<p>I promised my teacher I would TA for him second semester for AP Biology, and we are good friends. However, I met my girlfriend in PE class for senior year. The original plan was for me to drop PE after first semester since I finished the credit needed, and then TA second semester. But now I kind of want to just stay in PE for the rest of the year to hang out with my girlfriend, since that's the only class we have together... and plus I'll be leaving next year. Any advice?</p>
<p>oh yeah and I just met her at the beginning of this year.</p>
<p>Love is important. So is your future. </p>
<p>You can see your gf any time outside of class. Being a TA is good for your resume. And getting this teachers recommendation is also highly desirable.</p>
<p>but by then he wont’ even write my recommendation, since its second semester…</p>
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<p>There’s your answer. Your gf will respect you more if you keep your word. </p>
<p>You can see her after school and on weekends. That’s more fun, anyway.</p>
<p>Girls like guys who do their own thing. If she gets upset over this than ehh</p>
<p>so she won’t feel bad if i leave?</p>
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<p>I would generally say this would end the discussion, but if the Prof is really a friend he may be OK with you reneging – discuss it with him and make sure he’s REALLY Ok with you backing out (at least it’s early in the semester and not January 4th). </p>
<p>GF for less than a month, it’s September, and January is a long way away and lots of early 20 somethings drama happens in 3+ months including 2 or 3 holidays.</p>
<p>If you are set for whatever you are doing next year, your grades are legitimate for graduation, and you have no need for an extra check mark then as a last semester senior you get a bit of a pass. Stop and smell the flowers for the last time as a pseudo-adult – whether it be grad school, prof school, or job it will never quite be the same again.</p>
<p>In every relationship my D has had, she has never let the relationship interfere with her academic and career goals. She still pursues those and fits the relationship around that. </p>
<p>In my view, you should be a TA as it would benefit you, and you also promised the teacher. I don’t think the being in gym class with GF should override that plan. </p>
<p>Actually I don’t see your dilemma as “TA vs girlfriend.” It is not an either/or proposition. You can have BOTH. Be a TA and see your GF at other times (and in ways that you can socialize unlike in class).</p>
<p>Not if you explain that you have an obligation to the teacher.<br>
Doing what you say you will do is a good habit to get into. ;)</p>
<p>I don’t know, but when I young and had bfs I thought it was a lot more fun to go out on Friday night than to hang out in class with them. What about lunch? You could study after school in the library. You can walk (drive?) her home. What’s wrong with dating?</p>
<p>I am actually interning after school, and my stats are pretty strong, and i have no doubt i will get into a good college. so duncanidaho, should I relax during my senior year, and stay with my gf?</p>
<p>oh yeah, aobu the whole afterschool thing, my parents don’t like it hwen i hang out with girls. They see me more as the kid who wrote code for stanford and is taking differential equations and modern physics right now… :(</p>
<p>duncan- I think the op is in high school.</p>
<p>Daniel- not on school days, but weekends. Trust me. Your mom will be fine with you taking a girl to the movies on a weekend. You’re nearly 18, right? And study dates at your house or hers on a weekday? I know a few girls (with strict parents) who would have their boyfriends over to “study.” Maybe an hour of study, and then snacks, an internet tv show and some talking.<br>
It seems like you need to take a risk or two and be creative. But keep your word to your teacher.</p>
<p>It seems you will need to plan some away from school dates with this girl, in any case. Just hanging out in PE does not make for a great bf/gf relationship.</p>
<p>oh yeah my bad, i am in high school, if i didn’t make that clear before. senior year, but shes not a senior…</p>
<p>yeah, im almost 18. but i really dunno about my parents, ive never talked to them about this before.</p>
<p>so now its more like, stick with the TA plan, but relax during senior yr second semester and hang out with her more. oh and i was wondering, how often to people stay together with the high school college gap?</p>
<p>It all depends on the two people. Try to just enjoy your new relationship now, get to know this girl and don’t get too caught up worrying about next year. Good heavens, you haven’t even talked to your parents about taking her out yet! Don’t get ahead of yourself- it could ruin the present for you.</p>
<p>lol haha,
wait so should i talk to my parents aobut it now?</p>
<p>Your promise ought to be binding, in my opinion, whether or not it has any effect on the letters of recommendation your teacher might write. Also, TAing for biology sounds fairly interesting in its own right. Figure out some way to hang out with your GF outside of PE class–which can’t be ideal at any rate.</p>
<p>Why not? It will probably be more relaxing to know that your parents know you like this girl- but reassure them that your studies will not suffer. I think they’ll appreciate the honesty.<br>
Decide what you want to do first–take her to a movie, get something to eat, whatever. Then you can talk to them and see what they say. Good luck!</p>