<p>I went to orientation week on Wednesday and I already feel like dropping out. I have never lived away from home before and I'm homesick. I actually can't describe the feelings but I just cry all the time and have no control over it. I'm staying on campus which I hate. I'm not a party animal,instead I'm quiet. I had a few close friends in HS and we would go to a movie or for a meal or something but my roomates are wild. One of them had her boyfriend stay over on my first night. There was a party next door so I couldn't sleep and the whole thing is overwhelming me right now . So I was wondering if someone could give me some advice.</p>
<p>I was wondering if it's possible to meet people who are like myself and where would be the best place?</p>
<p>Secondly I was wondering if things will calm down after a few weeks when classes start or are there going to be loud parties every night. I can get one night a week but every night???</p>
<p>Remember that it is still orientation week. For some, that could be the time of their lives, but in my experience things will calm down as classes start. If you are at a large college, then you should have no problem in eventually meeting some people like yourself. Try going to some clubs of your interest or try befriending people from your classes. I've made quite a few close friends from my study groups!</p>
<p>I felt the same way my frosh year when I went in for orientation. Bad roomie, couldn't seem to find the quiet-non-party-animals like myself. Cried nonstop for days. Unfortunately/fortunately: moral of the story: I transferred the very next semester. I'm happier than ever. </p>
<p>Do take goyoungha's advice and try to join some clubs that interest you and form study groups. What I always try to do is find an area in a classroom where I know the quieter kids are going to sit (or I just look and see where they sit the first day) and then I go sit with them.</p>
<p>Best of luck to you. I hope things get better :)</p>
<p>If you're religious, joining a club related to your religion could help you connect with people whose values are more in line with yours.</p>
<p>As others have suggested, joining clubs is a good way to meet like-minded people. Typically the service-oriented and professional-oriented clubs attract more of the students who are less into partying.</p>
<p>Have a chat with your RA, and look for what if available via your advisor and what counseling services are available to you. If there is a wellness/dry type dorm that is voluntary, make a visit and try to meet folks living there, you may find a few more folks just like yourself. There are other freshman felling the same way, and looking for someone just like you.</p>
<p>One additional comment: You need to set some boundaries with your roommate because it's inappropriate for her to have her boyfriend spending the night if you're there in the room . You are not being a prude to be offended by this or to feel uncomfortable with this situation. You also shouldn't have to sleep elsewhere so she can sleep with her boyfriend. The time to address it is now before things have gone on so long that she assumes she's doing this with your total approval.</p>
<p>Thanks for all of the advice so far. I probably should have mentioned that we are not in the same room. We're in seperate rooms but seperated by a piece of cardboard really!!!I can ever hear her striking matches.</p>
<p>I am Catholic and there is a pioneers club but I'm not very religious and have taken a drink before so it would be hypocritical to join. </p>
<p>I really can't transfer as the course I'm doing is the only one in the country.
So I'll try and stick it out anyway.</p>
<p>There is a possibility that I could move to a house i.e live in a house with a family which would be cheaper. I just thought that it would hav prevented me from meeting new people. But' if things aren't better by Christmas I mightn't have a choice. </p>
<p>I guess the fact that I'm an only child doesn't help as I'm not used to noise etc..</p>
<p>Go with the above posters' suggestions- join a club or activity to help you build a base for friendships. Orientation week is always crazy- everywhere you see freshmen taking in their first breath of freedom and independence.</p>
<p>I'm also quiet and shy too so I always have to look a little harder to find people to chill with. While everyone seems into drinking and partying- some of the excitment WILL wear off for some. If they say that they're just looking to stay in their rooms and chillin' instead of hitting up the bars, ask if you could do something low-key with them. They'll be happy to have sober company to watch movies or play games with. Just be patience and wait things out.</p>
<p>I don't recommend moving into a house with a family- stay in the dorms! It's a great place to meet people. You can change dorms if you find the one you're currently living to be too loud for you- see if you can find substance-free ones that will tend to be quieter. I HATE noise myself- sometimes I just blare my music to drown out all the screaming outside.</p>
<p>Try to make the most of your first semester before making any changes involving transferring or living off-campus.</p>
<p>"I am Catholic and there is a pioneers club but I'm not very religious and have taken a drink before so it would be hypocritical to join. "</p>
<p>Check the club out before making up your mind. I would bet money that it is not filled with people who perfectly follow Catholicism or have never taken a drink. I would imagine, though, that people choosing to join a religious club may be interested in doing more than partying or hanging around with people whose main social activity is getting drunk.</p>
<p>You have nothing to lose by going to a meeting or two.</p>
<p>I felt JUST like you at this point during my orientation (which was 2 weeks ago). Everybody around me was partying and seemed to know each other already, I was lonely and homesick, and it was horrible. But trust me, things will fall into place. I now have a group of friends, most of whom don't drink, and we hang out all the time. I've joined the ballroom dancing team, which is fun, and I'm planning to do so much. I've even become closer to the people in my hall, who are all major partiers. Just hang in there: you're totally not alone.</p>
<p>hang in there. it must be really different from what you're used to now...but just stay strong it will be fine colleges are big you'll find someone like urself</p>
<p>Oh my gosh, I soooo know what your talking about ! I am not a partier and dont drink, which is what most of the kids do around here on the weekends. I am in a single room, but the girls next door are so loud at night. The first few nights of college I felt like killing myself I was so homesick. I am about 7 hours from home. I still am homesick...but it does get better. Join clubs to find people with common interests. And remember you can have fun without partying. There are others in the same boat as you.</p>
<p>Oh geez. I know it's overwhelming for the first few weeks. I lived away from my home for 3-4 yrs now (i lived away from my parents since 11th grade) and it was MUCH worse than living in college dorms. It'll get better and you've only been there for 3 DAYS. come on now</p>
<p>"One additional comment: You need to set some boundaries with your roommate because it's inappropriate for her to have her boyfriend spending the night if you're there in the room ."
Come on....</p>
<p>It's not her room. If it was her room, they'd have to come to some kind of agreement.</p>
<p>Yes they are very loud. I have no problem with her having a boyfriend over. But our walls are paper thin and at 3am and 4am when they were screaming and giggling it did start to get irritating!</p>
<p>Hang in there. My D is an only child and felt the same as you freshman year. Some kids can jump into college with both feet and total abandon, others need take it much slower and there is nothing wrong with that. Have faith, things will work out but it takes time. Wish you all the best!</p>