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i want to study abroad the winter of my sophomore year (this winter). he is honestly giving me a hard problem about it, but i really don't want to alter my plans. i guess i'm not really asking if i should go or not because i'm pretty set on going lol but am i doing something wrong here?
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Yes, you are doing something seriously wrong here. You're making a HUGE mistake by not showing this loser the door and kicking him in the pants on the way out!!!</p>
<p>Look at the comments up above and you can see how much value people get out of it. Talk to people in their 30's or older and they'll tell you one of the most memorable and life-changing experiences they had in college was a semester abroad. There are tons of links that show this, too; <a href="http://www.transitionsabroad.com/publications/magazine/0403/benefits_study_abroad.shtml%5B/url%5D">http://www.transitionsabroad.com/publications/magazine/0403/benefits_study_abroad.shtml</a></p>
<p>Now we're on the topic of this BF. Far from being supportive and encouraging you to get as much out of college as you can, this guy is perfectly willing to have you sacrifice your happiness because he's scared of losing his girlfriend or being alone for a few months. I knew plenty of people in college who were delighted to see their SO go abroad, helped to take care of mail and stuff back at college, had a highlight themselves when they bought a cheap ticket and went to visit. People do study abroad even if they're in a relationship, just like they go home for summers and winter break even if they're in a relationship. A few months apart don't kill things, not if you're with the right guy.</p>
<p>This guy? He wants you to give up your dreams for a freshman-year boyfriend, one who might not even be around by next winter and almost certainly not by the time you graduate. Warning bells ought to be going off in your ears that this guy is immature and clingy, that his interests are himself and not you. Yes, you are making a mistake here, and its spending another minute with him!! Run and don't look back. Don't accept his apologies and his begging to take him back with promises everything will be different after you break up with him; he doesn't mean it (or won't for long), his true colors are what you're seeing right now.</p>