<p>I'm going to be frank about my feelings here, so if you're inclined to be unkind, please just skip this post and move along.</p>
<p>Bill,</p>
<p>This board was helpful to me when my son (and subsequently "I") was going through the admissions process. I used it much more than he did, because he is self assured and confident and didn't need all the questions answered that I did. I had to check EVERY source of information about the academy that is available. </p>
<p>It was pretty exciting when he got in because it seemed like the opportunity of a lifetime.
Now he's there, and he loves it. He had some minor academic struggles the first semester, but he's got it figured out and is doing great. There was an Army/Navy related prank that he took some flack for, but he took his punishment without complaint and got on with things. There are so many aspects of Academy life that excite him, and I can't imagine there would have been a better environment for him anywhere -- it's just a terrific match for his personality and abilities.</p>
<p>I raised this boy alone from birth. For years it was "me and him against the world". We were so involved in the admissions process for so long that I forgot to think about the reality of him going away and when I dropped him off at the Yard last July, there was a shockingly abrupt ending to my parenting.</p>
<p>There is great comfort in knowing that he is in the right place for him. And if I do say so myself, I have done an exemplary job of letting him go, turning him over to the Academy to become the best man he can be. He's very good about keeping in touch and sharing with me what he can. And I never, ever make him feel bad about going on to the next stage of his life without me.</p>
<p>Some days I think about him a lot and try to imagine what his life is like now. And I get on my computer and look for ways to be connected to him or ways of better understanding his environment. And I end up at this board, because there are people here who have gone before us and lived our story.</p>
<p>And sometimes I try to share some little detail of his life now, because it makes me, in some small way, connected to it. And somehow it always gets turned into a negative. So I learn, once again, that this is not a place to go for support or to assuage my feelings of loss that are so mixed with my feelings of hope and pride in my son.</p>
<p>So I go away for a few months. And then I have a morning like today when I miss him a lot, and I come back and see all the hopeful kids trying to get in there where my son is so very lucky to be. And I think it will be different this time. And it never is...I guess because people's need to be perceived as strong or masterful or superior is stronger than their need to be a sane, giving member of a community.</p>
<p>I just think it's sad that all the smart people here are not committed to making this board a healthy place that reflects well on the Academy.</p>
<p>Off topic, or what?!</p>