<p>So, I'm basically an idiot. I thought an important part of the college experience was having a good social life, so I chose NW because of its "social" reputation. Of course, I didn't know until I arrived on campus that my floor is one of the craziest of them all and none of them have had a sober night since they arrived early between Sunday-Tuesday.</p>
<p>I'm not a huge partier, but I DO like people, and I do enjoy spending good quality time with them. If that involves partying on occasion, say a couple of times a month on the weekends, then fine. But I'm not interested in coming back to my dorm at 3 AM wasted every weekend, and that's what my floor is all about. Obviously it's not going to be like this once classes start (or is it), but I don't know i I can deal with this for an entire school year.</p>
<p>I know there are many people who are dying to get into NW, so I was considering switching to Central or even Southeast at this point. I think a dorm with a less social atmosphere (even though I do realize partying occurs in all 3 neighborhoods) will be a better fit for me.</p>
<p>I don't know if it's all worth the hassle of switching rooms, though. I'm terrified that I will not be able to make good friendships in my dorm because I am not like these people. I'm very scared that I'm going to go through this year with no good friends even though I fully plan on getting involved in campus. It's making me sick to my stomach so yeah, I was just wondering if anyone else thinks switching is a good idea... or whether I should just stick it out. That thought is slightly terrifying, though.</p>
<p>Hi, here’s what I’d tell my D if she found herself in your situation:
-talk to your RA, express your concerns about the late-night rowdiness and see what the rules will be like and if they will be enforced when school begins. I know people in college drink, etc–but that sounds out of control and not cool. You are paying to live there, too. If your RA is not sympathic, or you are afraid they will not keep your concerns in confidence (ie, if you’re worried people will find out and get mad at you for complaining), I would try talking to someone higher up in RPS.
-get the info/forms/whatever for switching (I think you have to wait a week or something before filing any forms)
-make the best of your time there; maybe you’ll find some others who feel as you do, etc; maybe the crazy partiers will calm down a little & things will sort out. If things get better before time to file the change form, then you can always stay put.</p>
<p>If you still feel like it is just a bad fit for you when the time comes to file your form, do it!</p>
<p>PS my D switched from Central to Southeast right before move-in when a spot in the Honors LLC opened. So far she loves it. People are fun and social and (so far as I know) not getting drunk and obnoxious. I’d venture to say my D is like you, she of course wants to have fun and party sometimes, but she also likes/needs sleep and quieter time now and then!</p>
<p>You WILL make friends, even if they don’t wind up being your current neighbors. I’m glad you are getting involved–follow through on that, go to some activities/find some clubs etc that interest you. </p>
<p>Go to Culturefest, Taste of the Union, etc. and look for others who are alone or groups that look friendly; introduce yourself, etc. there are tons of people wondering the same thing you are “when will I find people I connect with?”…I bet a lot of the party-people are those who knew each other before and/or moved in early specifically to party. There are lots of people who are not like that. It’s a big place and you’ll find your niche soon.</p>
<p>Same boat here. I’m in Foster and I HATE it so far. People were ****ing all over the hallways last night and everyone got back from the villas at the same time and it was madness. I’ve been hanging out in Wright with some actual ** normal ** people because it’s fricken Animal House up here in NW.</p>
<p>It’s probably gonna tone down after sunday though. I’m gonna stick it out though, you should too.</p>
<p>My S is considering changing dorms and he has learned that the applications are available on Sept 7. Although it’s hard to wait til then because you want to start bonding with your roommate/floormates, it also makes sense because it give you a full week of academic life to see what your situation will actually be like. </p>
<p>I also would recommend you have a conversation with your RA about your concerns. These are valid points and you should feel comfortable voicing them. It’s your first opportunity at learning about advocating for yourself at the university. And it’s good to start on that foot because there will most likely be lots of occasions that you’ll need to do the same.</p>
<p>Good luck. Don’t let this situation get you down. You can solve the problem!</p>
<p>Thanks everyone. I guess for now I’ll just stick it out. I’m establishing better relationships with the people on my floor, although it’s definitely not best friend status or anything (and I’m not sure that I want it to be). Adjusting to life at IU is getting easier, though, and I try to spend as little time as possible in my room anyway.</p>