Suitemate help.. Am I overreacting?

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<p>So I've been in my dorm suite for about three weeks now, and the first week I didn't have any issues. But then the saturday before school started, I had a friend spend the night in my dorm and it was about 3:00am when my suitemates started being really loud.. At first I just let it go, considering it was the saturday before classes started, but they kept being super loud until nearly four. So I finally got up and asked them to keep it down, and they kind of half quieted down. </p>

<p>Since then it seems like every other night they're at least somewhat loud, normally at later hours in the night. Last night, it was a friday night, but it was like 12:30 and our quiet hours start at twelve, they start being incredibly loud, so I knock on their door and go in and talk with them for a minute. They had two other people in their dorm, and I just explained to them as nicely as I could that they had been being really loud, and I would appreciate if they'd quiet down. Well one of the girls in their I didn't really get a response from, but the other was like, uh huh, whatever.. I even asked them if they had any issues with my dorm mate or myself and they just kind of shrugged me off. So I just went back in my dorm, where not even twenty minutes later, they have another person in their room, and that person starts pounding on the bathroom door from their room, which I could really hear in my dorm. I go and knock on their door again, and the guy who was in their visiting, when I explained I had just asked them to quiet down, turned to the girl who had shrugged me off and was like, you guys are loud in here? And she laughs, and goes, well I guess so.. I just let it go again and head back into my dorm, where they continue being somewhat loud the rest of the night.</p>

<p>Then today, though it's not after quiet hours, they've just been super loud the entire day. I practice my acoustic guitar in my room, though not very loudly, and at one point they went into the bathroom and started blasting music. Then around twenty minutes later, they finally stop for five or so minutes, before starting it again, with the same guy who pounded on the bathroom door going into the bathroom and pretty much screaming while singing along to a song. </p>

<p>As well as this they tend to leave the bathroom light on even if they're not in there. I had to wait an hour and a half today to take a shower, because they kept leaving the light on while they'd leave the bathroom for ten minutes, and then go back into the bathroom. It's becoming very frustrating for me.</p>

<p>Am I just overreacting about all of this? Part of me is considering talking to my RA about it, but I don't want them to get in trouble, just for them to quiet down. I'd talk to them again, but they don't seem to have any respect for me at all. What should I do?</p>

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<p>I’m sorry you have to deal with such rude people.</p>

<p>Yeah, talk to the RA about it. They have quiet hours for a reason. In the mean time, invest in some nice ear plugs you can wear while sleeping. They work wonders.</p>

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<p>If it’s over the weekend, the RA probably won’t care as much. Still, though, you shouldn’t have to deal with that. I would talk to them at a time when they’re not being obnoxious and let them know that if they continue like that, you’ll report them. Try to be as diplomatic as possible.</p>

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<p>My daughter lived in a suite her first year and suffered much as you are suffering with the social butterflies. I agree with the princess that you might talk to them the next day. I always thought that some type of group meeting would be helpful where you could explain that you would like the quiet hours to be observed more closely. You might call the meeting saying that because you have all been together a couple weeks, you would like to talk about any concerns people have–or things they think are going well.</p>

<p>My daughter called home at 2 a.m. once, and I explained that there was nothing I could do. I told her to go wake up the RA, which she did. It was a rather obnoxious thing to do, but it was not the first time the suite mates had been rude. </p>

<p>I wish you luck. The best thing you can do is to diffuse it as quickly as possible.</p>

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<p>Try talking to them again and if this behavior continues talk to the RA. I agree that over the weekend the RA might not care as much and that people have the right to get a little wild, but that needs to be done in a way that respects other people.</p>

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<p>I feel your pain. Quiet hours here start at 10 pm during the week and at 11 pm on weekends…but that NEVER happens! There are always people screaming in the hallway here until at least 1 am every night during the week, and sometimes worse on weekends. Last night, I was woke up at 3 am from people screaming in the hallway. The people above my room make a lot of noise too and it sounds like they’re pounding or stomping all over the floor.</p>

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<p>Most schools have some sort of rule about “Courtesy Quiet Hours”…aka even though it’s not officially quiet hours, we still should be able to be comfortable in the space that we’re PAYING to be comfortable in.</p>

<p>Try addressing it without the RA…ask them to sit down and talk first and just get it all out. The only reason I suggest this is that most of the time, the RA is supposed to ask if you’ve tried working it out yourselves. Otherwise, that does sound fairly extreme and you have good reason to bring it up to the RA.</p>

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<p>I would get the earplugs or muffs whichever works best. Go to Amazon.com and read the reviews. Then get a fan that is noisy. between the two you should be good to go.</p>

<p>What do the rest of the students on your floor have to say? dont they hear the noise?</p>

<p>Plan B is to get an air horn and when everyone in the dorm is asleep (this maybe 4 in the morning) blow that horn as loud as you can wake up every person in your building when the RA comes to you. He would alreay know you had an issue. All you need to tell him is: if these SOB’s dont quit it. I am going to blow this horn until they stop.</p>

<p>One thing is for sure. I wouldnt put it with this crap not one more night.</p>

<p>This wont make you any friends. but I can assure you it will stop.</p>