<p>I know this is a weird question/situation but it's come up a lot throughout my freshman year. I care a lot about what people think of me, so when someone has a bad day or is rude to me for some reason, I take it really personally. I revisit the situation in my head over and over until I forget about it (which can sometimes take days) but then I can never really view the person the same again, because I remember how they treated me in one moment of one particular day.</p>
<p>I know this is COMPLETELY irrational and believe me--I would love nothing more than to just let it go and move on. Usually they apologize or I found out I misunderstood the context (I've never had someone be outright disrespectful for no reason whatsoever) but even though there's usually a logical explanation, I still [illogically] dwell on the incident for way too long.</p>
<p>This is particularly accentuated in college where a) people are really stressed out a lot of the time, and b) not everyone knows me well enough to know that my intentions are always good.</p>
<p>Does anyone else have this same situation? or any suggestions? Thanks.</p>
<p>I understand your situation as I also never had anyone be outright rude to me, I think. Also if you tend to take something personally well it’s okay but if someone is having a bad day you should take that into consideration for their actions, if such behavior continues simply disconnect from them and not began to repeatedly think of what happen as it’s unhealthy and why should you be worrying if you did nothing wrong.</p>
<p>If they apologize or you find out that you misunderstood the context then again do not linger but if this is something that happens often or you just met the person then remember that you will not make friends with everyone.</p>
<p>Get a job as a server at a restaurant. I used to be terrified of people and talking to strangers, so not only has it made my social skills skyrocket, but I learned to develop thick skin very quickly. I dealt with many customers who would complain about the most inane things and take their anger out on me, and it taught me how to tactfully deal with them without taking it personally.</p>
<p>I’m a sensitive person and used to be the exact same way. People who cope an attitude with you when you didn’t do anything wrong are those you probably don’t want to be surrounding yourself with anyway, and it is in no way reflective of how they feel about you as a person or what they think of you. It’ll take time and practice to mentally let go, but eventually you’ll learn that it’s THEM just having a bad time; don’t let that rub off on you.</p>