<p>Ds's grades are in and they are "ok". He's coming from a small rural school background where he never had to work hard at all. He's now at a highly competitive university in an urban setting. I do believe he worked hard this semester, but I know his organizational skills are not his strength and I also think he probably underestimated the work load and got behind the eight ball at the beginning...........all part of the learning curve of going off and learning to be an adult, get yourself to class, get up when the alarm goes off, making new friends, his roommate's extreme night-owl habits, discovering beer :rolleyes: , etc, etc etc.</p>
<p>I think coming from his rural background (he says he has a real sense of being "behind" everyone else coming from high powered public\private high schools) and with the organizational skills I'm sure he had to develop this semester, he has shown he can at least "tread water" with the big dogs. My question is this:</p>
<p>How could he have underestimated his grades so much for the semester???? :confused: He came home telling us the grades he thought he made. His average is almost one grade point lower than he thought and one of the grades was a BIG surprise. He thought he was in A/B range and it was C+. I know this university grades on the curve. I know he's working hard and I'd put a C+ earned at his school up against a B+/A earned at our nearby public university. I know he doesn't go to each and every class...........I don't remember the terms, but there are the huge lecture classes and then the smaller study groups where they get the materials again and he goes to the smaller groups all of the time and not always to the huge lecture classes. When I suggest he go to each and every class he rolls his eyes and sighs because I obviously don't know what I am talking about. :rolleyes: Well, I figure there might be some grading feedback (on the curve) info coming out he doesn't know about if he's not there. I suggested he go talk to the professor why he got this grade and got the same response. He's NEVER been one to chat up teachers (kinda shy).</p>
<p>When I think of where he was at 4 years ago (suffering from chronic illness, which is now gone, thank God) and where he is now, I am thankful beyond words. He always seems to use up more of my mom "worry" quotient and emotional energy..........maybe because he's the oldest. I just worry about him being able to kick it up another notch and the courses are just going to get harder. He's learning a lot, but I can't shake the visions of him not being able to get into graduate school, etc, if he can't pull the grades. Not everyone can make straight A's in college. I didn't. I had my epiphany when I flunked a tax accounting test. Then I kicked butt and earned an A in the course and treated my studies much more seriously from then on (last 2 years of college).</p>
<p>I know he has to do all this himself and I will give him the "mom talk" before he heads back. I just need a place to vent. </p>
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