<p>Okay, ever since like elementary school, teachers have never really liked me even when I try to suck up and act nice in class (which I usually don't). If I ask a lot of questions, I come off as annoying. If I don't ask many questions and just sit and listen, I come off as lazy and too uptight. Whenever I want to participate in a class discussion, I come off as argumentative. My teacher mentioned some document in my history class and I asked if it was a book and she then proceeded to tell my class and the next that I was not smart. This is a common pattern and I am really worried about what will happen when I have to ask for recommendations next year. I definitely have above average intelligence and I do most of my homework and get pretty good grades yet slackers who come to school high are liked better by teachers than I am. How do I get teachers to like me?</p>
<p>best thread title ever. i dunno, you seem pretty likeable in the post.</p>
<p>I don’t think anyone here can answer that since we wouldn’t know well enough to give you a conclusive reason. Have you ever thought of asking one of the teachers that you think doesn’t like you how you could improve yourself in their class?</p>
<p>I was thinking that, but I fear I’d come off really annoying and whiny if I did that.</p>
<p>If you’re sincere about it, then it shouldn’t come off as annoying. Otherwise, the teacher probably is not the greatest teacher there is.</p>
<p>i totally agree…you have to seem truly interested in the class (even if you hate it).
also, it only takes one teacher, so find the one you click best with and work your hardest to get on his/her good side and do really well in that class.</p>
<p>Rather than sucking up and acting nice, I’d suggest trying to be sincerely interested and nice in class. Most adults respond really well to sincerity.</p>
<p>Take a few acting classes - its about how you’re projecting and carrying yourself. </p>
<p>Also, the problem with people who think they are above average intelligence is that they dont want to watch and learn from the people right in front of them who ARE liked by the teachers. Watch and learn - even if the person in front of you is ‘dumber’. See what they are doing and think along that train of thought.</p>
<p>Also, teachers talk - you need all teachers to have at least a neutral opinion of you, because teacher A does talk to teacher B, and that may reach teacher Q, who is writing your rec. So dont think “oh, I’ll work on one or two teachers, who cares what the rest think” because that will come around to bite you.</p>
<p>Sorry, if I came off as cocky by saying I was of above average intelligence. All I was trying to say is that I’m not a complete moron and I have the capacity to understand what’s going on in class and apply it to other concepts or situations.</p>
<p>I have no problem with cockiness - just saying that if people who have a lesser understanding of what is going on in class and concepts are finding a way to be liked by the teacher… then you’ve got to find out what that way is. Maybe ask your friend in the same class?</p>
<p>gotcha, ill give it a try</p>
<p>Okay, ever since like elementary school, teachers have never really liked me even when I try to suck up and act nice in class (which I usually don’t). If I ask a lot of questions, I come off as annoying. If I don’t ask many questions and just sit and listen, I come off as lazy and too uptight. Whenever I want to participate in a class discussion, I come off as argumentative. My teacher mentioned some document in my history class and I asked if it was a book and she then proceeded to tell my class and the next that I was not smart. This is a common pattern and I am really worried about what will happen when I have to ask for recommendations next year. I definitely have above average intelligence and I do most of my homework and get pretty good grades yet slackers who come to school high are liked better by teachers than I am. How do I get teachers to like me?</p>
<p>lol!</p>
<p>there isn’t a thread like this on HSL :D</p>
<p>^haha, yeah sometimes I double post things to get more responses</p>
<p>Sometimes kids get reputations as you describe. However… absolutely no teacher has the right to discuss your intelligence to other students… kidding around or not. That’s pretty smarmy if you ask me. So…</p>
<p>There has to be at least one teacher you have built some kind of positive relationship with. And if not, which I am really sorry to hear, I would go to the counselor’s office -=- not college, but health wise and sometimes that falls to Assis principals and/or Deans depending on your school’s system. Tell him/her flat out that perhaps some has been deserved in the past, but this is really starting to affect how you feel and it’s getting harder to ignore. Be sincere because if a kid expresses the need for some support … well, they really should step up to the plate.</p>