Starting over in college: delete Facebook, make new one but not add old friends?

<p>Hi,</p>

<p>So I'm almost done with high school. It wasn't that great. I was pretty successful academically-speaking and professionally-speaking (got into a great journalism school, got a few opportunities over the summer related to my fields, etc.) Socially, however, it sucked. My high school is a super competitive, big public school. So with my classes and extracurricular activities, I never had time to do normal teenage things and hang out with friends. I had a good group of friends, but lately I feel like they don't appreciate for what I do and why I can't hang out with them that much. I'm busy with my leadership roles in newspaper, magazine, student council, etc. I think I work a lot harder than my friends. Not that they're horrible or lazy, but I don't think they realize how much work I do compared to them.</p>

<p>So, with that said, I'm thinking after graduation, I will delete my Facebook for a new one. This one I would still have friends from camp and my family members, but no one from high school. College is a place for me to start over. They don't need to know what my past was like.</p>

<p>I guess my question is, is this type of starting over okay? It's probably a little extreme, but high school wasn't anything to remember. I know people are like "oh high school is awesome, prom is great, blah blah blah" but come on, it's overrated. </p>

<p>Thanks!</p>

<p>It’s okay, but I think it’s a little silly. You don’t need to burn bridges to move on.</p>

<p>I’ve been there and actually deleted my facebook over the same thing pretty much. In the end, I mostly readded a lot of the same people. The fact is, nobody is forcing you to be friends with specific people or talk to the friends that you have on facebook. I wouldn’t delete my facebook just to restart if I were you. That’s just my opinion, though.</p>

<p>Wow I could have written this myself. I don’t really plan to delete my Facebook but I’ll probably definitely clean up my friends list. HS was nothing special for me, I too did very well academically but did really poorly social wise. I plan to change this in college and don’t really plan on keeping in touch with many people. You can delete your FB if you like or just delete anyone you don’t really talk to or care to know about in the future.</p>

<p>I think it’s kinda silly, to be honest. I mean, if that’s what you want to do, then go for it, but I’ve never seen anyone do that. What happens with most people is that they’ll go to college, form a new group of friends and add a lot of people but they’ll still keep their friends from HS or whatever, and then as time goes by people remove whoever they’re not talking to or are no longer in touch with. </p>

<p>Depends on the person though. There are people who have 300-400 friends who only add or keep people they talk to, and then there are the freaks who have like 1,500 or 2,000 friends because they think that’s what it means to be popular or something.</p>

<p>why don’t you just delete the friends on facebook that you don’t want to be friends with anymore?
people get shocked when they hear I do this, because there seems to be some unofficial facebook etiquette where this is taboo, but if it’s at the point where neither of you care enough to even notice that you’re not on eachother’s friends lists, then it really doesn’t matter.</p>

<p>Just unfriend the hs kids you don’t care about anymore. They won’t even realize they have been unfriended.</p>

<p>well I would probably unfriend most kids from my high school…my high school has 2,000 people and I’m probably friends with 600-700+ from high school. That would take a very, very, very long time…</p>

<p>plus I also plan to change physically (lose weight, etc.) and rather not have college people see me like that lol</p>

<p>You will regret it.</p>

<p>I know you are convinced right now that you won’t regret it at all; I was convinced, too.</p>

<p>But you will. I promise you. If they bother you, hide them on your feed or whatever you can do now (I’m not on Facebook anymore). But don’t lose all means of contact with people from high school. Please.</p>

<p>Lol Facebook. Such a silly thing.
I deleted mine within the first few months of college.
I remade one to be in this group so I could talk to people, but it’s really unnecessary.</p>

<p>I just keep it for photos now. But I keep my facebook private - no tagged photos, no wall statuses, and no one can post on my wall. I don’t even put what school I attend or the city I’m from. Boring online, social in person. (:</p>

<p>IMO, it sounds like you are ashamed of your current self and is concerned about college kids judging you / past-self. If that’s the case, I think the underlining issue won’t resolve with you simply deleting your facebook. </p>

<p>Seeing as how you type like a female and is concerned about her weight, correct me if I am wrong.</p>

<p>I have two accounts. One before and after, but using a different name.</p>

<p>It will be obvious that you were a loser in high school when people from college see that you only have a few friends and none of them are form your high school.</p>

<p>Why don’t you take all those high school “friends” and put them in one group. Then figure out the Facebook privacy settings and basically wall them off of any access to your FB info. That way you don’t burn bridges, but you don’t share your “new” life. You can also use the settings to minimize any of their posts from appearing on your news feed.
I have a couple of fairly close friends that I originally met in junior high. This was a LONG time ago (I’m a parent here, not a student.) These women were actually in a group that TORMENTED and bullied me in junior high. I was dismayed to find they were attending my high school AND my mom was going to make me carpool with them! Guess what? People grow up and sometimes turn nice. I’m sure I would not have “friended” them in junior high or early high school. We had learned to tolerate each other by the end of high school and now we are very friendly.
Besides, even if things don’t eventually work out, it might be fun to look at these folks’ FB profiles in a few years to see if they turned out to be losers!</p>