Hi so I have been at college for around a month and haven’t made any friends. My floor is all girls and very anti-social. I also was assigned a random roommate so I am very lonely. I was thinking about transferring to another building that is much larger and has lounges(unlike my current one) on each floor in order to meet new people and hopefully find friends. Is this a good desicion I get along fine with my random roommate right now but we aren’t close. Should I risk going with another random roommate that could turn out to be worse?
Why not? Could you meet your New roommate ahead to time?
Change your behavior, not your room. Join a club, seek out new experiences, talk to people in your classes. Maybe try to get to know your roommate a little better.
I would try to get a new room. Sometimes things just don’t work out, and the first few months can be very important social-wise. In addition, I would also try to meet new people in clubs and classes, but it’s nice to have a good dorm feel as well. I think your being lonely should be addressed, and good for you for thinking of other options.
No, I wouldn’t try to transfer dorms just to make friends. There are soooooo many ways to make friends in college that has nothing to do with your floor or dorm. You don’t have to be friends with your roommate.
Like other said - join clubs, go to social activities, maybe go to events in other dorms (they’re rarely limited to that hall’s residents).
A hundred years ago (if my memories are worth anything), I was assigned to an all upperclassmen floor as a freshmen and a random roommate. It was tough in the beginning because the older girls on our floor already had their friends and lives carved out at college. The roommate and I didn’t have much in common although we were able to be respectful to one another in the room making it functional and she was also a freshman. Second semester we were able to move to an all freshman floor and it made such a difference. We moved together even though we weren’t besties. To this day I am still friends with the random roommate (we ended up staying together sophomore year too) and many of the freshman where we moved to. I say go for it - what do you have to lose?
Yeah I have just recently joined a sorority and am still meeting people in my class so I just figured why not give a different possibly more social floor a chance too
A lot of people have roommates who are good roommates but not are necessarily friends with them. Do not overlook this gift you have been given. Rooming with someone you can’t stand will spill over into every part of your sanity. There is no guarantee that a switch (if you are even allowed to do that “just because” - vs. having a legitimate problem) will yield you a person you can tolerate, let alone a new bestie. Stay where you are and work on those other social spigots: sorority, clubs, classes. Drag one of those people to help you infiltrate lounges on different floors in your building if you aren’t comfortable enough to do it yourself.