, then headed off to China to teach English at an ESL camp. Second summer she came home to recoup from mono, finish up incompletes, worked at a one week history camp, then headed off mid-July for semester in Chile. This summer -well, plans are still up in the air, and she may end up at home.. and you know what? That's just fine! It's so expensive to rent a place that it seems a waste for your kid to spend $600-700 a month to pay rent and utilities, when they can work from home for free. Internships, paid or unpaid, are great - but I'm trusting that my kids can meander their ways into an adult life the way they want to, and if that means summers at home, great. I LIKE my kids.</p>
<p>AM--amen. I have two non-resume builders; they do what they do because they want to, and/or because they need the money. The future will take care of itself; they are smart kids with good educations and good heads on their shoulders.</p>
<p>My D was home the whole first summer, not much of the second, half of the third. My S has been home most of every summer, but working long hours. I'm always happy for them when they find something that takes them away, and I'm always happy when they're home.</p>
<p>I hope I never wish them away, but always see them going away gladly under their own steam.</p>
<p>Garland - I hope I never wish them away..........</p>
<p>Same here - I love it when my kiddos come home - but I also have to understand - tho digging in my heels to slow things down - my kiddos have to do/be where they are :( Their lives have taken very different paths - and we try hard to understand that what they seek is not here at home :( I think the most difficult part of the letting go - was knowing that neither of my kiddos would be ''coming home'' at the end of college - that was a tough nut to swallow for us.</p>
<p>Knowing they are both very happy with their choices tho - makes it bit easier to deal with - still them miss them like mad tho - we are in touch often - that helps alot :)</p>
<p>im a student but both my sisters went home during the summers(theyve now graduated and moved on)
my middle sister spent 3 summers at home...got jobs one job gave her a close friend that she still has and i can see her having for a long time the friend just visited my sister in california(she went to keep sister company sisters bf just went to IRAQ last week)they went to Disneyland...
my oldest sister a artsy person loves photography...did a lot of picture taking for local newspaper...she had friends come to her hung out w/ hs friends shes a little more shy then middle sister...</p>
<p>i love them both but both dont have a home to go home to we moved me and my parents they just call it now the country house or my parents house</p>