Loving Summer break so far!! I have decided that as much as possible this Summer, I am not going to adult…lol! I’ll save that for when I go back to college. Just lots of swimming, running around barefoot, watching movies, laughing and having fun. Nice to be away from all the stress of school. Been on break almost 3 weeks now and have only cried twice. Back at school it would have been a lot more. The first time was the day I arrived home, happy tears to finally be home and back with my sister and my mom. The second time was last night watching a movie called Grave of the Fireflies with my sister. It was the best movie I never want to see again. I’m not a big movie crier. I tend to cry more over real life stuff. But this movie had me crying from the first couple of minutes all the way to the end. I’m not going to tell you to watch it or not to watch it, that’s up to you. Just be prepared if you do. Not sure what’s on for today. Probably more swimming. Might drag out the old Slip-N-Slide we had when I was little and see if it still works…lol. Speaking of, Google Slip-N-Fly in Butler Ohio. That looks like sooo much fun!! Might have to try to make a trip up there just to try it out!! It’s a water slide with a ramp at the end that sends you flying through the air before hitting the water! Enjoy your Summer! And don’t adult unless you just have to! Lol
I mean sure if you’re privileged enough to not adult lol. But lots of us have to adult because we can’t afford to do nothing. In addition, doing internships and working during summers makes you more competitive for jobs upon graduation.
That’s fine. Whatever. My mom has a lot of stuff planned for us this Summer so I’m going to enjoy it. And it’s not a matter of being privileged as you put it as if that’s something to despise. My dad worked very hard up until the day he died and left my mom in a pretty good place financially. Not rich by any means and she still has to work, but she is smart with her money and since she is a teacher she has time off in the Summer so we go and do things. Perhaps if you, and I, and everyone else were as fiscally responsible as she is and has been, then maybe we could all be able to enjoy our Summers.
Your mother is financially comfortable but what about you? What do you plan to do in life? Will you get a trust fund to live off of? Hopefully you are a rising sophomore and you will “adult” next summer.
Lucky you. But, there is nothing like work experience on a resume!
I’m sorry but I take issue with the fact you’re calling me fiscally irresponsible.
Simple fact is that if you party all your summers away, your peers who are doing internships or working or taking summer classes are edging ahead of you. There’s more than enough time in a summer to party AND work a little bit.
Also you ARE privileged. Your parents worked for it, not you. That’s how privilege works. You don’t need to be ashamed of it but you also can’t pretend you don’t have it.
If your family is financially comfortable and you can take the summer off that is just fine. Enjoy. But two things I would do would be to: 1) thank your mom for allowing you to do so 2) and honor your father’s memory any way you would like (prayer, a good thought etc.) and appreciate the fact that he had the foresight to be sure that you and your mother were financially comfortable.
As you get further into your college career you should strongly consider looking for work/internships in your area of interest. Eventually you will be an adult and best to be prepared and put yourself in the best possible position.
While I can appreciate the admonition to “adult” a little less over the summer (because you’re young, time is fleeting, and life just gets more “adult” whether we want it to or not), giving readers a blow by blow of your carefree summer plans is bound to draw some raised eyebrows. Even kids with fiscally responsible parents choose to work over the summer to gain valuable life skills and make some money to offset what would otherwise come out of their parents’ pockets (or just not be there at all). There are plenty of us parents out here who are paying full ride for their kids to attend college and who expect them to shoulder some of the financial burden, even if it’s books, extracurriculars, transportation, etc.
As @philbegas so succinctly put it, that you have the option to choose to spend your summer this way IS a privilege.
OP it is ill-advised to come on here, do a bunch of showing off, and then admonish people who offer constructive criticism. This is a forum after all. If you just want to show off, switch to instagram, snapchat, or twitter lol.
If you are a freshman, then have fun! But I would suggest next year to get a summer job…either at the mall or pool or camp or if you can, something related to your major. You will get experience working in a workign environment and of course, make money! Employers would like to see that you have worked before…but summer jobs are a perfect time to get that first job.
What if I am working over the summer because I think that it’s unfair to entirely burden my parents with paying all of my college tuition, even if they have the money for it? Wouldn’t it be more “fiscally responsible” for you to get a job? I do think that it’s important to relax over the summer, but it’s unfair to assume that people who are unable to do that are not fiscally responsible. You may have just phrased it badly. Either way, I’m glad you get to enjoy the summer!
Lol, I thought this thread was going to be completely different, then I read the first reply. Interesting.
Unfortunately I have to adult, given that I am an adult. But I sincerely hope you enjoy your summer before you have to adult.
-Currently at my 2nd internship. Kinda boring, but I’m tired of being broke.
@logcase18 enjoy, have fun and make sweet memories with your family. Life is precious and short. Nobody is guaranteed tomorrow. You no longer have your dad so I say if you have this summer to be carefree and enjoy with your mom and sister then kudos to you! I’m sure your dad is happy to see his ladies so close. There will be time to be an adult…the rest of your life once college is over!! It seems like your parents have set a good example in regards to finances so I’m sure you’ll be fine in lining up a job when the time comes.
"Unfortunately I have to adult, given that I am an adult. But I sincerely hope you enjoy your summer before you have to adult.
-Currently at my 2nd internship. Kinda boring, but I’m tired of being broke."
My thoughts almost to a tee. I’m in that stage where I have to adult up but don’t feel mature enough. And at least you have a proper job or an internship. I’ve been looking for months with little or no results. Currently a junior.
@wizman631 Getting an internship was a combination of luck and time. I was applying to internships since last November. I think I applied to 15-20 positions, and I just got one. One is all I needed. Keep looking friend. If nothing, you can always try for a volunteer position. I know a guy who’s just doing some basic marketing for a start up and his position is “Junior Marketing Adviser” or something. Looks good on a resume.
@erichioro Not necessarily an internship but a job in general. I think it’s too late now.
logcase, I think you’re getting a rough shake here because your ideas sound a little immature for someone who is in college. That’s really not a crime. People mature at different rates, and some folks just need a little more time to be a kid. This is particularly true of someone who has lost a parent in their childhood, who has had to deal with grief and stress during years that should have been more carefree and enjoyable. I’m glad you’re enjoying life, and having a good summer.
All of this said…I do want to talk about privilege, because as helpful as it is, it can also be a weight tied around you that drags you down.
You’re a very lucky kid to be getting a free ride to college with no responsibility to pay back loans. That is a HUGE advantage that most kids don’t get.
But the downside to having everything handed to you…is that you don’t learn to appreciate your opportunities and work hard for them. I’m sure you don’t intend to be supported by your mom forever. At some point, you really need to learn the value of a dollar by working and being accountable for yourself.
And you seem so relieved to be away from school, it makes the reader wonder how invested you are in your future.
MOST kids are doing more to improve their odds of getting gainfully employed after they get their degrees. They’re volunteering and doing internships and working in their future industries in support positions. They’re getting the work history and experiences that employers want.
This said…
I really DO want to be sensitive that that piece of information you mentioned later down the thread…that your dad died. If your family is still adapting to his loss…I don’t begrudge you taking a summer off at all. Sometimes grief is a full time job. Sometimes picking up the pieces and surviving a loss like that…necessitates down time.
@wizman631 Well its not too late to learn something new. The last time I didn’t have a summer job I learned how to program in C++. There always a way to make the most out of your summer.