<p>I am currently "talking" to this guy who I really like. I'm not going to go into details, but basically we get along really well and have been dating for a couple months now. We are both very mature and have been involved in long relationships in the past.
I am concerned about starting a relationship because I will be leaving for college in 3 months a couple of states away and he will be going into his senior year of high school. It's not incredibly serious yet but we are at the point where we would be officially together if it weren't for the fact that I am leaving. It's almost like its an inevitable heartbreak, either before I leave for college or after I leave and we realize that long distance relationships are difficult.
My question is, would it be really really stupid for us to begin a relationship?
Immediately my thoughts were that it would be, but now I'm realizing that we might as well since either way its going to hurt when I leave. It just seems like the next logical step, but a relationship right before college is not really a brilliant idea.</p>
<p>hm i just read over my post and want to apologize if I sound crazy and immature.. I promise I'm not</p>
<p>the word "relationship" is nothing but a label. what you have with this guy will be (pretty much) the same whether you call it a "relationship" or not. except there'll probably be more physical contact.</p>
<p>so basically the question is equivalent to: "should i become emotionally attached to this person?"</p>
<p>it's not really your choice.</p>
<p>just let events take their natural course and things will generally work out in the end. good luck. :)</p>
<p>just have fun, enjoy, and when the time comes, you will go to college and have a blast, and he will enjoy his senior year.<br>
If it helps, I'm in the same boat. I've been dating this girl for 2 months, and we were friends before...she, like you, thinks about 3 months from now...so I will tell you what i tell her. enjoy the present, and 3 months from now, we'll deal with whatever comes up.</p>
<p>that's exactly what happened to me like..a couple months ago. i guess i was just dating for the sake of dating? but anyway the guy totally liked me and everything and one day i had a horrible day and i just very randomly decided to end it. and now it's a disaster because he's not talking to me and it hurts a lot because we were friends before....</p>
<p>happens all the time i think. lesson learned: don't date if you know it's not going to last, even if it's fun.</p>
<p>I think it depends on how likely you are to get emotionally attached in the next 3 months. If you both decide just to have fun while it lasts and spend time together, etc, but both understand that it will end, then enjoy it for the next few months. I think the most important thing is that you guys agree on what's going to happen, because if one of you gets more attached it's going to be hard.</p>
<p>You're essentially together now, so heartbreak isn't any easier whether you make it "official" or not. You both know how it's going to end. Tell him you care about him, but also that it can't continue into the school year. Likely, he isn't expecting a long distance relationship--he'll know that's crazy hard, just like you do--but it's even more heartbreaking not even to make those last few months count.</p>
<p>haha thank you for your responses
i think i have decided that i am going to go for it.. i am quite concerned about getting emotionally attached but at this point theres really no turning back...</p>