<p>HI! first time posting here.. out of desparation for some advice or opinions.
OK so I am confused about where I want to go to college. Right now I'm confused between binghamton, stony brook and cornell.. I am a ny student so these are all great options for me personally and financially. I received a garunteed transfer option from cornell which means I need to take econ and 2 other classes and get a 3.3 gpa in order to go there next year (the industrial and labor relations school) as a sophmore. This is a contract school so I would receive a lower tution as well as possible financial aid that would lower the cost even more. I realize what a great opportunity this is and it fits me well but I am also leery about the uncertainty of it or entering a school with the idea of leaving basically.. I visited bing and was suprised at how nice I found the school to be!! It wsa very ideal for the experience I wanted out of a college. I'm not too crazy about stony brook because I live 30 minutes away and overall the college itself is soso... they offered me a partial scholarship tho which wud save me about 2500 :/ so not a BIG difference.. BUT if i commute I save a lot of money my first year..
Orignally i wanted to pursue a degree in psych but also looked in physicians assistant or occupational therapy because i want a garunteed and great job after college.. The problem is that I've never really loved science.. I faired well through out high school but i never found it intriguing enough.. if I go to ilr i will have a more direct path but at the same time I loved bing and i dont know what to do</p>
<p>It doesnt help that my bf is thinking about going to bing and I wud probably feel upset that Im missing out on the school i wanted to go to :/ then again if he had the chance to go to michigan affordably he wud in a heart beat ...so im very confused about what other people think wud be a smart idea.. my heart and head are in so many places and id appreciate advice on schools and starting out ...
maybe I could start at stony and if it doesnt work out with cornell transfer to bing? idk :/
I'm afraid that if i start at bing i'll get attached and not want to take up a great offer at cornell but once again... i dont really know :/
Any info or advice is very helpful to me at this point!! ty!</p>
<p>Pick a first year school where you’d want to be for four years if the transfer option doesn’t work out for you. To me, that sounds like Bing. Remember, Bing and Cornell are less than an hour apart if the bf thing is an issue.</p>
<p>Remember, you need a 3.3 GPA from your first year school. It’s absolutely doable, but a lot of kids can’t do that freshman year. You don’t want to get stuck somewhere you don’t want to be. That’s why my advice is to start someplace you could stay if you had to.</p>
<p>thank you! I truly appreciate your advice. That makes sense to me also. Without a doubt I would keep the option to cornell open and visit as well.
My mom is also not crazy about the idea (as well as myself honestly) about going to the same school as my boyfriend because i know college is a time to find yourself without much distractions or other influences and I need to make sure that that will not be the case if we both end up at binghamton.</p>
<p>I have a few problems here though…
If i’m starting to look at ilr as a reasonable option for me and stony brook is a better school for psych and PA …also i would be spending a lot of money at bing aka loans that wud be a waste if I choose to follow through with cornell
also i dont know how i feel about going to binghamton with my bf there because I dont want his influence on me… im still confused… i dont know if id like commuting tho…stress from my parents and such … I feel like ilr would be a good set path with many options and idk if i really like psych or PA… :/</p>
<p>I agree with the posts about going somewhere and planning to stay there for four years, even with the ILR GTO. I received the same thing this year, and I plan on going to Mich-Ann Arbor as an OOS. Even though it’s not the best idea financially, I always planned on going to a school for 4 years. It just doesn’t seem right to leave after 1 year. Although Cornell was my first choice and dream school, I am quickly falling in love with Mich. </p>
<p>It doesn’t seem like you REALLY wanted to go to Cornell anyways… I would go to a school where you can see yourself definitely staying for 4 years. As for your boyfriend, the college experience can always change your relationship. Being in a relationship in college is NOT the same as in HS, so you never know what will happen after 1 year</p>
<p>what happens though when i think Cornell is where id want and get a job from and stony brook becomes an ok option for me especially with saving money and making the best out of it … i dont know if i want to go to the same school as my boyfriend either as much as i care about him idk if i want anything deterring me or distracting during my first year especially</p>
<p>In the unlikely event that you don’t get a 3.3 (or if finances preclude you going to Cornell) would you be happy at Stony Brook for four years? </p>
<p>Other than that – since you think that Stony Brook has a better department in what you want to study, the question of overall reputation of Stony Brook vs Binghamton needn’t be discussed.</p>
<p>While Stony Brook would be much cheaper if you live at home. I’ll be honest, I would recommend living on campus if you can afford it. IMO an important (though not critical) aspect of college is being out of your parents’ home and learning to handle the freedom (and responsibility) that comes from that. Sacrificing this aspect of your freshman year is not something I recommend.</p>
<p>The final question is whether you want to go to school with your BF. – Tough question. Normally I would say that where your BF goes should not be a reason TO go to a school, and it shouldn’t be a reason NOT TO go to a school. However, if you really think he will be a distraction and you’re fairly confident that you’re going to transfer in a year anyway, (or if you really want to test the relationship by being apart) this may be a reason in your case.</p>
<p>pick the cheaper school. even if you don’t like stony brook, suck it up, it’s only a year. plus if you were good enough to get a GT I have a hard time believing you’ll struggle to get a 3.3 at stony brook.</p>
<p>if you need to get loans, you want to be saving them for cornell, not a SUNY. Debt always sucks.</p>
im still confused… i dont know if id like commuting tho…stress from my parents and such … I feel like ilr would be a good set path with many options and idk if i really like psych or PA… :/</p>