<p>Hi Folks,</p>
<p>First post here. I am aware that as the Stepmom my income and assets will be used to determine financial need for my stepkids. I am not going to get into what bull I think this is etc, as I am sure that has been mentioned.</p>
<p>We've done the math and the kids will not qualify for much, if anything, if my income and assets are included. I started saving early on for my retirment and that is what MY assets are for-- retirement. They are completely separate from other financial holdings and are not shared with DH.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, DH and the "now completely absent biomother" did nothing in terms of putting money away for the kids. </p>
<p>DH and I have two young daughters and I began socking away college money for them early on. It wasn't until then that DH started a college fund for his kids. I was shocked that they didn't alreay have one! </p>
<p>So, DH started putting money away a couple years ago for his kids, but they are nearly 16 and 14-- so there really won't be much $$ for them.</p>
<p>I don't mind helping out a little-- but I am not paying their tuition by taking out loans. </p>
<p>DH and I are considering getting a legal divorce so that I am no longer the step parent. Does anyone have experience with this? DH read somewhere that this is considered fraud, but I think that is only if it is the bioparents getting a divorce.</p>
<p>DH has talked about him taking out loans to pay for their college for which, I have made it clear that I will divorce him-- for real-- if he does that. Not part of my retirement plan. </p>
<p>I am doing what I can to put away money for our girls from the get-go. Whatever it amounts to-- that is what they get. If they need more, they will have to figure it out and I will help them figure it out--- but I am not paying for it.</p>
<p>I am sorry that neither DH nor their mom made plans for my stepkids-- but at this stage of the game, it is not my responsibility and I am not going to take it on. Like I said, I am willing to help out some-- but I'm not paying all and I am not doing any loans.</p>