<p>Hi! It's been like, two months into college, and I went to a school totally across the country (like a five, six hour plane ride.) I am reallllly close to my family. I enjoy spending time with them and it's really hard for me to cope with the idea that I am so far and it would be too expensive to come home frequently. </p>
<p>The school I am at also does not seem to be a good fit. I thought that I liked partying fine, but these people go hard- I'm talking like, cocaine, MDMA, LSD. People don't seem to trust me because I don't do those things, I just drink and smoke. </p>
<p>But the overruling factor here is that I just really miss my family. All I want is to go to college where I could visit home every three weeks or so, and it wouldn't be so hard to see them. I go out at night and drink but often end up calling my sister crying about how much I miss her and home. Sundays are bad too. </p>
<p>I have applied to the school where my sister goes, and I don't know if I will get in, but I worry this would be bad for my independence. </p>
<p>Anyways, I was just wondering if it even made sense to transfer to a school an hour away from home because I miss my family so much. Would this be bad for my independence? Is this a good idea? My family is obviously biased.</p>
<p>All these views and no advice… please, people! I really need an unbiased opinion.</p>
<p>I think the transfer only makes sense if you truly feel lonely and dislike your school. Try to tell yourself only to call family once a week. Your calls are probably making you more homesick. Hang out and talk with friends at school, or if your school has some sort of freshman support program, talk to someone from there. Have you been video chatting with your family? I think gaining independence is really good for college students, and staying too close to family may be a crutch. You’ve been given a great opportunity and you don’t want to regret not taking advantage of it. Mind you, I am a HS senior, but I have traveled out of the country alone and not seen my parents for as much as 3 months at a time, and I did fine as far as homesicknesses goes.</p>
<p>I would suggest you try to finish off the year with good grades to keep your options open and give being independent a chance and if you still feel the same way after a full year than maybe you should transfer closer to home especially if that is going to end up costing your family less money. My parents wouldn’t allow me to apply to schools that I would need to take a flight to and back primarily for cases of emergency when I needed to get back. I am not sure what you are studying or what your home state is but if you can find a school that is a better fit, cheaper, and closer to your home it seems appropriate to transfer as long as you dont feel like you are giving up a huge opportunity at your current school but it doesnt appear that way from your original post. If you want anymore advice or care to provide more information feel free to pm me.</p>
<p>Thanks for responding guys! The school I am at does not necessarily feel like a huge opportunity. I am not being challenged academically. And as for my social life… yeah, the whole drug culture is getting really old! I will still think about staying for the rest of the year, but some days I feel so homesick that I feel like I would rather die than stay so far away from home. </p>
<p>Economically, it would make more sense. It is a tough decision!</p>
<p>I think you need to feel you gave the school you chose a good chance. You chose it for a reason, and I think it is natural to find that it might not be living up to your expectations. As to the partying, I would try to see if you can find another crowd. Be sure you explore other options at the school…just so you won’t feel, if you do transfer, that maybe you ‘gave up’ to quickly. On the other hand, I don’t think there would be anything wrong with transferring to be closer to home. You don’t have to live across the country to be independent. Many, many people move out of their parents’ home and live in the same town, or nearby and live fully independent lives, but maybe still get to go to Sunday dinners. ;-)</p>