<p>Is this uncommon? (similar to freshman guy dating junior girl)</p>
<p>Cause that sophomore guy is me and I like this girl who's a senior. Will she find it awkward being in a relationship with me?</p>
<p>For the girls on here, how do you feel about dating a guy in college 2 years younger than you?</p>
<p>I wouldn’t date someone that much younger than me…
Depends on the girl though.</p>
<p>^^^</p>
<p>Why not? Is 2 years really a big difference? What if he was 1 year younger than you?</p>
<p>I mean, I can see why in high school it would be a lot more awkward, since the guy may not be mature, but if a college guy is 19 and mature, why would a 21-year old girl care?</p>
<p>Well if you don’t care and she doesn’t care…what seems to be the problem?</p>
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<p>Well there’s only one person who can answer that and I sure hope she doesn’t post on here…</p>
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<p>No, it’s not.
Hell, if you want a pretty out there example, look at Demi and Ashton. Hot couple, too. </p>
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Can’t answer that for you. That’s up to her. If she shows interest in you, then you can probably wager that she’s okay – to some extent – with it.</p>
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It’s highly unlikely that I would do that. I won’t say never since there’s always a possibility, but I don’t foresee that happening.
I probably wouldn’t even date someone my own age because I tend to be more attracted to older guys.</p>
<p>Two years is a HUGE difference in college. In a year she is going to be starting a career or grad school, likely moving away, being a “real” adult. The sophomore is only just choosing a major. I am a junior and there is already a huge maturity difference between me and many sophomores because we are in entirely different stages of life-- I am preparing to take my LSATS this summer and they are still picking majors and learning to focus themselves on their future career. It may be worth a shot, but I’d be hesitant to date someone even one class beneath me. My boyfriend and I are both '11ers but he is graduating a semester late and it is a SERIOUS complication to our relationship. I am moving 8 hours away after I graduate, won’t be there for his graduation, and we can’t move in together right away like we wanted to. It can cause some real complications to graduate college and be with someone who is still there.</p>
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<p>Wow, seriously? I am a sophomore, boyfriend is a freshmen (even though he is a year older than I). I can graduate next year if I wanted to, he will probably have to take 5 years to graduate due to taking remedial classes. There is no complication in our relationship, I don’t understand the complication in yours, honestly. So what if you move 8 hours away? Do you guys go to the same college now? If your relationship is strong, it can survive being away for a while. </p>
<p>To the OP: I don’t see the big deal. As long as you are both on the same maturity level (reasonably) then there shouldn’t be a big deal. So what if you guys are a few years apart? You obviously like each other. Go for it!</p>
<p>The complication in ours is that we planned to get married when we finished school, and we still will, but now it’s bumped back a year or more because we won’t even be able to see each other for at least 6 months if not a full year. It’s not like it won’t be fine in the end, but it is certainly not an ideal situation. Definitely not something I’d have leapt into knowingly, but because I love my boyfriend and this is how it is, this is how it is. We go to college about 20 minutes away from each other now and see each other once or twice a week if that. We are used to seeing each other three or four times a week, so the distance is very emotionally draining on us both and it is sure to be worse when I am even farther away. Like I said, it’s not the end of the world, but if it were even longer-- say if he was a freshman and we were two years apart like the OP is suggesting, I could very well move out of the country for my career and still leave him in school for two more years. You don’t think that would be complicated? Particularly for a relationship that’s only a year old.</p>
<p>The guy I’m interested in is a freshman, but he looks pretty old I think I’m two years older than him but I’m not sure. I’m a soph btw. He’s a shy nerd so I’m mostly the one doing the talking. </p>
<p>I used to ONLY go for guys older than me but you’re in college, by now you should have reached an optimal level of maturity. I’m not gonna lie, the only reason I approached him in the first place was because he was super cute. Then I just went in for the kill. </p>
<p>We do have lots in common too, but if you like her you should go for it! If I were her I’d think it’d be cute.</p>
<p>I don’t think too many senior girls would be thrilled with dating a sophomore. There’s the maturity/different stages of life thing, and she’s about to graduate and move on with her life. You guys could have fun for a year, but I don’t think you should really expect to carry it past that. You’d still have 2 more years of college to have fun and mess around, would you really want to try to carry on a long-distance relationship indefinitely like that?</p>
<p>Twisted, I’m sorry I didn’t mean to offend you if I did. I was used to seeing my boyfriend every day all day and now I see him for a weekend every other week or so. I am happy that you will be ok in the end, but I still don’t see how it would put a major strain on the relationship already. That is all I meant. I guess different strokes for different folks.</p>
<p>It’s more of a complication in our plans than in the relationship itself, for the relationship it is just an inconvenience. Perhaps we are mincing words. It was just sort of a jarring wake up call to be looking at apartments for after graduation and making all our plans only to find out that SURPRISE we won’t even be seeing each other that whole year except maybe during the break between semesters. I am likely leaving the state or the country, the closest I will be is an 8 hour drive away with neither of us owning a car. He will be trapped where he is for another 6 months to a year. If we had only been together a year we wouldn’t have made it through that, he and I in particular seem to not handle long distance well but it’s gotten better over time. We’ll have been together three years by then so we’ll be in a much better position to cope, but after one year I don’t see it happening for us. If that weren’t a strain long distance relationships would work all the time-- notice they usually don’t?</p>
<p>I am just not the sort of person who likes to wait around for an SO to catch up with me unless I have to. I am a very driven, focused individual with plans for my life and was not prepared to put them on hold for someone behind me. Because David fell behind I am going to accommodate him any way I can, but I wouldn’t have walked into a relationship knowing full well that I was going to be in a position to do this for two years unless I REALLY liked the guy.</p>
<p>I’ve seen it happen a few times, though of course it’s more likely to happen the other way around (guy is older).</p>
<p>The reason being that every year in college is a HUGE maturity leap. Hell, you’re taking a high school moron (they are like middle-schoolers to me now in behavior) into a functioning adult who finds his own place, cooks his own meals, and pays the bills on time.</p>
<p>That being said, there are several ways a younger college guy can attract older girls. </p>
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<li>You are physically very attractive, of course. </li>
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<p>Or 2. You are already good with women/ have great “game” (gah I hate that word — I guess I mean a good handle of male-female dynamics and using your social skills to your advantage).</p>
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<li>You are actually unusually mature beyond your age (the most rare of the three IMO).</li>
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<p>If you are lacking all three currently, I would focus on easier prey aka younger girls who are probably hotter than whoever you’re currently infatuated/ obsessed with anyway.</p>
<p>That being said, I have known some girls wherein the arbitary age number itself is actually relevant. Like, one girl thought this guy was 21 and liked him, but then when she found out he was 19 — she didn’t like him anymore. Same guy, am I right? And no, the guy wasn’t me. But I hooked up with the girl when she met me and found out I was 21.</p>
<p>Lessons:</p>
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<li><p>Girls are F’ing arbitrary on their standards sometimes — so go for it, if she doesn’t like you, move on quickly to the next one.</p></li>
<li><p>As a guy, each new year you survive and age (or appear), women will find you more attractive – regardless if you actually matured at all, or improved in any way whatsoever. Yay for us!</p></li>
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<p>Will she find it awkward being in a relationship with me?</p>
<p>Not awkward just undesirable. I would prefer not to. Not a senior yet but I wouldn’t even want to date a senior if I was a sophomore. They are leaving, maybe even leaving the country, very most likely the state, to go off and to do really important things that you can’t really be apart of. That just depresses me that in a few months they’ll be gone. I wouldn’t put myself in that position.</p>
<p>It can happen, and it’s not at all uncommon.
It’s just that I personally wouldn’t feel right dating a guy younger or shorter or thinner than me.
A lot of people dont see relationships that way and I’m fine with it.
If both you and her dont have a problem with it, then i say go for it!</p>
<p>I’m not saying I want tall old fat guys, just to clarify. (;</p>
<p>Honestly though…if I heard of a sophomore dating a senior I would be like <a href=“http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a1Y73sPHKxw[/url]”>www.youtube.com/watch?v=a1Y73sPHKxw</a>.</p>
<p>lollll thanks for that!
i dont think thats very encouraging though…</p>
<p>I like older guys so probably would avoid the younger ones.
However its not uncommon for others to date someone older/younger.
My bf just graduated and I’m junior. I was a freshman and he was a junior when we met, so I don’t think its impossible, just think its more common for guys to date younger girls.</p>
<p>It’s more of the women than the men that drives the equation here.</p>
<p>In college, pretty much the peak of male sexual drive, we’ll stick ourselves into anything that’ll let us pretty much (well, usually something that looks decent and is under 200 lbs).</p>
<p>Even a girl who is 22 is still young and good-looking. The reason guys might go after younger girls is because 1. They are impressed by your age/ confidence more than the older ones and 2. They defer more to your decisions usually which may be a plus to some guys. It’s mostly because girls like older guys. I would not be surprised if it was a status thing partially as well for a girl to be with an older guy.</p>