<p>2nd semester started a couple of weeks ago, and it is a much better start than the first semester. However, the only problem I have is...my roommate is my only good friend, and I lucked out because I didn't even know the guy before i came up here. The only other friends I have, are on my floor. In fact, the only people I actually know, are on my floor. This is virtually the truth. And the main problem with that...they're all guys. SO I don't know what to do. My roommate and I do everything together, but I'm not about to ditch out on him to go party, sometimes,because he is ROTC and will lose his scholarship if he gets caught. I would love to go party but I don't have anybody to go with. My other friends on the floor have the same problem I have, but they even know people outside of their dorm. I see a few people from my high school always together, but I can't assume everybody has friends to lean on. There are other people like me, and I have no idea what the hell to do. My grades are great; my academic life is fine. I just spend a lot of weekends alone because I don't know anybody. I came up here barely knowing how to play my guitar, and I've had so much time alone that I am good as hell now. I could transfer, but trouble meeting people will carry over there too. I also have pretty solid plans of living with my roommate next year. Any ideas what to do?</p>
<p>You don't have to go to parties to meet people...I'm sure there are organizations, clubs, volunteer positions or even a campus job you could take to expose yourself to more people on your campus. The best way to meet new people is to get involved.</p>
<p>I agree with LilyMoon. Being productive is only beneficial when you have spare time like you say; meeting new people naturally comes with it. S is having a hard time finding a job because of lack of experience. So are his friends. That is something you could challenge yourself with (although getting a campus job may be easier than off-campus -- I am unsure).</p>
<p>This is off topic, but how does one pronounce niche - is it "nich" or "neesh"? i've heard it said both ways.</p>
<p>No, I WANT to go to parties to meet people. I could get a job, I guess, but partying is just something I would like to do, you know? I am a really avid ultimate frisbee player, and I could do Club team here, but I am not serious about it, so I would love to do intramural but like I said, i probably dont have enough friends to even fill the team</p>
<p>Just go to some guys in your hall and say you heard of some frat throwing somethin and then ask them if they want to tag along. EASY! Or, I could hand you with my secret weapon! Go to the girls floor and peak into a few of the rooms and ask embarrisingly if any one of them could teach you how to iron your shirts, because you have a "internship interview" in a few days. Then say "hey I heard of a nice frat party later, are you interested in maybe tagging along?" SIMPLE! (or at least I was lucky with my cheesy scheme).</p>
<p>lol ^ that is a good idea. I also do these cheesy schemes. Im going to try this one out :P</p>
<p>Easton, ever thought of actually rushing?</p>
<p>I haven't considered it too much, but lately I have because of this problem. I have talked to my brother about frats (he's a senior) and really haven't heard too many great things. But, I know it would be a lot more fun than where I am at now, but I can't do it until next semester...</p>
<p>Maybe you don't know much about parties because the school you attend.</p>
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Go to the girls floor and peak into a few of the rooms and ask embarrisingly if any one of them could teach you how to iron your shirts, because you have a "internship interview" in a few days. Then say "hey I heard of a nice frat party later, are you interested in maybe tagging along?" SIMPLE! (or at least I was lucky with my cheesy scheme).
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<p>Hahaha that is hilarious and very clever. Kudos.</p>
<p>Don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. Your roommate is a big boy and can take care of himself, you have the right to try new things even if he doesn't tag along.</p>
<p>Depending on the size of your school, there should be all kinds of frats available. Just because you heard some bad things about frats doesn't mean you should completely avoid them, you might end up missing out on a good one if you do. Try rushing next semester and see if you can find one that fits your personality.</p>
<p>Joining a frat is a good idea, as long as you are ready to take on the financial responsibility. In the end, it's probably no more than what you'd spend on entertainment on your own, and it has an added bonus of a group of friends. Since you choose the frat and they choose you, too, you are better able to find a group where you are comfortable.<br>
Also try some activities. You just have to get up your nerve and go join something that interests you. Most clubs are happy to have new members. And for the ultimate frisbee, there's probably a team looking for an extra player. Just start asking a bit. Can your RA on your floor help out?</p>