Still not feeling too much better about my deferral

<p>As much as I'd like to move on, it just doesnt get much easier. Ever since I was a little kid I always wanted to go to Harvard, Yale, or Princeton. Some people thought I was copping out applying to Columbia, but I didn't even get in there... Idk, I know nothing is gauranteed but it seems as if everyone around me is getting in early. A friend who I had better stats, gpa, ec's etc got into Harvard EA... It really sucks.</p>

<p>Maybe you should re-evaluate your goals then. Maybe the problem isn't the college admissions process, but that you are judging your life based on what college you get into.</p>

<p>it's very easy to be so emotionally attached to the admission process to a point thats ridiculous( I realize I do that alot). my childhood dream school used to be MIT, but when I started my college selection process, I looked at every school down to every little detail I can, and decided that MIT was not the school for me. Not just because I had no chance of gaining admission there, because the amosphere I felt from the students there and the description everyone gave me. However at the same time I fell in love with columbia and cornell. I decided columbia over cornell mainly because of NYC (I cant stand quiet places). I also realized that with my stats it was very likely for me to be rejected at both of these schools. so I looked around me and choose UToronto waterloo and UBC as my safety schools with UT on the top of the list. </p>

<p>my point is, take a step back, your "dream" school might not actually be the right school for you once you look into it. be objective in your approach to selecting schools and you'll see many other excellent choices out there.</p>

<p>yeh i totally understand ur point. someone i know got in Harvard EA and somehow it's like i'm the only one who hasn't gotten in. MIT EA deferral with the columbia deferral has really made me feel bad and left me wondering if i'll ever get into any college at all.
but sry i don't think i can console u at all. no one has been successful at consoling me and giving me hope so i don't think i can to u.</p>

<p>well, its good to know that someone feels the same as i do...</p>

<p>its not over. i got deferred as well. when i get in my midyear report card in late jan. i'm going to write a letter to my regional adcom telling her my grades and that columbia is still my number 1 choice. write a letter yourself about any new accomplishments and your continued interest in the school. a letter can only help you</p>

<p>I am very depressed..I just can't get over it... i loved Columbia and still do. :"( :'( :''(</p>

<p>"Ever since I was a little kid I always wanted to go to Harvard, Yale, or Princeton. Some people thought I was copping out applying to Columbia, but I didn't even get in there..."</p>

<p>You seem to have the wrong attitude about things. Why would you even take anyone seriously who thinks that Columbia is a cop-out school? You wanted to go to three schools since you were a little kid? You need to sit down and think.</p>

<p>I think you need to look at things in perspective.
And also, you have to realize that there are other schools out there.. that will make you happy.
It definitely sucks to not get into the college of your dreams but like I said in another thread, getting rejected ED/EA is NOT the end of the world. Trust me on this one.
And you were deferred, so you still have a shot.
I'd focus your energy on applying to other schools RD. And I'd reevaluate your goals and what you want in life.
I think all of you who got deferred or rejected need to chill out for a little bit, and be grateful for what you DO have.
Think about what a great luxury it is to be even depressed over not getting into a great school like Columbia... you guys clearly have a lot going for you.
Just remember, everyone will end up in their own paths.... you will be happy.</p>

<p>silver_wavez u were a deferee from last year i'm guessing. Can you tell me where u r going now so that i can console myself and give myself hope?</p>

<p><em>cough</em>barnard, technically still columbia<em>cough</em></p>

<p>ain't that right silver_wavez ;)</p>

<p>what are you even trying to say cujoe?</p>

<p>yeah i go to barnard. and i love it.
it worked out for me in the end.</p>

<p>hehe, i'm just sayin' u basically got ur dream school :p</p>

<p>come on barnard's awsome ..=p</p>

<p>agreed fully :)</p>

<p>although i'm not liking these finals... i've been stuck in butler all day</p>

<p>I just called my D to say Hi and wish her good luck with her papers & finals. She answered the phone with a whispered hello. She is grinding away at Butler too. Best of luck, silver-wavez.</p>

<p>I know how you feel</p>

<p>I go to a competitive urban magnet school and I see all these people get into their dream schools early</p>

<p>But you know what? Most people get into their dream school during regular decisions(Ask around on CC to see how many people got deferred ED and then accepted to another school of high caliber). You might think its all over for you, but the fact is that the College Admission process has just started. Think about it, most of the admission officers dont start reading RD application until February, so you still have a chance at tons of other schools. If you really do have the potential to suceed, it will be the school's lost, not yours.</p>

<p>I know how you feel about everyone getting in Early around you. Almost simultaneously, a kid from my school got into Harvard EA...another U Penn ED, and another Johns Hopkins. The Harvard and UPenn are better than me academically, but the Johns Hopkins is actually not as strong...It's quite disheartening, but the sky WILL clear in April.</p>

<p>thank you elleneast</p>