So I have recently started living in a dorm at NYU. I am not a freshman, but have been commuting for the past few years, so this is my first experience living away from home with other students. My current roommate is fine, but we aren’t exactly clicking. Her mom is also staying here-- in our room.
I recently found out that my roommates good friend is in a suite with two of my other good friends. I came up with the idea to switch dorms-- that way I’d be with my friends and she would be with hers. How do I go about asking her to switch dorms? I don’t want to be rude or put pressure on her. At the same time, I am finding myself rather depressed and feel that surrounding myself with people who actually care about me would be much better for my mental health.
What do I do?
Hey! In a few weeks, the option “bed-for-bed exchange” will open in your housing portal, where you can essentially put your room up for grabs and find people to swap with. If you already know who you want to switch with, it should be easy!
In regards to asking her, I would just sit down and tell her you’d feel more comfortable with your friends. Make sure she doesn’t feel blamed or like she’s chasing you out. If you’re extra worried you could talk to your RA first for advice, and if you really think it won’t go over well, you could maybe ask if they can be a mediator for you.
Her mom is sharing a room with you???