<p>^dude, you need to learn how to socialize...college isn't all academics, like high school much of what you gain is through socialization. Just like learning physics takes effort, so does making friends. If you're not willing to learn by opening yourself up to possible failure, it will only get harder down the road. Being successful in the corporate world is based aroung the ability to communicate and interact with others, much more so than being able to recite Shakespeare.</p>
<p>-the professors don't care about you
- college is HARD *my answer it depends on what college you go to!! like ASU is gonna be a cake walk compared to harvard
- there's no extra credit *my answer hahha YES THERE IS
- it's IMPOSSIBLE to get an A and C's are good hahha that's the stupidest myth I've heard!! </p>
<p>True fact= Alot of people really do end up losing their scholarships!</p>
<p>"^dude, you need to learn how to socialize...college isn't all academics, like high school much of what you gain is through socialization. Just like learning physics takes effort, so does making friends. If you're not willing to learn by opening yourself up to possible failure, it will only get harder down the road. Being successful in the corporate world is based aroung the ability to communicate and interact with others, much more so than being able to recite Shakespeare."</p>
<p>Ah dude, Im soo far behind "socially" I have no idea where to start. Its really hard.</p>
<p>-relationships are very easy to get into</p>
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Its so much more complicated than that.
I find the loneliness to be pretty much un-bearable here. And dont tell me "sign up for clubs" or "go out and talk to people". For someone who has been shy their entire lives, and just held onto a few friends during highschool, College can be hell on earth.
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I totally disagree. In high school I was extremely shy and pretty much did cling to few friends. However, in college I felt as though people didn't know me/judge me, so it was easy to be very extraverted. I am loving college so much more :) Just give it a shot!</p>
<p>There's nothing anyone can say to SoLonely if s/he is not willing to overcome their shyness on their own. If their "hell on earth" is so unbearable, perhaps it will provide the motivation to change that.</p>
<p>As for the "sign up for clubs" advice - sometimes the problem is never finding yourself in a situation to meet people. Signing up for clubs is just one situation where you find yourself the "new guy" and people want to meet you...</p>
<p>Just out of curiosity, SoLonely, what school do you go to?</p>
<p>Trust me, I know loneliness...that's why I feel for SoLonely
If you knew me now, you would never have guessed that I spent 2 years of my life getting high by myself, not relating to another soul...people have the capacity to change. All I can say is that you need to deal with the underlying issues that affect your feelings of worthfulness, as no one will love you unless you love yourself.
Volunteer for a charity, step out of yourself, focus on others, and suddenly you'll begin to change your outlook on life.</p>
<p>University of Manitoba (I'm from Canada)</p>
<p>"Trust me, I know loneliness...that's why I feel for SoLonely
If you knew me now, you would never have guessed that I spent 2 years of my life getting high by myself, not relating to another soul...people have the capacity to change. All I can say is that you need to deal with the underlying issues that affect your feelings of worthfulness, as no one will love you unless you love yourself.
Volunteer for a charity, step out of yourself, focus on others, and suddenly you'll begin to change your outlook on life."</p>
<p>Thanks for your help, you have some good points. I think your right, I need to make some changes in my life...</p>
<p>NerdyUSCgurl, I second that. </p>
<p>Other myths:
-sororities are all about shallow beauty queens who like to party <-- Soooo wrong!</p>
<p>-if you don't drink, then college will be boring. --I haven't had a drop of alcohol, or even been to a party, but I always have fun stuff to do. The hard part is finding the time...</p>
<p>-you can skip class and no one will notice/care/nothing will happen. --The dancers aren't allowed to miss one single class. In most cases, you can have 2 or 3 absences before your grade starts to drop. People notice. And they don't like it.</p>
<p>-all-female dorms suck. --I like my dorm. It's nice knowing there's a desk monitor always watching who comes in and out, and that boys won't just be running around, especially at night. Every male (including fathers) has to be signed in (students give their ID card), and they have to leave by midnight on school nights, and 2am on weekends. </p>
<p>And not really a particular myth, but small universities are awesome! There are about 3000 students at my entire school, including grad and law, and I love it so much. Everyone is super-friendly, and I know sooo many people. There are always people to study with or hang out with or whatever, and it's a really nice feeling of connection... I mean, for example, I have met the president of the university once before, and yet he was in the caf tonight, and said hi, and asked me how I am, etc. And my teachers all know me and talk to me and stuff, because my largest class is like 34 kids. And that's one of the biggest classes on campus, apparently.</p>
<p>SoLonely:
Talk about coincidences! I just transferred out of the University of Manitoba!</p>
<p>As the U of M is a large, impersonal commuter school with very little in the way of student life, I can definitely relate to what you're going through. The only thing I can recommend is to try and make friends in your classes, as aren't many other opportunities to meet people (IMHO, anyway).</p>
<p>Feel free to PM me if you want to talk.</p>
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<p>Agreed. ^^</p>
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oh and everyone pulls allnighters...no one does, and if they do, they're either a technical major or just too stupid to do their work earlier
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<p>dude what school do you goto? I know so many people who pulled all nighters or at least stayed up til 4 in the morning (or.. stay up til 4 for no reason at all) working on something, especially architecture majors at my school...</p>
<p>My problem isn't making acquiantances at college. I'm cool there. The problem with me is that I have so little in common with most college kids.</p>
<p>And no, I'm not going to change one damn thing about myself to fit in.</p>
<p>krys- staying up till 4am is not an all-nighter...there is still a possibility of getting 4 hours of sleep before an 8am even...heck, i came home once at 6am, slept till 9am, and did fine</p>
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<p>I didn't say staying up til 4'o clock was an all nighter. i said most people I know stay up AT LEAST until 4 o clock working on something</p>
<p>Personally I think 6'o clock is the time it turns into an all nighter... 6 AM is officially morning for me... haha.</p>
<p>The latest I've done is 2:00 AM. However, as a commuter, I need some extra oomph in me every morning since I have to make a drive to school and a drive back a few hours later.</p>
<p>If you're going to have an insane study session, I've found it helps if you have it two nights before the test. Use the night before to look over things a little bit but relax more on that night so you're in a good state of mind for the test. Basically, if you act like you don't care about the test but you studied really hard you'll do well. I've taken this approach for all of my psych tests (over three psych courses) and am 8 for 8 with getting A's.</p>
<p>(Shoot...I probably just jinxed myself...two psych tests on Monday)</p>
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<p>krys- agreed...i was working on math and such and when i looked outside the sky was pink, and my eyes were red...that, right there, is a sunrise hahah</p>
<p>A better* college is not really that much better than a cheaper. So many people told me (and still tell me) that it doesn't matter what school they go to. That a school with a big name will just get you a better job in the first place, the same job you could work up to if you went to bigger school. This is so not true as better school will give you a totally different experience. You will be around students and people that care about learing and it will have a much bigger effect on who you are as a person than simly "what job you get."</p>