Hi I need some solid advice. I am sophomore living in the Suites this year, theres five other girls beside me. The thing is I met most of these girls in a summer program in the Summer before my freshman year. During freshman year I sadly didnt put a lot of effort (being really shy and quiet) into making solid friendships but made a few friends. So when it was time to pick a room for next year I panicked because the friends that I did make were all boys in a group of their own, but was luckily asked by one of the girls (who is currently my suitemate) to be in their room. Sophomore year has been a lil rough Im taking some hard class like Orgo , Physics, ect (Im a pharmacy major) so it has left me lil time to actually look for friends and join clubs ect so I assumed me and suitemates would get closer and they could be a solid friendship group and support because i really did want to be closer friends. The friends I hung out with last year are a group that consists of 5 boys (I am only close to two of them) and this year have more or less exlcuded me from hanging out with them. WHich i understand theyre all boys and I’m the only girl so it makes sense. Three of the girls in my suite (including my roommate) are Egyptian and part of the same Church so they always hang out and speak their lanugage around me. I dont mind that at all and love their culture but I just feel excluded because theyre always hanging out and not telling me where they are when I text them. My roommate is the same major as me so we have classes together but everyetime I ask to sit next to her she says “maybe, we’ll see” and goes off sitting with people from her church and behold theres never a seat next to them for me so I feel awful. The other two girls in my suite are roommates and super super close. I really like them a lot and find them hilarious but everytime i make the effort to hang out with them its like they’re in their own little bubble where they only talk about their inside jokes, ect. I tried to make it clear to them to hang out more and text them to go out to eat but they always say sorry and that theyre too busy only to find that on theyre snapchat they’re eating anyway at the time that i asked.
I’m just so upset because my brothers who went to this school and lived in the suites loved it. All of them were friends with their roommates and it was an amazing experience but my brothers are more outgoing. My day consists of me going to the library to study and hang out with one of the two guys friends that Im close to. I do go over there (their suite) from time to time to talk and study with them since theyre all the same major which is a plus but I get so jealous at their closeness and how at ease everyone is. For their friendship I too always have to ask to grab lunch or go study at the library which sometimes they blow me off or say that they ate already which I get because they go out with each other and are not weird about it. I was thinking of venting to them about my suite mate problems but I just feel so weird admitting that I practically have no friends and me and the girls are not getting along since funny thing is these boys were also part of the summer program I went to before freshman year started. So this means we all know each other and i just dont know what I can change about myself to make the idea of hanging out with me to be appealing becuase this honestly is getting to me mentally.
Sorry for the confusing writing style, any advice would be appreciated. I was thinking of switching suites next semester and seeing if this switch will be better and have me connect to new people since it will be five girls i havent met before. Also to joining a pharmacy frat.