<p>Hi, im a sophomore hoping to get into ivy league/other top schools. Last year, i was suspended for three days because of a miscommunication with my ex gf. I had a 4.4 weighted gpa last year and ill probably get a 2200+(hopefully 2300+). Im definitely top 10% academically in my school, and probably will end up being top 10 (grade has over 600 kids). I know its too early to be freaking out about college applications, but im just wondering how much this suspension will decrease my chances at ivy league schools. Would there be a possibility that the suspension wont go on my record? Haha im seriously freaking out so please help me!</p>
<p>It will decrease your chances at every school you apply to. The Ivy schools get enough applicants to reject you on this basis and accept someone with similar stats who has a clean record. Sorry, but this is the fact of the matter.</p>
<p>obviously, but i was wondering how much of a decrease this would cause. (thanks for the reply btw)</p>
<p>I didn’t know they suspended kids for miscommunicating with their ex gf. Were you miscommunicating in braille?</p>
<p>You should address the issue on your application. I think it might be difficult for you to prove to the schools you regret your action or have learned from it. That would be your only chance, but they will always read it with a filter that you are not sincere. In your case, I would suspect that to be true.</p>
<p>@ClassicRockerDad - thanks for the laugh :-)</p>
<p>lmao no basically my ex gf had begged me for months to get back together with her and in a moment of passion i tried to kiss her even though she said no (i know this was wrong) About 5 min after this incident she asked for a kiss and then i was like *** no. then she reported me. Also the vp of my grade said no communication was allowed between us after the incident but she tried to talk to me 4 times including writing me a poem… also this was my first disciplinary punishment through out all of my years in school and this was my first gf. Does either of these lessen the severity of the issue? If i say that this is what happened and that this was my first gf and i look positively on this incident and extol the benefits it has given me such as making sure that my future relationships have better communication and that i control my sexual desires in the future, would i have a shot at nyu or chicago? also do you think theres a reasonable chance the school will remove this from my record if i have a clean record from then on? thanks for the replies :)</p>
<p>Well, if you can describe it without it sounding so sordid… And leave out about controlling your sexual desires - you sound like a potential rapist, for goodness sakes. Was this really only about a kiss? </p>
<p>You need to talk to your school about what it says on your transcript and what the counselor is willing to say on your application.</p>
<p>i was being sarcastic lol… but yea i think it was blown out of proportion. I agree that its about the incident itself, but i also feel that more weight should have been given to the fact that moments after, she agreed to kiss me! haha but if it was freshman year and i somehow convince my counselor that it wasnt representative of my behavior or personality and she writes this to colleges, would it still greatly diminish my prospects for an ivy league school? i dont really have many stand out characteristics as of yet, which would make these schools a reach to begin with.</p>
<p>I don’t know… It seems that ivies, are quite a reach as you know. Don’t focus on the reaches, apply for the heck, but focus on finding a good match.</p>
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<p>Sorry, I’m not there yet. Help me out. A 3 day suspension is more serious than detention, a 1 day suspension or a 2 day suspension. If it’s on your record as some kind of sexual misconduct, or some kind of violence, there is no way that it doesn’t raise red flags. Why would the most selective schools in the nation risk admitting someone with that on their record unless you’re a Kennedy or a Bush. Not that you would do this, but consider it from the school’s point of view, imagine the backlash if you assaulted someone in college and it comes out that they knew that you had done something like that before. Why would they take that chance? What’s in it for them. It’s too easy just to reject you. </p>
<p>What you describe sounds too juvenile to warrant such a serious punishment. It actually sounds kind of cute, like puppy love, which is why it doesn’t add up. What did she actually say that you did when she reported you? Was it actually true? Why did she make such a damaging claim after she wanted to kiss you? It just doesn’t add up. This is a girl that was your girlfriend and liked you 5 minutes after you tried to kiss her and then she makes a report that could potentially mess you up pretty seriously. Did she say that you overpowered her using physical force to force her to kiss you? Did you? Was it just playful? Was she playing along too? It just has to be more serious than what you describe. If it is, I would discuss options with your GC and maybe your principal, but be very contrite. </p>
<p>If it really isn’t more serious than you describe, then you need to revisit the issue maybe with your parents involved, maybe with the girl and her parents also. If I were her and had any kind of conscience, I wouldn’t want to ruin someone’s life who was making a playful and flirtatious attempt at kissing me. I don’t think your life is ruined at all by the way. If you’re as talented as you say, you will certainly rise above this, but see if you can get the severity of the report reduced.</p>
<p>Haha, you stoopid. You gotta find out what the policy is at your school system. In NYC, only your second and more Superintendent Suspensions are printed onto your permanent record. Principal Suspensions (In-Schools) aren’t, and are seen as detentions - meaning you don’t need to say you got suspended when sending your information to colleges. Talk to your school faculty and get it ironed out.</p>
<p>This is such an odd story.</p>
<p>FOR WHAT reason could your GF “report you”? Because you wouldn’t give her a kiss?</p>
<p>What EXACTLY were you suspended for? Did your GF only tell the part about the “kiss attempt”???</p>
<p>Also…have your parents request to see what’s written on your record. IF it truly was some weird BF/GF deal, perhaps the school didn’t record it.</p>
<p>no she reported me for kissing her while she said no. She said overpowered but she said a whole lot of other crap too. Technically this is a sexual assault and i agree that it was wrong. However, i feel that in light of the scenario, this was kind of overdoing it. I tried to explain this to the vp but he simply stated that rules are rules and what i did was still technically sexual assault. However they classified it as assault rather than sexual assault and for the reason it says “held her and kissed her two times” or something. It was 3 days out of school. The reason she reported was because she was mad at me for flipping out on her the next day. Now i think that shes sorry that she put me in all this trouble but idk for sure because i stopped talking to her. But this is not about why i got the suspension lol i just want to know to what degree my chances will be diminished. Obviously it will and you guys probably dont know to what degree, but im just looking for a guess haha. Like if i got in without this, would having it make the college reject me just on the basis that there are plenty more kids with untainted records?</p>
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<p>Your chances at top-25 schools aren’t looking so good buddy. And that’s an understatement.</p>
<p>to a minor degree and thats an overstatement.</p>
<p>Why didn’t you fight this?</p>
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<p>Well, that’s exactly my concern, and you’re right, I have no idea, it’s just a guess. If your account is accurate, it really seems kind of harsh. If it’s any consolation, there was a study showing that future income is more correlated with the highest ranking of a school that rejected you than it is with the school that you actually go to. :-)</p>
<p>How do your other stats look?
If their good then… perhaps
if their average then… you are in trouble :</p>
<p>I would transfer to another school. If it were possible for you to be home-schooled that’s another option.</p>
<p>Also, I would find out what exactly is on my record.</p>
<p>You have to send in all your transcripts when you apply. If you homeschooled for a couple of years, you would still need to send in the transcript from this time.</p>