<p>His or their's?</p>
<p>If what has happened to the OP's gal in the past - especially with the history of hotel bills - was happening to my kiddo again - you can bet that I would be in immediate contact with the upper schuffs of the school immediately - especially since the 3 roomies already have driven another roomie out. Obviously NOTHING has been done about them up to now - every turning a blind eye to their behavior????? - that needs to stop. The OP pays the same for her student to be in that room as do the others - I certainly would not allow any type of repeat performance on their part - especially since it has already taken action by the parent to get the kiddo into appropriate quarters in the past.</p>
<p>Basically - 3 words - ENOUGH IS ENOUGH</p>
<p>I really liked the suggestion in an earlier post about waking up the RA when things get out of control. I bet all it would take is 4-5 nights in a row of a sleepless RA to make things right for the student.
Usually, though, it it the person who is complaining that almost always has to move,not the perps!
Until things improve, how about investing in an aerobed and pump and have the student bring it with her when she visits the RA at 2am!
Good luck!</p>
<p>oh I like this suggestion.....good one.</p>
<p>Atlmom --</p>
<p>I can't recommend highly enough that your D check out some of the groups on campus like Campus Crusade, Intervarsity, FCA, or RUF (Reformed University Fellowship) if she is at all open to things like that to find terrific friends who will share her lifestyle. I have life long friends I made in groups like that. If nothing else, she'll have friends she can escape to. </p>
<p>20+ years ago I had a roommate from hell - she brought men into the room and I routinely escaped crying to friends' rooms.</p>
<p>If it were my child, I would definitely encourage her to seek a room change. I still feel sick when I think about my freshman roommate.</p>
<p>Within the Department of Housing and Residential Education at UNC-CH there are over 200 trained paraprofessional Resident Advisors and fifteen live-in Masters level professionals (higher education and counseling) working within the on-campus community on all types of issues including the ones highlighted in this posted string. I strongly recommend that any student who is struggling with roommate issues, stress, acclimation into the community, alcohol, and other challenges please get in touch with your Resident Advisor. If the RA is non-responsive, do not hesitate to contact the Community Director of the community in which you live. Coach your student to take advantage of these resources. </p>
<p>This string was brought to our attention, and we have been working to identify the situation. While college life is about new adventures, adjustments, compromises, acclimation, etc., it does not mean that your student has to go it alone. </p>
<p>Contact those who are there to help.</p>
<p>Thanks!</p>
<p>Just an update from a thread a couple of weeks old. I do appreciate the above poster from the school. They are obviously on top of things....and trying to get a handle while probably trying to not appear like a police state and for that I am grateful. I do not want every person who drinks underage to end up with a criminal record as I personally believe the drinking age is ridiculous now. </p>
<p>Things have settled down somewhat or at least she is not complaining anymore. I decided instead of giving too much advice to let her handle it as she needs to be able to tolerate people making choices that are different from hers. THey all have to be respectful of each other in such environments and maybe that is happening. In any event, she has dealt with it and I have not heard anymore.</p>