<p>Ok so I am in a sorority, Alpha Xi Delta, fuzzies represent!! and I used to love it so much... I joined my freshman year and I am a sophomore, so I have been doing it for 2 years.. I just don't love it anymore. I did it to make friends in college and to meet hot guys and party but.. I have kind of lost interest in that, I feel like I have friends in college, and I live at home so I don't spend much time on campus anyway (accept for classes) I just want to finish these next 2 years and get out.. and go to a good law school which will probably be out of state. Also I just can't afford it anymore paying bills and then extremely expensive sorority dues every month is becoming too difficult. I feel like I need to focus on keeping my GPA up and just doing the things that I want to do and enjoy doing, and I don't enjoy it anymore (and I haven't even met any hot guys to have sex with booo) lol so I don't know what to do, I don't want to be a loser but I dont want to waste my money either which I am. Is it better to be inside the clique and unhappy than outside and a loser?? I just want to know if you think everything will work out?? Like if I drop it will I still.. be ok?? Will I meet someone to date and be with?? Will I be an utter loser.. I don't know?</p>
<p>If it has become unenjoyable, a financial burden, and too time consuming, drop it.
It’s not a big deal. Your real friends will stay your friends.</p>
<p>nysmile’s exactly right, you should drop it.</p>
<p>People join and leave sororities all the time. Don’t worry about it! My friend left her sorority to concentrate on her academics and she still has her closest friends with her… if someone drops you just because you don’t live in the same house, then they’re not worth it. Do what makes YOU happy. :)</p>
<p>I pledged into a sorority in my Freshman year and ended up quitting so that I could go try out “bigger and better” things. I really regret that decision now. I think that being a part of a sorority has fantastic benefits. You should try out for a leadership chair or some position of leadership within your sorority. If you plan on going to law school that will look great on your application! It’s also great for job networking, even after you graduate, because you’ll be a member of AXiD Alumni. I think you should really think about it. I mean you already put a lot of time and money into this, so maybe you should stick it out.</p>
<p>At least talk to your Big or some other sisters and see if they’ve ever felt the same way. Don’t just quit. It’s your choice but all I’m saying is that you should make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons before you do anything rash! :)</p>
<p>Good luck and I know dues are a pain, I was only paying for like 4 months and I still got sick of it. So I know how you feel. I just don’t want you to regret it like I did. I hope you figure it out!</p>
<p>First of all, finding someone to sleep with should REALLY not be the main purpose of your sorority membership! If you’re only looking at it in that light, no wonder you aren’t “feeling it.” Think very, very hard before you drop–once you officially do so, there are no do-overs in terms of national sororities (and you can’t rejoin AXiD if you officially resign membership). Also, like Noella said, your membership in AXiD, if you stay, is lifelong. </p>
<p>I was in a sorority in college (graduated in May), and there were honestly times when my sorority really frustrated me. I think the same is true for most people in sororities or really any organization–it’s not going to be wonderful all day, every day. That’s just life. I briefly considered dropping at times, but I’m very thankful I didn’t–the good really outweighed the bad, and I’m proud and happy to call myself an alumna of my sorority. Also, I noticed that when girls dropped, they tended to drift away from the remaining members–not intentionally, but just as natural process. Of course, in some cases, girls who dropped did remain close friends with girls who remained members, so friendships can and do definitely stay intact. </p>
<p>Ultimately, it’s your decision–if it’s really not worth it to you (financially and personally), then drop. Just weigh the pros and cons carefully before you do. And do talk to your Big or close friends in the house about how you’re feeling… I found that really helpful at times.</p>
<p>I’m going to ask you to consider the reason why you joined your sorority and what it means to you. What originally made you join? What did you learn about the sorority? What are the positives and negatives?</p>
<p>Think about the lifelong membership of your sorority and what the sorority’s values (and ritual) mean to you. Is it in line with your own values?</p>
<p>Focusing on academics isn’t about quitting a sorority. In fact, your sorority should be a source of academic support. Similarly, isn’t it always beneficial to make more good friends?</p>
<p>Talk this out with some of your sorority sisters and see how they feel. Perhaps you just haven’t put in the investment needed to reap the benefits of your sorority. If you joined your sorority and only go to the parties, you will only get the parties and nothing else. You really have to leverage your membership as an opportunity to make lifelong friends, create opportunities to explore your areas of interest, etc.</p>
<p>Finally, I highly suggest that you remove the name of your sorority from your post. This is something that’s highly personal and should be kept between you and your sorority. There’s no need to be spreading dirty laundry online.</p>
<p>I didn’t say anything bad about the sorority it just isn’t for me… I just wanted to meet hot guys and hook up… and i didnt do that so…</p>
<p>There are places that don’t cost $45,000+ per year where you can meet hot guys and hook up lol…</p>
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<p>Well, dropping is a big decision, but if it really isn’t for you, then you should drop.</p>
<p>However, a few other things for you to consider:</p>
<ul>
<li><p>You said you wanted to focus on GPA and academics. Can you look towards your sorority to help you accomplish that goal?</p></li>
<li><p>Your sorority gave you a bid and initiated you for a reason. Think about what that reason may be.</p></li>
</ul>
<p>As for hooking up, I have one suggestion: run for some student gov’t position or try to get a campus job that allows you to meet many people. You will be invited to several parties, and you can hook up with hot guys there. Personally speaking, I know of this girl who didn’t fit into any sorority at all, but she appears at more fraternity parties than any actual sorority girl I know.</p>
<p>If you are a girl then you really don’t need to be in a sorority to go to parties. Just ask any friends you have who are in a fraternity where the party is at. Honestly sororities aren’t necessary for a great social life while being in a fraternity pretty much is (at least this is true at southern schools).</p>
<p>If you want to drop then go right ahead.</p>