Now that I think our daughter is finally settling into life at BS, it’s time to turn the focus onto our son. It is clear to us now that we approached our daughter’s BS application process incorrectly. Thankfully, she ended up at a great school. But I’d like to start our son’s BS journey on the right foot with eyes that are open a bit wider, and more time spent really getting to know these schools.
He’s currently in 7th grade at a private K-12 school that he started this year. Yes it’s early, but one of the main things we learned last time is that our daughter / we did not know enough about the schools before her tour/interview. I really wish there was an option to do a tour early on and then an interview later so kids can process the info a bit more, and research things they want to get more info on. But I digress.
He is very mathematically talented, but struggles with reading and writing. He has two learning disorders which we are currently working on, but reading/writing will probably never be his strong suit. His math skills are quite impressive, but he often rushes through work so his grades don’t alway reflect his ability. He is in Honors Algebra 1 this year, so he’ll have honors geometry as an 8th grader. His report card tends to be As and A-s but that is a bit up in the air with his new school as we don’t quite know how they grade and it’s more academically rigorous than his previous private school. Either way, we still expect mostly As, but I wouldn’t be surprised if he had a B or two. He took the mid level SSAT last spring for admittance into his current school and scored 97% in math and something awful like 45% in verbal. He will need to work on that. One major issue academically? He’s not super hard working. He does what he needs to get by, but isn’t going above and beyond to impress anyone. But he’s a really nice, well behaved kid. Because he’s very quiet at school, I worry about teacher recommendations (new school plus shy kid…). He plays three sports a year at school: soccer, lax, tennis, and has played rec/club lax but has taken a year off. Right now, he’s in no sports bcs of covid. He’s a good player, but not a stand out in any sport. We could work on this over the next 12 months too as he’d way rather be on a playing field than in class. He’s played saxophone for two years in the school band, but because wind instruments aren’t allowed this year (covid again), he’s learning classical guitar for “band”. I’m not sure which of these he will continue next year, I’m hoping both. He participated in student government at his old school, but again may be too shy to run this year. He also spends three weeks at summer camp in Maine, except for last summer because, again, of covid. I love this kid to pieces, but he’s not our “shoot for the stars” BS kid.
Things we are looking for in his school: location, location location. Since we are a plane ride away from every boarding school, our daughter is in NJ, and we have family in NJ and Rhode Island, we’d love to keep our search in the NJ/CT/RI area. Maybe southern Mass too. Schools we will definitely look at are Lville (sister is there), Taft (close cousin is there), and St. George’s. Of these, I think SGS would be the best fit for him. Obviously Lville and Taft would be major reaches for him. Even if he got in, I’m not sure he’d enjoy the faster pace of a school like Lville, so it’s possible he will not apply there. So I’m really looking to add more schools that are similar to SGS. Tabor comes to mind (but a bit of a stretch distance wise from NJ) and Westminster too, but I know very little about either of them. I’d also appreciate honest thoughts on his ability to get into SGS/Tabor/Westy etc. The only other “checklist” requirement is a high percentage of boarders, since he won’t be able to head home every weekend. And for admissions purposes, he will be full pay.
Also, what would your suggestions be to strengthen his application? SSAT work is obviously necessary and he already meets with a tutor once a week to improve his writing. As a side note, his current school is a stickler for good writing skills, so we are hoping to see big strides in that over the school year. Any other areas he should work on over the next 18 months?
I look forward to your suggestions!