Support Group for Rejects(:( How are you coping?

<p>So now that the 4 year wait is finally over, rejects what are your thoughts? Angry :mad:, confused :confused:, surprised beyond reasoning :eek:, depressed :(, embarrassed :o, or indifferent :cool:. After 7 straight rejections, I was still at school but became an emotional wreck once I came home. All of the usual thoughts popped up: Why wasn't I good enough??!!, Why did less- qualified people get in??!!, What did I do wrong??!!, I deserved it, after 4 years of working my butt off!!, What is the meaning of life??!! After a full 12 hours of contemplation ( and 12 boxes of tissues later), I've become completely indifferent and accepting of the decisions. I wrote this in another thread when I was rejected by Stanford but it still holds true: "In the end I'll be at CAL next year and I'll just keep remembering ā€œThere are no failures - just experiences and your reactions to them.ā€ I'll be successful one day, and it will be because I learned from this rejection and I'm going to be even more determined and stronger from it." </p>

<p>Once again, it doesn't matter about which college you attend, but what you do during college. Everyone on CC, is an intelligent and motivated student who can make their college experience the best! And don't dwell on the fact that " you weren't good enough",but that in retrospect you can be one of these people
When</a> Success Follows the College Rejection Letter - WSJ.com</p>

<p>Anyways, this is just a thread for rejects to rant or vent, and ultimately make the healing process faster. How are you guys feeling after the rejection? How are you guys coping? Oh! And share your rejection letter if you want, some are incredibly insincere and others just made my heart melt!!</p>

<p>MIT, Harvard, and Yale had nice rejection letters. Im usually extremely optimistic, but I canā€™t help but feeling mediocre : /</p>

<p>Easter is kinda ruined. We had plans to visit son at his college. We didnā€™t think that college would reject his younger brother yesterday but it happened. Younger brother isnā€™t in mood to spend weekend at a college that rejected him. Weā€™ll have to find a plan B here quickly.</p>

<p>ā€œEaster is kinda ruined. We had plans to visit son at his college. We didnā€™t think that college would reject his younger brother yesterday but it happened. Younger brother isnā€™t in mood to spend weekend at a college that rejected him. Weā€™ll have to find a plan B here quickly.ā€</p>

<p>Tell him to suck it up and be there for his brother (not that harshly). A rejection shouldnā€™t result in the changing of family plans if it inconveniences everyone. Iā€™m sure your son is a great and upstanding young lad; his self esteem should not be affected by some college rejection.</p>

<p>Tothesky</p>

<p>In general, you are correct. The problem is with the timing. There is so little time between rejection and visit. Once he decides on HIS college, this will all be quickly forgotten.</p>

<p>sigh im honestly very bummed :[[ and especially this year cause students who got rejected this yearā€¦probbaly would have made it with ease a few years ago, which is so fustrating because of this recession admissions are so much harder. :[[ i honestly think itā€™s unfair but i guess whatā€™s done is done</p>

<p>i have no reason to live now</p>

<p>I was quite shocked to be rejected by all the UC schools
I thought I would at least get into UCSD, UCI, UBSB, and UCR.
But oh well
Everyone at the bottom of the hill should be optimistic right now!</p>

<p>My son was rejected at Carnegie mellon and UPenn.
I understand why you would not visit brother for Easter. I do not think we will ever again visit the state of Penn.</p>

<p>Collegestress, you do know that Stanfordā€™s admit rate was 7.2% for fall 2010, right? Those are incredibly slim odds. Yet you got into Calā€“another very difficult school to get into these days. You have reason to celebrate! Many, many people did not get into Cal and would love to be in your shoes. Your hard work did pay off and even if it was not your #1 choice, you still have that major achievement.</p>

<p>I was depressed. Now, I just have a chip on my shoulder and am rather determined to work harder. Anyways, Iā€™ll be saving a lot of money by going to Pitt or BU so itā€™s all good.</p>

<p>Suck it up! You arenā€™t guaranteed success in life if you attend a prestigious university. Life isnā€™t about getting into HYPSM. Millions of people who attended schools that are not top 20 ranked are living happily while making sizable salaries.
Donā€™t take your safety schools for granted!</p>

<p>I got rejected/waitlisted by the Iviesā€¦</p>

<p>Time for state flagship school! At least itā€™s considered a ā€œpublic ivyā€ lol.</p>

<p>^ Thatā€™s what I am talking about! Maybe youā€™ll end up more successful than Cornell/Wharton graduates.</p>

<p>This is what Iā€™ll be doing: </p>

<p>[Hikikomori</a> - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia](<a href=ā€œhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori]Hikikomoriā€>Hikikomori - Wikipedia)</p>

<p>also,</p>

<p><a href=ā€œhttp://www.nytimes.com/2006/01/15/magazine/15japanese.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1[/url]ā€>http://www.nytimes.com/2006/01/15/magazine/15japanese.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>I got waitlisted at UPenn. Iā€™m so sad, but I did get accepted at UChicago, so I guess itā€™s alright.</p>

<p>@Invisibleman023, I remember you were the OP who wasnā€™t going to open his MIT decision until the thread got 10,000 viewsā€¦ I guessed you already checked. That hikikomori is EXTREMEEEEEEE 15 years locking yourself in a room. I would get bored after just a few hours, no one could I sustain living in my room and surfing the internet for that long!!Iā€™m trying to bounce back after 1 day of rejections, so hopefully I donā€™t start dwelling on it. Thereā€™s just so much more in the world than a college acceptance to a school that has such an incredibly low admit rate.</p>

<p>^Where are you going to end up at Collegestress? Your OP implied Berkeley but I couldnā€™t tell for sure.</p>

<p>Threads to cheer you up (if by any chance you havenā€™t read them already):</p>

<p><a href=ā€œhttp://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-essays/796998-funniest-college-essays-ease-tension.html[/url]ā€>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-essays/796998-funniest-college-essays-ease-tension.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p><a href=ā€œhttp://talk.collegeconfidential.com/what-my-chances/470497-clam-fart-oh-my-god-what-did-i-do.html[/url]ā€>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/what-my-chances/470497-clam-fart-oh-my-god-what-did-i-do.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>Rejected from 5, waitlisted at 3, accepted at my safety. One of my best friends is a fairly well-off party girl with mostly C-grades who got into her top school with a 40K per year scholarship. I got 4,000 at an out of state state school and was rejected from my top choice where I visited twice, interviewed, and stayed overnight for a whole weekend. </p>

<p>I feel like all my work over the past 4 years has been for nothing. I could have just slacked off like her and partied. I skipped so many social opportunities thinking it would help me get into college and it didnā€™t. I couldnā€™t afford an SAT tutor so I spent months self-teaching myself out of the SAT workbooks. I spent $80 taking the SAT threeee times.
For nothing. </p>

<p>So yeah it really really sucks.</p>