Stay in-state or go out?

<p>I applied to multiple schools out-of-state. My mother has been nagging me saying that if I go to a college outside of Minnesota (where I'm from), I'll probably only see them during winter break & summer vacation. We don't have the funds to pay for plane tickets to send me home for Thanksgiving, Spring Break, or any sort of break there may be, and of course to send me back. That would be very very costly.</p>

<p>I would love to attend Pomona in California or Colgate in NY (if I get in) but the idea of seeing my family so little throughout the year scares me. Being from MN, there are a few good LACs (Mac, Carleton, St. Olaf) and I would not totally mind going to them. Yet I would absolutely choose Pomona or Colgate over any of those schools anyday!</p>

<p>I just want to get views from students who have attended school out of their state. Did your parents want you to stay? If so, how did you convince them to let you go?</p>

<p>And I'm talking about liberal arts colleges, not public schools.</p>

<p>As a parent, while I miss my kids, I wanted them to leave the state! College is your time to grow and see the world. We live in a global world today, you should get out and see as much as you can before you decide what you want to do and where you want to live.</p>

<p>So while I worry about my kids traveling through Europe and Asia on study abroad programs and I miss them, I am so happy that they are getting these amazing experiences and wouldn’t want it any other way. They feel the same, all 3, and they are very different people.</p>

<p>There are family weekends, there’s video Skype, cell phones–we are always there.</p>

<p>D faced the same issue last year (from MN). So much pressure on the top kids to go out of state - to go away. However, she is at Carleton, only 1 or 2 other MN students in her dorm. She is getting plenty of diversity and has traveled extensively. She was also accepted to the LACs in the west and east, but the fit at those schools was not for her. Plus, the cost of flying back and forth for 4 years also added up - we didn’t have the spare change. We skype and e-mail just as if she was farther away. Fit is what counts - not necessarily the location.</p>

<p>Just to be clear: Your parents arent saying you can’t go right? Only that if you do go far away you will come home less often?</p>